Sil giving my baby tea

[abi9396]

My baby is 6 months in 2 weeks. He stayed the night and mil and sil house last night. He came back with tea stains over his bib and sock. My eldest son then told me that sil had given him some of her tea to drink. Mil, sil and my partner are all denying this and claims the baby spilled her tea on accident and that’s how it’s over his bib and sock. If they did can this be harmful at his age I am worried?

Hmm, maybe she gave baby a "sip" of tea from the cup, to entertain your older son? Maybe not realising this could be a problem. Not giving him a drink of tea as such but pretending your baby was drinking it, and it resulted in a little spill...?
I doubt your SIL deliberately would have done something to upset you in terms of the care of your baby. But maybe not, I don't know your in laws.

Honestly, I’m completely baffled by this. Why would it even cross your mind to do this?

The tea will cause no harm.

However, I find people that do stuff like this pathetic and immature. They seem to think it’s cute or funny...... or something. It’s not really either. And then to lie and hide it from you is even more odd.

I’ve been there, it started with tea, then it was chocolate before our baby had even started weaning. I didn’t leave them alone with my baby after that as they thought it was funny. Dickheads. Oh, and then I walked in one day and found one of the twats teaching my then 3 year old to roll a cigarette. Apparently I was still overreacting to say wtf. No contact now, for many, many reasons. I’m not saying your family will be like mine, but don’t let anyone tell you that you need to be ‘cool’ about this stuff.

I’d be more worried about the risk of burns. Do you think he grabbed a cup and tried to drink it but it went all over him? Then neither is lying.

English people are something else

I'm anti giving babies water, because of the lack of nutrition.

@Ponoka7 dehydration isn't great for babies or any human either

I think it's mainly just dangerous in that tea is a hot drink that could easily spill out a mug and scald your child.
I don't think the actual contents of a tiny mouthful of tea would be harmful.

Unless it was mixed with lsd or powdered glass, ffs get a grip.
Every baby I’ve ever known has loved a sip of tepid milky tea.
My Grandson included.
What is wrong with people ?

It's not so much the giving of the tea - it's the lying about it that would make me distrustful of them.

If they didn't give tea, but let your baby close enough to spill a hot drink held by an adult, that's also very worrying for safety.

I'd be reluctant to let them have the baby again if they can't be honest and/or careful with hot things.

What age do you start giving them tea from?

Just because a child likes something doesn’t mean it’s good for them.

And if you were my child’s grandmother and you gave it to them without my permission you wouldn’t see them unsupervised again.

I’ve never in my life heard of anyone giving a baby tea, no matter how milky.

I'd be unimpressed by anyone giving my baby tea and I'd make sure they know not to do it again, but it's not the end of the world and I'd get over it.

However, there's now two possibilities here; either they're lying by denying giving the baby tea, in which case I'd be absolutely furious. I cannot stand lying about things like this, I would not allow people who lie to me to look after my child.

The other possibility is they really did spill tea on the baby, in which case I'd be angry they had hot drinks around a baby because that's just stupid behaviour. I'd not trust them to look after my baby again.

Does your partner have form for lying? That's the bit that would make me the most cross.

@Coffeellama

7 year olds can usually identify the mouth on the human body, and no what a person drinking knows like. It’s not rocket science is it. Although maybe it is for some…

Yes they can. I quite agree.

And sometimes they can also misunderstand.

I think you missed my tone. I was agreeing with @WeCome1 that just because we survived something doesn’t make it a good idea.

I really wasn’t advocating catapulting babies across rooms……

@Mumoftwoinprimary

We used to travel in the boot too (80s) - great fun, loved waving to people behind.

We never travelled in the boot again from the day my dad, a firefighter, attended a car crash where children doing just that where killed. Everyone else in the car survived.

Me and you survived, but those children didn't.

Sorry for the derail of a not so serious thread, but responses like 'we were ok' to argue that something back in the 60s, 70s, 80s is just rediculous, because there were always people who didn't survive, which is the very reason why things change.

^sorry, didn't see your above post before I replied. I must have missed your tone too!

I know! It seems my tone was not clear. I am also not advocating catapulting babies across rooms.

My point was - I survived all sorts of things that are now blatantly ridiculously dangerous - it doesn’t make them a good idea.

I gave mine milky tea from being a few weeks old. They're absolutely fine.

’Im a bit of a crap parent and don’t follow basic guidelines or medical advice, but my baby is fine’ well done you 👍

How do you know it's tea stains? How old is your eldest son? And would he know/understand what happened, and a sip of tea does it matter if it happened? Storm in a teacup.

He'll be fine, my mum gave dd milky tea at that age, she refused to drink expressed breast milk from the bottle or cup, nor formula but loved tea (90% formula) go figure but it meant i could leave her for more than 90 minutes (she demand fed day and night at least 12 times in 24 hours, exhausting)

Why???

@Mumoftwoinprimary Ah sorry! It’s hard to understand tone over the internet sometimes and some people really do think like that 🤨

Dreadful advice.

I’ve never heard of anyone giving a baby tea. No idea why someone would do that and I’d be seriously unimpressed.