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Ladybug14 · 27/02/2023 05:51

I'm really not sure why you started the thread.

You're going to wear the dress and the shoes regardless.

Are you too old? Of course not. Why ask if you've already decided to wear it and nothing anyone says is making any difference to your thought process?

Will you look great? I'm sure you will.

We can all find out when you post the photo

Happy birthday 🎂

Holly60 · 27/02/2023 05:56

PyongyangKipperbang · 26/02/2023 21:30

The shoes.....I'll be fine I wear shoes like that all the time.

And how is there too much on show? It would literally be legs (and not as much as the model, it is lower down the leg as I am much shorter than her) and I have no boobs to be falling out all over the place.

Explain "Tarty" please.

I think it's the shoes. Love the playsuit but like others think the shoes lower the tone.

I think they will age you too. Not many younger women wearing shoes like that anymore.

3LittleFishes · 27/02/2023 06:06

It's a no from me. It looks like a teenagers party outfit.

MysteryBelle · 27/02/2023 06:07

You don’t have to wear chunky heels but those shoes you linked to in particular look juvenile and cheap. You can still wear heels just more elegant ones. They will elevate the dress.

MysteryBelle · 27/02/2023 06:10

The shoes you linked also look like a cheap version of a teenage trend from 10 years ago. They would totally bring down the playsuit dress which needs slightly more elegant heels.

custardbear · 27/02/2023 06:23

Go for it! And have a brilliant time 🥂🥳

kateandme · 27/02/2023 06:26

PyongyangKipperbang · 27/02/2023 02:26

I genuinely dont understand this

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wear it op. you can tell you love it. you can hear you being fabulous in it.and to be honest i think this is often what an outfit needs. you can tell when the lady has no confidence. the outfits dont look right.becasue she doesnt feel it. and i hate it,i see it so often and i think if only she felt great she would look it.
ive seen outfits i would never dream of liking before,look gorgeous becasue the woman oozes it.
so go for your 50th and wear the sparkly dress. when your 90.what will you regret more. listening to nasty ass comment and diminishing yourself to not wearing something you love. or thinking "yes,i wore the dam dress."
who tells us what we should wear when,size,age? oh yes that great thing called our society.which has manipulated and shrunk woman.
how good do woman feel about themselves in todays world through listening to what we should or shouldnt look like eh?
and what other people at the bar think is there problem.

autumn1610 · 27/02/2023 06:43

If i could pull off all over sequins I absolutely would.

Shoes absolutely not. Tacky and a really outdated shape. Platform style are what’s in at the moment and would look so much better

WonderingWanda · 27/02/2023 06:55

Wear it @PyongyangKipperbang you only get to turn 50 once and it's a massive celebration. I love a bit of bling and the opportunity doesn't come up often! Also with your height and build you can totally pull off this sort out outfit at 50 (look at Kylie) and look stylish. Have a great time!!

Delatron · 27/02/2023 07:25

Only the OP knows what she looks like in it. When you’re a size 8 it doesn’t automatically mean you look good in everything.

So no, not too old. If you look good in it and feel good then wear it.

LuckySantangelo35 · 27/02/2023 07:27

BitOutOfPractice · 27/02/2023 01:11

What a soul destroyingly depressing and joyless rule.

my DDs are bound to look better than me in anything being young and slim and lithe and gorgeous. Does that mean I should wear a bin liner?

and I know for 100% certain that both of my DDs would be absolutely devastated if they thought I thought like you do for a second.

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@RiverSkater

this! 👆

KimberleyClark · 27/02/2023 07:35

I’m sure you look fantastic in it but I am wondering how comfortable it is. It will probably ride up between your arse cheeks when you’ve been sitting for a while and you don’t want to be wearing something you’re constantly needing to adjust/pull down/whatever.

AllWorkYoPlait · 27/02/2023 07:48

Let us see you in it please 😃

I don't think I look good in silver (much as the model doesn't either), but I'd wear a teal one if I wasn't so lardy of leg.

Not keen on the shoes but don't have another suggestion. People always seem to recommend fugly shoes on here. Has anyone waved a brogue at you yet? I think I'd try and find grey shoes rather than silver.

I can't believe someone tried to educate you on your own username Confused

OoooohMatron · 27/02/2023 08:05

I like it but shoes are too matchy si I'd go for a different colour

KTheGrey · 27/02/2023 08:06

Love the playsuit. Do it!

Hop27 · 27/02/2023 08:10

Wear it !!!!! I wore this last year, in my 40's.....although someone described my style as an 'over sexed teen' on the style & beauty board recently so perhaps don't take my advice🤣

Calphurnia88 · 27/02/2023 08:33

Hop27 · 27/02/2023 08:10

Wear it !!!!! I wore this last year, in my 40's.....although someone described my style as an 'over sexed teen' on the style & beauty board recently so perhaps don't take my advice🤣

Wow this is gorgeous. I love the colour.

Where is it from?

Sandra1984 · 27/02/2023 08:35

PyongyangKipperbang · 27/02/2023 02:26

I genuinely dont understand this

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neither do most of us.

LisaD1 · 27/02/2023 08:41

I think wear whatever the fuck you want. Theses always going to be an arsehole or two who judges you regardless. I’m personally impressed anyone can walk in shoes like that, I always look like I need an ambulance to sort out my bandy legs! Wear it, enjoy :)

Hadtocomment · 27/02/2023 09:23

I don't quite understand threads like these. They ask "am I too old" making this question seem a valid consideration, and then if anyone says yes people are up in arms. Those up in arms are all there are no rules and "wear what you want" and yet every second comment is about whether you have the correct figure and weight to carry it off. So very conforming really when it comes down to it.

I don't see why age is anything to do with whether or not you wear the dress. It says a bit OTT and celebratory to me! So I do actually agree with the poster noone else can understand that the glammed up look is best if with a large slice of irony, self-knowingness, fabulousness, or just with total enjoyment. What I understood from the post was that trying to be glamorous without any signs of fun or excess is not fun and what's the point? Like if someone was wear the kind of clothes they used to wear in soap opera Dallas whilst taking it all very over-seriously.

I think you will look great. Go for it. Don't even ask the blinking question. I don't see why it makes any difference what your figure is either. It's about if you have the chutzpah and confidence and look good in it. I get the feeling from your posts that you do have chutzpah and confidence and style so I reckon you'll look great.

NevieSticks · 27/02/2023 10:04

Oblomov23 · 27/02/2023 05:43

I like both play suit and shoes. I think they are appropriate for a cocktail bar. Very sad to read all the comments. If I had OP's figure I would've worn it for my 50th, last month.

The thing is you don't know what OP's figure is like - all you know is a size and a height and that is not indicative of how good it will look. You don't know if she has a long or short torso. You don't know if she has much in the bust or booty department both of which are required (I think) to make this look good. I knew a very slim woman and everything she wore looked dreadful on her. It's not all about size.

railwaysleepervegpatch · 27/02/2023 11:14

Partyandbullshit · 27/02/2023 01:36

It’s a no from me. Nothing to do with age, everything to do with the outfit.
I don’t think that would look good anywhere other than Eg Coachella, massively dressed down and filthy. Probably because I absolutely loathe the smart/ dressy/ glitzy/ glamorous (hate the word)/ sexy look, especially on women who have clearly “dressed up” for the night. If you’re going to glam, it has to be outrageous or not at all. Either full-on couture, drag queen, guns blazing Met Ball dressy where everything is about how you look, or Primark minidress, godawful impossible to walk in heels or trainers, smeared make up and evidence of the best night of your life, where the way you look couldn’t be less the point. Both these looks have integrity. “Trying” for one or the other has none.

You sound fun 🙄. Alternatively OP you can not try to make an outfit choice sound like some profound awakening. If you feel good wear it. Life is just too damn short. Don't post a photo. You owe us nothing and it will not make you feel better about yourself. Have a fantastic time and happy birthday x

Willyoujustbequiet · 27/02/2023 11:20

I don't like it but that's personal taste.

Absolutely nothing wrong with it because of your age though.

mishthecatfish · 27/02/2023 11:34

I have many friends who are late 40s/early 50s who'd rock this look. It's really not an age thing, if you look good in it, who cares???

I wouldn't wear it, not because I don't like it, simply because i'm 47 and dress like a 13 year old boy.

Any woman who looks good in this at 50, I fully support (but with the Manolos, after all, it's your 50th and that deserves some fuck off awesome shoes!).

mishthecatfish · 27/02/2023 11:36

@NevieSticks

I actually agree with you! I'm 5'3, size 6.... but that would look awful on me. I personally wouldn't want my cellulite on show and I don't have the boobs to carry it off .....