Not to share my exam revision notes

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A group of us work colleagues are sitting an exam in the summer. I’ve worked hard to go through past papers and write up the questions and answers so I’ve got them to refer back to.
The pack is about 15 sides of A4 so it’s taken a while.
Colleagues saw me printing them off and asked for copies to give to the others too! I laughed and said I might but I felt really annoyed by it. It’s taken me hours and hours to collate this information and they’ll just have that side to work through without doing anything!

AIBU or should I let them all have a copy too? No skin off my nose if they all pass etc .

I wouldn’t share and I would also have the decency not to ask either.

You could give them just half of them and say its all you've managed to do so far. You could ask them to prepare the rest and share them with you. That way you look willing to support each other whilst not giving them the benefit of all your hard work.

Does he want you to take the exam for him as well?!
CF.

No way. Tell them to do their own notes.

Make an edited copy, add slightly wrong answers, delete all the questions and half of some paragraphs. Use find/replace changing important key words. ... then share it

Sorry about your situation OP. I too know what it is like to be in your position with huge debts due to my partner, single parent life etc. That kind out debt has ruined the last four years of my life and I still carry the resentment. Hats off to you for turning your situation around.

At the time I had to borrow 3k off my dad and he never mentioned it all this time, he also tried to refuse taking it back a few months ago and so I left it in his bedroom and left.

I suggest you be the one to open up the conversation with your mother as someone else suggested. Go from there, pay what you can back slowly if needs be.

If it were me I would give them an abridged version. Just the main points.

My son who is a top student (97% on average in his all his A levels) let everyone in his class photocopy his GCSE science revision notes. When the teacher told us at parents evening it was really emotional as she said not only does he work really hard, but he wants his friends to do well too and is very kind hearted. Must admit I’d feel a bit annoyed to be asked

There is a two-word answer to this sort of request, and you can choose from the following:

No chance

Hahaha funny

As if

Sorry, no

off

Ignore those saying why wouldn't you, it's no skin off your nose etc etc. You have worked hard to produce those revision notes, and you therefore deserve to do well in the exam on your own merit. Why should you give your notes to someone else who has been too lazy to do their own? People who have not put in the hard work deserve to do less well in the exam. Asking for you to bail them out is a damn cheek.

Just say no. You can tell them you don’t know how accurate they are and you wouldn’t want to be responsible for giving them wrong information.

Or you could just share. Most of the learning benefit comes from making the notes rather than reading them. You never know when you might need kindness and help from someone else so why not take this opportunity to help others when you’re in a position to do so?

I'd reply my notes won't help as they are condensed versions of what iv learned to prompt me

Assuming you have produced it on a computer you could create a copy of the file and then use 'Find and Replace' to change all the occurances of the word 'the' to 'but' and 'when' to 'bibble'

... for example. 😁

I always share exam notes and colleagues share theirs. Tbh, I don't find other notes mega helpful. They give pointers, but you need context and have to learn the material. I happily share past exam questions I found, especially with women as my sector is male dominated.

Because it makes no difference to the op. She was doing it anyway. Why not share?

I sometimes wonder if there are undercover posters on MN whose job it is to pop up on threads like this and say “why wouldn’t you?” “What’s the issue?” Just to wind us all up.

My colleagues want me to give them all my revision notes that took me seven years to collate.
Why wouldn’t you?

My neighbour has told me to give their DD a lift to school 600 miles in the opposite direction every day for the next 12 years.
What’s the issue? I would do this without question.

My builder wants to charge me £50000 just to install a new light switch.
What’s the problem? Just pay up and move on

It's fascinating to me that people wouldn't share them.

Obviously it is up to you but I was both in the situation of being offer the notes by the year above me (and have passed them on to at least another 4 people since then) and then doing a (if I do say so myself) spectacular set of notes for a different exam which is still being shared round many people today. I am just glad more people can benefit from my hard work because it took bloody ages. I went back through years and years of past papers and summarised all of the key information from them. It was an open book exam so my colleagues ended up taking in the exact things I had written for it.

But it wasn't a bell curved exam, I would have felt differently if it was.

(What’s a bell curved exam?)

As a PP suggested, I would amend the notes so there’s so wrong information in them and then pass them on.

If it was an essay you had written with the grade already awarded I wouldn’t mind so much but as you haven’t even taken the paper yet, it think this is just a bit off.

The lazy fuckers should do the work themselves.

So a bell curved exam is where (broadly speaking) X% of people will get an A, Y% a B, Z% a C (or whatever) - so your goal in those exams is not just to do well but to do Better than other people. So other people doing better in effect means you do worse.

Whereas in an exam where the proportion passing (for instance) isn't pre determined and they don't have raw to end mark conversion, other people doing better doesn't impact how you do.

I would. They are just notes. Unless you write them yourself they are meaningless.

It's a bit mean spirited not to in my opinion.

Think I need OP’s revision notes to understand this.

Absolutely not. Those notes are your hard work. Why should they queue jump. I absolutely hate people who do this, makes me so angry.

it would only be acceptable if you were swapping notes for subject A with their notes on subject B.

Wouldn’t occur to me not to. My notes did the rounds at uni too…

Why wouldn't you? If I liked the people I wouldn't think twice about it - of course I'd help. If I didn't like them, then I'd think twice though. I'd hope others would do the same for me in different circumstances!

Good point re bell curved exam though. In this case, you are literally in competition with one-another - if their mark has an impact on yours, then I change my answer and say I wouldn't help them. But assuming that is not the case, of course I would, unless I especially disliked the people!