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to buy an expensive ring?

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noodlesofoodles · 01/03/2023 14:51

There is a jewellery brand that I love but I would never be able to afford any of the pieces (it’s all £1,000+). I keep an eye out on second hand sites for pieces being sold on (they rarely come up and are often not much cheaper than retail price) but yesterday found a ring by the brand that I love in my size for £250 - with the stones and design it looks like it would have originally been £1,500+. I know it’s real - the brand has a very distinct style and is too small/unknown for anyone to rip off (I’ve also looked at what else the seller has listed and it fits that it’s just someone with expensive clothes and accessories etc doing a clear out!)

AIBU to buy the ring? I can’t exactly afford it but could split the cost over 3 months and budget on a few other things (stretch hair appointments out, bring lunch from home instead of buying, turn down a few social outings etc) to make up the difference. It feels like an extravagance but I just don’t think I would ever get a ring by this jeweller otherwise! I don’t have a lot of disposable income and wouldn’t want to tell DP I bought it as he would think it was a waste of money (but he also probably wouldn’t notice!)… what would you do??

OP posts:
Nothingfree · 01/03/2023 21:33

Good on you op enjoy your purchase 😍

Meggymoo777 · 01/03/2023 21:34

Ah, I just saw you bought it!!! Would love a pic when it arrives!

loveheartdress · 01/03/2023 21:35

Definitely do it!

minipie · 01/03/2023 21:41

From your references to fewer hair appointments over three months and outings with friends it doesn’t sound like you’re brassic and there’s space to cut back elsewhere. Glad you bought it.

It does sound like you’re spending every penny you earn though if you don’t have £250 available? Why not spend a bit less on hair and outings generally and build up some savings for times like this or for emergencies. Apologies for sounding like your mum.

PermanentTemporary · 01/03/2023 21:47

YABU - only because there isn't a pic yet. Glad you bought it.

Having said that - how about taking this as a wake up call to start working towards a savings pot? Imagine if you spent less and could save maybe £50 a month, after paying for this. Imagine if you had the savings to buy something like this when you wanted.

dottypencilcase · 01/03/2023 21:50

Glad you've bought it! Following for a picture!

Spectre8 · 01/03/2023 21:52

noodlesofoodles · 01/03/2023 15:29

So the advice seems to be go for the ring, ditch DP 😂 (joking, most of the time he’s great)

thanks for the votes to do it - I’m going to buy it (and then keep track of what I don’t buy to make up for it!) I do really love the ring and think I will regret not getting it as I may never see another one I can even remotely afford! Also, I have a lot going on at the moment and kind of feel like I need a treat - I’m thinking maybe this ring can be a little reminder to look after myself and be kind to myself.

Glad your going for it. A few missed haircuts will be worth it!

PacificallyRequested · 01/03/2023 22:00

OP I'm glad you bought it and hope you enjoy it.

I'd echo others about starting to save up some money though. About 10 years ago (!), I posted a thread (under a different name) because I couldn't justify going on my best friend's hen do as money was tight after being unemployed. Someone on that thread said, well, when you start working again, start saving and build up money for the treats as well as the emergencies, even £10 a month. I'm so, so grateful to that poster. It might sound obvious, but to me it wasn't and I was really bad at saving. But now I've got a couple of grand saved up, I generally don't touch it but I feel very fortunate that if I ever do want to splash out on something the money is there.

bananaAgogo · 01/03/2023 22:07

So glad for you! Can you post a similar ring photo?

AloudAlot · 09/04/2023 17:57

@noodlesofoodles Have you received the ring? Can we see?

Pattydale · 09/04/2023 18:41

Where's the photo? I Iove a good jewellery thread

Ceryneianhind · 09/04/2023 21:12

noodlesofoodles · 01/03/2023 17:00

Bought! And I'll post a picture when it arrives – thanks for the encouragement, I'm so excited to see it and wear it!

Did it arrive?

hilariousnamehere · 09/04/2023 21:44

Shamelessly place marking because I'm so pleased you went for it and I want to see!

youshouldnthaveasked · 09/04/2023 21:46

i vote buy it!

Aixellency · 09/04/2023 21:57
Hmm
LaurieFairyCake · 09/04/2023 22:21

Also want to see it Grin

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