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To have an abortion and not say a word

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 01/03/2023 12:37

Just found out I'm pregnant, unplanned not sure exactly how far along. I have 2 children already don't want anymore. Aibu to just get an abortion without saying anything to anyone

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 01/03/2023 17:53

Justaddalittlespice · 01/03/2023 17:50

I want to know this to?

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I genuinely don't know whos it is, which is another good reason to get this sorted without involving others

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BessieSurtees · 01/03/2023 18:12

I did this years ago and I was married to my DH, we are still are together and it was the right decision. In your situation YANBU there are places you can get confidential support if you need it.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 01/03/2023 18:33

Justaddalittlespice · 01/03/2023 17:50

I want to know this to?

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Why?

billy1966 · 01/03/2023 18:39

DoNotGetADog · 01/03/2023 17:29

YANBU at all. It’s your choice, and nobody else’s business at all.

You sound in no doubt about what you want to do, and it sounds a very sensible decision. No need to worry about it other than getting through the unpleasant procedure. No need to feel guilty or to keep thinking about it afterwards.

Personally I wouldn’t confide in a friend etc unless you really felt you wanted to. Once you’ve told someone something you can’t “untell” them although you may wish you could. Circumstances and relationships can change and someone could go from being a trusted confidante to the last person you want to know something!

This.

Not a word to anyone irl if you want to keep it quiet.

Nobody's business but yours.

I really hope that team member can support you.

Your body, your choice 100%.

Mind yourself and we are here for you.💐

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 01/03/2023 19:08

billy1966 · 01/03/2023 18:39

This.

Not a word to anyone irl if you want to keep it quiet.

Nobody's business but yours.

I really hope that team member can support you.

Your body, your choice 100%.

Mind yourself and we are here for you.💐

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Thankyou so much

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RobertaFirmino · 01/03/2023 19:32

Please promise yourself that you'll get yourself sorted out with some decent long acting contraception so you don't have to go through this again. I don't mean this in a judgemental way, I had a coil installed immediately after my own termination you see and that completely removed the fear of having to go through it all again.

I'm a menopausal old bag nowadays but am here if you need a pal.

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 01/03/2023 19:48

RobertaFirmino · 01/03/2023 19:32

Please promise yourself that you'll get yourself sorted out with some decent long acting contraception so you don't have to go through this again. I don't mean this in a judgemental way, I had a coil installed immediately after my own termination you see and that completely removed the fear of having to go through it all again.

I'm a menopausal old bag nowadays but am here if you need a pal.

Thankyou and yes I definitely will

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Zanatdy · 01/03/2023 19:50

If I found out I was pregnant at this a stage in my life (46 and kids almost all grown up) I’d do the same. I wouldn’t tell a soul as I wouldn’t want anyone trying to change my mind as I 1000% wouldn’t want a baby now

Vegrocks · 02/03/2023 11:04

Op do you work?

You will need a little time off

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 02/03/2023 14:02

Vegrocks · 02/03/2023 11:04

Op do you work?

You will need a little time off

Yeah I work but their really flexible they will be fine I won't need to go into detail

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Vegrocks · 02/03/2023 15:14

Do you have any support, whether from exes or SS for your children?

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 02/03/2023 18:09

Vegrocks · 02/03/2023 15:14

Do you have any support, whether from exes or SS for your children?

Yeah they both see their dads on a regular basis so childcare will be fine. I have quite a lot of medical problems so it's not unusual for me to be in and out of hospital and their dads always step up

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blueandorangerobot · 23/05/2023 12:02

any news OP? hope you are okay

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 23/05/2023 13:25

blueandorangerobot · 23/05/2023 12:02

any news OP? hope you are okay

I'm ok everything is sorted thanks

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