My partner is not jealous at all

[Zamummy]

Would you feel unloved if your partner wasn't jealous? Is it a red flag or?

No. I want him to make me feel like a man marking his territory and defending it lol

Jesus. So you basically want to feel like he wants to piss on you to indicate that you are his property but for him to be free to go off and shag anything else?

You have a very unhealthy idea of what desirable traits are in a relationship.

@Zamummy

can you give an example of what you mean when you say possessiveness?
An example what would like him to be like? As in what kind of situation etc?

Good lord... you need to stop reading whatever shitty books you're reading.

Wow, OK. Lots of issues. I hope you get help.

Now I know who’s reading those terrible stories that periodically pop up on my Facebook timing about alpha packs etc.

Agreed.

Jealousy in a relationship isn't healthy and I'd run a mile from anyone who tried to encourage it. You are the issue here.

Sorry to be harsh but if he's regularly cheating then I suspect the fact he doesn't act like he cares or loves you is because, frankly, he doesn't.

You forgive his cheating and take him back like it doesn't matter, so he gets his cake and to eat it.

Stop trolling, op.

You say you’ve done nothing to make him jealous, so how do you know he doesn’t get jealous?

If you're for real here and on your other threads, I suggest focusing on the kid you have and the one you're having. And not on whether a man marks his territory like it's some pissing contest.

If you're trying to be a creative writer, find another hobby.

Please, get professional help. You really need to change dynamics before you become a danger to others or to yourself.

Ewwwwwwww

Are you even sure? You don't sound grown up even to be in a healthy relationship.

My partner is never jealous because he is emotionally mature and trusts and respects me. Couldn't cope with jealousy. Such a turn off. And as for 'marking his territory' - I am NOT his territory or possession or whatever and he would get very short shrift if he suggested otherwise.

what do you want him to ‘defend’? And ‘lol’? Really?

You believe you are his territory and you want him to defend it? Against who or what?

If you aren’t doing anything, there’s no one to defend his territory against?

Sounds like a fucked up situation. He is a cheat, you are now playing games trying to get him to show he is jealous as it’s the only way you can feel wanted and desired

But if he was jealous, that doesn’t mean you are loved or desired. Lots of people who get jealous, only do so to assert control. They don’t want the other person, but they don’t want to lose control of that person. Sometimes people stay with cheaters, because they love the drama and toxic situation. They thrive on it. They need the drama of partner having a choice of someone else, but coming back to them.

and no, love isn’t irrational. Staying in a shitty relationship where both people are toxic isn’t love. It’s certainly not an environment children should be brought into.

He's not jealous because he doesn't care. You've shown him you'll put up with any old shit therefore he isn't worried about you leaving. You're trapped. You know it. He knows it. He isn't concerned.

There is another, more pertinent saying “This ‘relationship’ is clearly not healthy and you need to end it and spend some time working on yourself before you even think about dating again”.

Healthy relationships don’t involve jealousy or cheating or ‘testing’ your partner. If yours does, then you and/or your partner are going badly wrong somewhere.

Good one OP 🤣

You sound like you have an incredibly immature approach to relationships

OP had previously posted about this "man" several times.

Having been incredibly jealous, with very good reason, during the five long years of my first “proper” (i.e. having all the sex) relationship, it’s such a miserable emotion, based on immaturity, insecurity and low self-esteem/self-worth, I’d never want to feel it again, nor would I want to induce it in anyone else.

The op is like something you'd see on the Jeremy Vile show.

Not a red flag. Think it's a sign of someone being secure and happy