To tell this person to never text me again and delete my number (with thanks to expat for the quote thats inspired me)

[ShakeysGirl]

Expat quoted Eleanor Roosevelte on a thread recently - something about no one being able to make you feel inadequate without your consent and its made me think. Dp and i have a friend who every so often goes odd and starts texting me nasty messages and i've just accepted it as part of who he is but last night he made me cry again and i've decided its enough. Hes just texted asking how i am, no sorry or reference to last night, i'm not having it any longer. I don't need the stress. AIBU?

SG your post about your dc deserving more of your time and energy really struck a chord with me. I'm really inspired as my ds deserves the same and isn't getting it! Thanks for the inspiration, I am soooo going to the park or something with him today after doing some much needed housework. Brilliant post of yours. Good luck with getting energy-sapping "friend" out of your life.

i ahet that er quote so i am glad you foudn it useful!

Good stuff SG!

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Well done you.

Small quibble, Eleanor Roosevelt pinched it from Marcus Aurelius Antoninus.

Marcus Aurelius Antoninus:

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.

Quite a lot of horse sense here.

It was me who said about withdrawing consent on LogInFailed's fantastic naughty InLaw thread! Am delighted to think that the advice is being used.

Good for you for taking control.

What a strange comment about something that happpened circa 213.

Thanks all. I've spoken to dp and told him that he is fully entitled to stay friends with this person and make his own choices but that when he next recieves abusive text messages etc i do not want to know about them, what they said and how upset he is about recieving them because i have chosen to take myself out of that situation and he needs to respect my decision. I don't mind being supportive of him but when he keeps choosing to allow himself to be abused there isn't alot i can do. Harsh but true.

That's not harsh, SG. I think what you've just done is the best possible solution.

It's up to your DP to decide what he does in the situation.

sounds like you done good but I don't like that quote at all. Just a personal thing.