WWYD - influencer suddenly stopped posting

[Dotty1111]

Not really an AIBU but concerned an influencer with 50k followers on insta, an ebook etc hasn't posted since January. Aware there could be lots of reasons but clearly this was a business for them and its just stopped abruptly.

I've sent a message that hasn't been responded to. They do have an email address which looks like a personal address listed but don't want to hound them. Regularly think about them and wonder if they are OK!!!

WWYD?

Your concern about this is weird.

You probably missed a story saying their New Year's resolution was a social media break.

Being on social media so much can have a real negative impact. She's probably just knackered.

I think people have been harsh! There have been a few people over the years who have suddenly stopped posting - a mum in a parenting forum I used to frequent, a poster on insta who talked openly about her mental health issues - who I still wonder about. But that’s internet life, nothing to be done about it.

‘Believes in’?! They are not fictional. People make real money from online accounts that lots of people follow. They are called influencers. Just because you don’t like it doesn’t make it not exist. Nothing wrong with following someone for some style/cooking/interior decorating tips etc etc. This is the way the world works now- embrace it or whinge about the good old days. It will happen either way.

OP, to answer your question I don’t think there is anything you can do really. She could be taking a break for any reason.

Think the OP has got the message now, you can stop falling over yourselves to laugh at her.

It's interesting though. It shows how influencers make their £££ by creating this false sense of intimacy between them them and their viewers/fans. Maybe she felt it was too much of a grind trying to make a living from only 50K followers. In the influencer world that's pretty small fry.

Do you think you have a tendency to blur the lines between strangers and friends when it comes to people on social media? You watch these people and you might start thinking you actually have a relationship with them, which of course you don't. Is this a possibility?

MY friend is an influencer and hasn't posted since December - until yesterday when she announced a new venture. She is probably focusing her efforts somewhere else right now. People get jaded with the whole Instagram thing - especially when they get hounded by randos every day, she might just want a break.

This is exactly the same as a recent op

Maybe she has got a proper job in the real world !

I wouldn't do anything, because I don't actually know them and wouldn't want to be weird. Why she doesn't post is none of your business really

One of my DC had 100k followers on one of these social media sites and stopped doing it about a year ago because they got fed up with it and deleted all social media. It's nobody else's business why someone stops putting crap on the internet.

I think you need to get out more/get a life

Get a life.

The disappear/reappear trick eh.
I used to follow a home account that kept pulling this trick. Got boring fast.

The word influencer makes me want to chuck.

I'd do absolutely nothing and move on

It sounds like you are rather too invested in this person and have blurred the lines. They are a random person on the internet. You don't know them and they are not a friend.

This is the oddest thing I’ve read on here for a little while. Why do you regularly think about her? She’s probably decided to focus on real life because ‘influencing’ isn’t a job and doesn’t pay unless you gain serious traction, which she obviously didn’t.

I used to sell stuff on the internet and send out a friendly newsletter every fortnight with stories about my life and updates on my project etc etc.

Then one day I got fed up of how much energy and time my followers were taking yet spending so little. Their idea of a big purchase was a 99p ebook that cost me £300 to publish, and they were always asking for free stuff. So I ditched the lot of them (and that email address) without a word and it felt fantastic.

Perhaps this influencer whose time you found so valuable wasn’t getting anything out of it and has moved on. Did you buy much from them? No? Well you sound like their biggest fan so that’s probably your answer.

Email Rishi, I think an emergency cobra meeting should be called.

Will no one think of the 50k followers.....

Ooh I did last night. Had no idea how much heights bothered me

You need to read Unfollow Me by Charlotte Duckworth

Or maybe you already have 🤔

If it makes you feel better leave her a message in her comments or dms. Then carry on with life. She may have just have found a new interest or decided to go touring with friends.

It's bizarre to me that people think I have a blurred relationship because I've noticed this person abruptly stopped posting.

There's very little point me responding further. Won't be messaging the lady in question. Don't think its fair to name her either.