Birth announcement likes.

[Kelly4871]

My friend just announced the birth of her son and got over 300 comments and likes. I gave birth to my beautiful daughter 8 weeks ago now and we only got about 20 likes and comments kind of makes me think people weren't happy for nobody ever likes anything I post photos of me and our kids upsets me why my friend's get some much love and nice comments but we get nothing

I'm guessing to let people know their child had been born like thousands of others do every day 🙄🙄 always one who has to get a snidey dog in

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It's just the algorithm. The time of day you post, key words in your post all influence how many people see your post.
None of it is real though. It doesn't mean 300 people care about her baby and only 20 people care about yours. It just means more people saw her post.

Get off social media and invite someone round who loves you and wants to get to know your baby. Post Partum is a really tricky time for us and I'd avoid anything that makes you feel a bit shit.

This. I’m so glad my two DC don’t do this social media stuff and I advise students to get off it as well. It’s the source of so
much unhappiness - just get rid of it and focus on your family.

“She got more likes than me”

seriously, grow up.

Are you the same poster who was upset that her partner was watching ASMR videos with women who you think are more attractive than you? If so, you need to talk to your doctor. All these comparisons are not good for you. I can honestly say I've never noticed how many "likes" other people's posts get.

When was the last time you went out to visit someone ‘just because’? If you don’t do this people won’t do it back.

when was the last time you invited someone over? If you don’t invite people over your likelihood of getting a return invite is small.

when was the last time you liked someone’s post just because and no matter how small a thing?

there is truth in reaping what you sow.

it could also be you’ve just got shit friends and need to make some social changes

start with separating your worth from social media.

I think you need to get off social media - none of it matters it’s all fake. I don’t really think people should post lots of photo of their kids until the kids can consent.

Get off social media and stop measuring your self worth in likes.

I came off Facebook a few years ago, you miss it at first but then you don't care.

Forget about the social media - if she's on it loads and has loads of friends on there (and social media friends aren't real friends) then more people will have seen her posts. It doesn't actually mean that more people care about her baby than yours, and certainly doesn't mean her baby is more loved.

What's really going on OP, do you want to talk on here? The baby bit is so bloody hard.

You're 8 weeks post birth? Please see your GP or Health Visitor for a check-up and some counselling. Looking after your own mental health is crucial for your bairn too. It's not healthy to give social media this much power over your wellbeing.

If likes and comments bother you enough to have to post about it you need to delete social media. It's no good for your mental health.

I can understand but if she has a d her partner have 1000 friends and you and your partner have 100 friends on social media then you should get 10 times less comments and likes.

I have thought this before then saw my friend had 800 friends…..it’s impossible to have that many friends it’s most definitely acquaintances.

If you had an emergency with your new baby you should have 1-5 people you can truly count on these are your really friends. Anyone else isn’t a good friend more an acquaintance. Social media is a lie and I can guarantee lots of people don’t even have their phone numbers.

Congratulations on your baby.

Honestly, the best thing to do is delete social media accounts.

Those who get lots of likes spend a long time building it up. They actively go out and interact with other people - so they ‘like’ everyone else’s posts and photos all the time, they’re overly nice and put loads of effort into making sure that everyone they meet thinks they’re a great person, they add everybody they can on social media and comment on their stuff. They also put time and effort into regularly posting things that are witty or cool or funny or relatable, they don’t use social media just to moan about things.

How many people’s posts do you regularly ‘like’? Is it more than 20 each week? Do you often post things that people would enjoy seeing on their newsfeed or are you the type of person that posts ‘Right I think it’s time to have a clear out of my friends list!’ ‘Why does this always happen to me?’ ‘Could this day get any worse’ ‘checked into hospital’ because posts like that put people off interacting with you.

It’s not about who matters more or who has a better life in reality. It’s all just tactics and being as fake as you can be, I honestly wouldn’t bother with it.

I don’t see posts from a really close friend of mine because the algorithm has decided I don’t need to. I only realised when he kept saying ‘did you not see my post?’ I don’t go on much any more so if I’m not liking posts it is because I’ve not seen them. You should step away too. Congratulations on your new baby!

Congratulations on your baby!
In the olden days people would put a notice in the paper and you would receive cards, much better than lazy 'likes'.
No wonder that we have a mental health crisis when grown women (not just teenagers) are upset by how many/few people appear to be their friend.
Switch off your social media and enjoy your family. 💐

This is the problem with social media. It creates this kind of unhappiness/ envy/ discontent.

She could have her profile set to public, or tagged lots of people in it. Or posted at a popular time and day - posting on a weekend will get more views than on a weekday morning. All that aside, have a break from Facebook. When you start to care about it, it needs to go. I'm sure you are loved by your friends and family, switch off and enjoy your new baby.

If you're talking about Facebook you're both losers because nobody cool uses Facebook anymore (tongue in cheek OP!). Honestly, I've got a 4yo, never announced his birth online, never posted a photo of him online (imagine having a digital footprint the day you're born), tend to post arty pics I've taken, couldn't tell you how many likes I get etc because idgaf. Genuinely. I know someone who gets hundreds of interactions on her posts, because she's just that type of person, but put her in a room with me and one other person and I can guarantee that even though she's lovely, they'd likely find me more interesting to talk to! (I know how big headed that sounds!). Real life is what matters, not online nonsense that isn't real!

Oh just to add, if it’s Facebook that you’re using there’s now a setting where you can conceal how many likes your posts get from other people, and you also don’t see how many likes other people have gotten. I think it’s somewhere in the privacy settings.

I think you need a reality check.

You took the words out of my mouth

Why, when you have a beautiful new baby, do you want anybody else's opinion??? Would it make you love your child more if 1000 strangers clicked a button on theirphones??? Do you think they Care?? Just be happy with what youhave.

Stop looking to social media for validation.

How many friends does she have on there? Her percentage of likes could be low. If she has 2000 friends 200 likes is 10%. If you have 200, 20 likes is 10% it's all relative.

Do you like other people's posts?