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Do I owe money

113 replies

alwayssocomplicated · 27/02/2023 20:17

A few months ago my parents asked if I would drop them at heathrow airport as the taxi would cost them £80

Their flight is in a couple of months.

We wanted to get away this Easter for a couple of nights and if we go certain dates it is much cheaper/ there is availability.

Typically this clashes with the lift to heathrow and I wouldn't be able to take them.

I would still be able to collect them.

My mum is furious and said I need to pay the taxi.

I said can she not ask one my my 3 other siblings. She said ofcourse not as they wouldn't do the journey for them.

I feel awful.

I haven't booked the break yet but if I don't book this certain weekend we won't be able to afford to go away.

Is it right I should pay?

My parents are much better off than me. But I did say I would give them a lift to the airport all those months ago

OP posts:
TheBigWangTheory · 27/02/2023 20:31

alwayssocomplicated · 27/02/2023 20:26

Thank you for the replies.

In answer to why my other siblings can't take them, they just do not do favors for other, I am not sure why. My sister lives up the road from me and I did ask her but she hasn't replied (and won't).

Do you think maybe they've copped that your ma is mean and selfish and youj haven't?

chickbean · 27/02/2023 20:33

Brokendaughter · 27/02/2023 20:30

Tell her you will pay her back the same amount she planned to pay you to do it in the first place, which I'm fairly confident is nothing.

This.

Firkinhavinalaugh · 27/02/2023 20:34

Would she have kicked off if you had to work?

your sister is a bitch for not responding.

you have more issues here than the airport - don’t be the family doormat

Iloveacurry · 27/02/2023 20:35

Your mum is unpleasant isn’t she? Obviously your siblings know this already.

creepingbuttercup · 27/02/2023 20:36

tell her the difference in price if you delay your holiday, and you can only take her if she pays the £££.
It sounds like you're deep in the FOG... but what sort of selfish mother would deprive their child of a holiday?

MoreSleepPleasee · 27/02/2023 20:37

Book your holiday, laugh at your mum (can only assume she's fucking joking), and do not pay for their taxi. I'd cancel the lift back from the airport too.

NellietheElephantpackedhertrunks · 27/02/2023 20:42

Murdoch1949 · 27/02/2023 20:24

Obviously you're Cinderella in this family. Don't change your plans. Don't pay for the taxi. Toss up whether you should collect them too.

This. Stop letting your toxic family walk all over you.

TheBigWangTheory · 27/02/2023 20:44

Firkinhavinalaugh · 27/02/2023 20:34

Would she have kicked off if you had to work?

your sister is a bitch for not responding.

you have more issues here than the airport - don’t be the family doormat

Sis is not a bitch. She just has better boundaries. You should get some.

Couldyounot · 27/02/2023 20:46

Of course you don't owe money. You parents sound very unpleasant.

diddl · 27/02/2023 20:46

You don't seriously think that you should pay do you?

I mean it's unfortunate but it doesn't mean for example that they need to cancel their holiday.

They've got plenty of time to book a train/save for a taxi.

Does your Mum just expect stuff & is never grateful?

Do your siblings never do anything at all for your Mum & Dad?

NellietheElephantpackedhertrunks · 27/02/2023 20:47

If you don’t nip this kind of thing in the bud right now, it will get worse and worse. Guess who will end up providing all the elderly care to their ungrateful parents while their siblings of sweet FA (there is a touch of bitter experience here).

Bunnyishotandcross · 27/02/2023 20:48

Congratulations on your cf dps op!

NoSquirrels · 27/02/2023 20:49

Do your parents do a lot for you, OP? If so you might pay to be nice. If not, and they can definitely afford a taxi, go on holiday!

Shoxfordian · 27/02/2023 20:49

I don’t think you should pay but you also shouldn’t renege on promises you’ve made to help people op

Eranzer · 27/02/2023 20:51

😂 weird!

Stopthebusplease · 27/02/2023 20:54

What would she have done if you were sick come the day OP? Still expect you to pay for inconveniencing her? Can I ask how much difference there is in the price of your trip if you were to go on the more expensive dates? If it's less than £80, then I'd tell your DM that you're willing to change your dates, but she'll need to pay the difference! If it's more than £80, then just take a leaf out of your sibling's book, and tell her sorry you've changed your mind, but have given her quite enough notice to still book a taxi, and point out that if you were ill on the day, then she'd have to pay the £80 anyway. Good luck, but in answer to your question no, you shouldn't pay for her taxi!

custardbear · 27/02/2023 20:55

If this is real then your siblings are arseholes, and so are your parents. Tell them sorry but you can't afford a holiday if you commit to the journey and ask your sibs to stop being arseholes

Tourmalines · 27/02/2023 20:55

Never heard so much shit !!

Cigarettesaftersex1 · 27/02/2023 20:56

Nah not buying it

pinkfondu · 27/02/2023 20:56

Go on your own break, sounds like you need it

LadyJ2023 · 27/02/2023 20:58

Hmmm if I've promised to take family to airport or train I keep to it because obviously arrangements need made in advance as we live a fair way from both but I still don't think you should pay either. Have a chat with her

Danikm151 · 27/02/2023 20:59

Tell her there’s plenty of coaches and trains that will make the journey cheaper. Was she going to give you the money for fuel to get there?

no? Then she can sod off

JudgeRudy · 27/02/2023 20:59

I'm guessing you have a very different nature to me as im surprised you needed to even ask. Not only would I most certainly not be paying anything, but I wouldn't be picking them up either. Is your mother usually this entitled?
I like @Brokendaughter response. Offer her a full refund of the agreed fee....zero!

Firkinhavinalaugh · 27/02/2023 21:00

TheBigWangTheory · 27/02/2023 20:44

Sis is not a bitch. She just has better boundaries. You should get some.

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She’s a bitch for not replying to the OP. Even if it’s just to say “hell no”. By not replying the OP has false hope she might do it 🤷‍♀️ (by what else she has said)

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 27/02/2023 21:01

My parents are much better off than me.

I said can she not ask one my my 3 other siblings. She said ofcourse not as they wouldn't do the journey for them.

Say exactly this to them. They can afford a taxi. Or tell them to get a bloody bus or train!!! You are being treated as Cinderella here and it's not fair.