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Partyandbullshit · 27/02/2023 11:37

Hadtocomment · 27/02/2023 09:23

I don't quite understand threads like these. They ask "am I too old" making this question seem a valid consideration, and then if anyone says yes people are up in arms. Those up in arms are all there are no rules and "wear what you want" and yet every second comment is about whether you have the correct figure and weight to carry it off. So very conforming really when it comes down to it.

I don't see why age is anything to do with whether or not you wear the dress. It says a bit OTT and celebratory to me! So I do actually agree with the poster noone else can understand that the glammed up look is best if with a large slice of irony, self-knowingness, fabulousness, or just with total enjoyment. What I understood from the post was that trying to be glamorous without any signs of fun or excess is not fun and what's the point? Like if someone was wear the kind of clothes they used to wear in soap opera Dallas whilst taking it all very over-seriously.

I think you will look great. Go for it. Don't even ask the blinking question. I don't see why it makes any difference what your figure is either. It's about if you have the chutzpah and confidence and look good in it. I get the feeling from your posts that you do have chutzpah and confidence and style so I reckon you'll look great.

How funny. I actually typed out a sentence referring to Dallas and Dynasty, then deleted it because Joan Collins et al (or the wardrobe people on the shows) “made” that look. It was real and original and outrageous.

Tootsweets84 · 27/02/2023 12:13

Wear whatever makes you happy and don't give a toss what anyone else thinks. Life is too short! I find it ironic that everyone is all 'body positivity' and 'women should be allowed to wear what they like' but yet you can't wear a sparkly playsuit at 50 on your birthday without being told it's mutton or tacky. Apparently body positivity only extends to your mid 30s. I hope I still have your confidence when I'm 50 OP

ProseccoOnIce · 27/02/2023 12:26

If you've got the confidence & figure to wear it, then do it!

50 is the new 40!!

We are not all shuffling about in slippers & joggers!

ButtonMoonLoon · 27/02/2023 12:31

If you feel great in it then YES- wear it! Bugger what anyone else says! How you feel is the most important thing - if you feel good you'll look fabulous!

GoKartMozart · 27/02/2023 12:32

I shall continue to wear what the hell I want, regardless of age, and if someone doesn't happen to like it or think it suitable then that is their problem not mine.

I went to have my nails done for an event the other week, in the back of the shop there is a beautician. The shop sells a few bits of clothes as well.
As I sat there the beautician came out and waved off her last client, a woman of about 50. When she'd gone a conversation was had between the nail lady and her from which I gathered she'd tried on a playsuit in the shop not dissimilar to your picture Pyong. Beautician commented how it suited her, but she was 'far too old to be wearing that'.
I'm still kicking myself that I didn't say anything, I'm not usually backwards at coming forwards but it shocked me at the time. It was rude and especially inappropriate in front of another client. I sat, seethed and left without leaving a tip. I will not go back and neither will my daughter in law and daughter who both agreed there is absolutely no need to talk about clients in that way.

I wish I knew who she was, I'd have told her to buy the sodding playsuit and fuck em all.

Pipsquiggle · 27/02/2023 12:45

Hi @PyongyangKipperbang - please rethink the shoes.

They don't go with the playsuit and look dated. There are so many different styles out there that would look better than them.

If you really want those shoes, I think you need to get a different outfit

TenoringBehind · 27/02/2023 13:06

If you like it and would feel confident in it then go for it!

i don’t like it and would look ridiculous wearing it, but that’s irrelevant.

Squeezita · 27/02/2023 14:35

From this conservatively dressed Asian woman, I say go for it! You already have both the dress and shoes and a stylish sister, I bet it looks good on you.

Please post a picture and prove all the fuddy duddys here wrong.

VintageThoughts · 27/02/2023 15:17

Play suit ✅
Shoes ❎

Oblomov23 · 27/02/2023 15:49

I like the shoes. I bought similar for my 50th, to wear with a bright pink dress. I often wear sparkly tops and sequins. So clearly I'm not the best person to ask. Grin

to wear this for my 50th?
to wear this for my 50th?
to wear this for my 50th?
thisplaceisweird · 27/02/2023 15:52

Yes OP!! You will look fabulous. As long as you feel great, there is 0 reason not to!

Thomasina79 · 27/02/2023 16:16

It’s not to my taste at any age, but if you like it go for it. I have to say no to the shoes though, but then again I hate high heels. Each to their own! Have fun! X

Findyourneutralspace · 27/02/2023 18:28

FrostyFifi · 26/02/2023 23:56

Playsuit - mutton, lamb comes to mind

If there's one thing that's dated and elderly it's this ridiculous saying.

As my very glamorous MIL (in her 70s) likes to say:

better mutton dressed as lamb than mutton dressed as mutton

FrostyFifi · 27/02/2023 19:04

@Findyourneutralspace I like the sound of your MIL 😁

Tiddler39 · 27/02/2023 19:15

Zola1 · 26/02/2023 23:27

Shoe thoughts... if you really want a silver, I think these would work much better with the vibe of the playsuit!
Also think any of these black could work well. Happy birthday!

I agree, but not the black ones.

ThatWardrobe · 27/02/2023 20:50

Yes, wear the dress. Just wore the most outrageous dress for my 40th and I felt amazing. Fuck everyone else's opinion and wear it if you feel good in it.

ThatWardrobe · 27/02/2023 20:54

*Playsuit, sorry!

Zoeyclash · 27/02/2023 22:41

Come on back @PyongyangKipperbang and show us a photo!! I hope you had a fab night!

Namechange101111 · 28/02/2023 07:15

PyongyangKipperbang · 27/02/2023 02:26

I genuinely dont understand this

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Yiu don't undrstanc it because it's rubbish.

You either go full on drag or look like cheap trash? What? Stop telling nonsense. You really think you'd go to a nice cocktail bar in either a ballgown or a bodycon dress with such cheap fabric it's see through? Well I guess we know who'll look foolish and it won't be the person in the sparkly playsuit.

As I said early OP, you stated it makes you feel great so wear it and rock it! (If you decide not to, then I can recommend a lovely wedding shop so that you can by a huge bridesmaid dress complete with tiara as per @Partyandbullshit suggestion).

sunglassesonthetable · 28/02/2023 09:27

*It’s a no from me. Nothing to do with age, everything to do with the outfit.
I don’t think that would look good anywhere other than Eg Coachella, massively dressed down and filthy. Probably because I absolutely loathe the smart/ dressy/ glitzy/ glamorous (hate the word)/ sexy look, especially on women who have clearly “dressed up” for the night. If you’re going to glam, it has to be outrageous or not at all. Either full-on couture, drag queen, guns blazing Met Ball dressy where everything is about how you look, or Primark minidress, godawful impossible to walk in heels or trainers, smeared make up and evidence of the best night of your life, where the way you look couldn’t be less the point. Both these looks have integrity. “Trying” for one or the other has none.*

It's not that deep tbh.

StuckWhereIAm · 28/02/2023 09:35

Oh no!!! Definitely not. But then, I do me ... you do you ....

MorrisZapp · 28/02/2023 09:43

Hadtocomment · 27/02/2023 09:23

I don't quite understand threads like these. They ask "am I too old" making this question seem a valid consideration, and then if anyone says yes people are up in arms. Those up in arms are all there are no rules and "wear what you want" and yet every second comment is about whether you have the correct figure and weight to carry it off. So very conforming really when it comes down to it.

I don't see why age is anything to do with whether or not you wear the dress. It says a bit OTT and celebratory to me! So I do actually agree with the poster noone else can understand that the glammed up look is best if with a large slice of irony, self-knowingness, fabulousness, or just with total enjoyment. What I understood from the post was that trying to be glamorous without any signs of fun or excess is not fun and what's the point? Like if someone was wear the kind of clothes they used to wear in soap opera Dallas whilst taking it all very over-seriously.

I think you will look great. Go for it. Don't even ask the blinking question. I don't see why it makes any difference what your figure is either. It's about if you have the chutzpah and confidence and look good in it. I get the feeling from your posts that you do have chutzpah and confidence and style so I reckon you'll look great.

My thoughts exactly! Why do posters pretend to be worried about an outfit being 'age appropriate' in their OP only to then go full 'stop policing older women' in the comments?

Obviously the OP loves the outfit and can't wait to wear it, no permission from MN required. I guess they want a side order of 'you do you' from the 'rock it' cheerleaders.

Anyone who truly thinks age is irrelevant would not use the term 'age appropriate' to begin with.

Namechange101111 · 28/02/2023 09:55

MorrisZapp · 28/02/2023 09:43

My thoughts exactly! Why do posters pretend to be worried about an outfit being 'age appropriate' in their OP only to then go full 'stop policing older women' in the comments?

Obviously the OP loves the outfit and can't wait to wear it, no permission from MN required. I guess they want a side order of 'you do you' from the 'rock it' cheerleaders.

Anyone who truly thinks age is irrelevant would not use the term 'age appropriate' to begin with.

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Am I a rock it cheerleader or was a it a general comment? 🤣

Personally, I'm awful at working out people's ages and 99% of the time couldn't care less so I'm not the right person to ask about "age appropriateness" unless it's Leonardo Decaprio and then "yuk".

5128gap · 28/02/2023 10:25

Age is irrelevant as there are huge variations in appearance amongst 50 year olds. Its your overall look that determines whether it will look good. It's a youthful dress, so if the rest of you, hair, make up, body shape are age signifiers, it could look a little jarring. No item is 'too young' based on your birth certificate, but sometimes things are not the best match for us. Impossible to tell without knowing what you look like.

DecayedStrumpet · 28/02/2023 14:36

It looks awesome!
I can't wear jumpsuits cause I have a weirdly long body and get a permanent wedgie Grin but you should definitely go for it.

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