My partner is not jealous at all

[Zamummy]

Would you feel unloved if your partner wasn't jealous? Is it a red flag or?

Is “Jealous” really the word you are looking for? My DH can be very indifferent and carefree sometimes. Like when i am working late and he doesn’t really care that i’m missing dinner. Or when i get home from going out with my friends in the middle of the night, hours later then i planned. Sometimes i really want him to say that he missed me or he was worried about me. But he is just never worried at all. Part of his great optimistic personality.
Is that what you mean maybe?

Good god. Jealousy is a horrible emotion and can lead to abuse, control and misery. Even murder at the worst!

It would be a major red flag to have a partner who got "jealous"

I am not doing anything. I am thinking about testing him...

This.

Are you meaning things like if you are at a bar and a man approached you trying to chat you up ,your partner would come over put an arm around you to signal that you are his?

I want him to feel like a man marking his territory

Jesus Christ. Have a word with yourself.

So many women are trapped in abusive relationships with jealous partners. Do you actually want that?

Sounds like you are in a healthy relationship but for sone reason you want more ‘attention’.

What do you want him to do? Piss your shoes before you go out to ‘mark his territory’? Grow up.

Oh grow up. Let the poor bloke go and find yourself some toxic meathead who starts throwing his fists around if anyone looks at his bird. It sounds like that’s more your cup of tea.

It's not jealousy you need, you need professional help.

Oh fgs. Grow up.
If you decide to “test” him I hope he legs it.

Well now I really have read everything…

In a mature and happy relationship there is no need to test someone. They want to be with you above all others and you want to be with them.Your partner should have no need to feel jealous or express jealousy because you are a team. If you want to flirt with someone else in order to bring out some ' cave man' reaction in your partner you may well find yourself alone. You sound very childish.

I’m not buying this at all. Total wind up. Nobody is that ridiculous unless maybe they are about 13 years old.

Absolutely this.
Your idea of what a healthy adult relationship should be like is toxic.
I feel sorry for your partner. You need to seek help from a relationship counsellor and fast.
I can't believe you are 30. You are very immature.

@GCAcademic my Ex was like that and I used to enjoy it. It was exhausting at times though

This has the makings of a soap opera story line.

DH and I trust one another and no need for jealousy in grown up healthy relationships. If I had to test DH then I wouldn’t want to be married to him. Life is way too short for crazy shit and drama lama’s

I don't do jealousy. It's a pointless emotion, like worrying about a problem you can't change.

I trust my partner not to cheat. A bit of flirting wouldn't bother me, but I know she wouldn't cross the line. And if she did cheat on me, then the relationship would be over and thats that. What's the point of getting all weird and possessive about it?

Best you let the decent man you are currently with go and go and find a meathead then.

Reported.

Jealousy is a real sign of insecurity and controlling behaviour. It's one of least thing anyone should want in a relationship.

You're must be really insecure if you want jealousy and see it as a sign of anything other than control or insecurity.

You are 30, far to old to be "testing" anyone or playing games.

You don't understand healthy relationships at all & are vulnerable being in a relationship until you do.

@Thedogscollar why reported?

It is the opposite of a red flag.

Jealousy is fuelled by possessiveness, and I am not the property of any man.

So you want your partner to be as @GCAcademic described because you liked it , so you want him to be possessive and violent towards other men ...no just no

You sound like hard work.

Maybe I am just focused on the jealousy part because I feel like he doesn't love me.

If feeling like a tomcat’s pissing territory makes you feel all kittenish and desired, I’d suggest therapy.