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Sick of train driver just passing me

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gypsytrampandthief · 25/02/2023 23:25

Twice this week the driver "hasn't seen me" (despite today standing as close to the track as is reasonably safe and waving) Yesterday morning he didn't stop and I drove to the next station, passing the train, and got to the platform where he had pulled in for a group of teenage female students going to college. I was so furious I spoke to the ticket inspector and explained that this is the second time the driver has gone right by me. For complete transparency, the first time I was looking at my phone and late to wave, but ffs, why else would anyone be standing on an empty platform at 7.10 in the morning! Yesterday I was 100% looking up and arm out.

AIBU to think that a dumpy middle aged woman is not as "visible" as a teenage student?

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KievsOutTheOven · 25/02/2023 23:26

That’s not how trains work though is it? It’s not like a bus where they only stop when someone needs on or off, they stop regardless?

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 25/02/2023 23:26

Train driver? This is some kind of tram, I assume?

AndTheSurveySays · 25/02/2023 23:27

But trains stop at every station they're supposed to. You don't press a bell like on a bus or tram.

NoDairyNoProblem · 25/02/2023 23:27

Trains have set stops.

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 25/02/2023 23:27

Are you in the UK, OP?

SpinningFloppa · 25/02/2023 23:28

What? Trains stop at every station? It’s not a bus.

Hooklander · 25/02/2023 23:28

Not all trains in the world are equal.

Aposterhasnoname · 25/02/2023 23:28

Huh, that’s not how trains work. You sure that train was scheduled to stop at your station? Have the stops changed maybe?

PriamFarrl · 25/02/2023 23:29

Some very small train stations are request stops. I grew up near a couple. You literally flag the train down, like a bus.

OntarioBagnet · 25/02/2023 23:29

Some train stations in the U.K. are still request stops.

Notanotherone5 · 25/02/2023 23:29

There are some train stations where the train only stops on request (en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Railway_request_stops_in_Great_Britain)

AgonyAgatha · 25/02/2023 23:29

Some trains do not stop at every station - you have to signal them. We have a line local to us which is like this. It also isn't electrified yet.

Yanbu OP. I still have anxiety dreams about the train not stopping to let me off or on!

WarningToTheCurious · 25/02/2023 23:29

KievsOutTheOven · 25/02/2023 23:26

That’s not how trains work though is it? It’s not like a bus where they only stop when someone needs on or off, they stop regardless?

Yes it is!

There are still train stations that you have to stick your hand out for the train to stop - or ask the conductor to stop the train so that you can get off.

9Feb · 25/02/2023 23:30

Railway Request Stops in the UK.

OntarioBagnet · 25/02/2023 23:30

In fact 137 stations! en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Category:Railway_request_stops_in_Great_Britain

olderthanyouthink · 25/02/2023 23:31

That's so weird! They must be very slow trains?!

NoDairyNoProblem · 25/02/2023 23:31

My mind is blown!

StreamingCervix · 25/02/2023 23:31

That does sound annoying. What are you wearing? I wonder if you could appear quite dark/camouflaged.

SuperCallousedFragileMystic · 25/02/2023 23:32

Why is it some MNetters can never grasp the concept that not everywhere does things the same? This entire thread will now go off on a tangent of ‘well that doesn’t happen here’.

Meanwhile OP, YANBU. Invisibility seems to be a common side effect of becoming a middle aged woman.

R0ckets · 25/02/2023 23:33

I had no idea there was such a thing as request stations. You learn something new every day.

If you're the only one at the station is it possible to go to the next station instead as it appears its a busier station and therefore the driver is much more likely to stop.

OnSecondThoughts · 25/02/2023 23:33

If you can wave at it to stop, and it doesn't, and you have enough time to go back to your car and drive to the next station, passing ("overtaking") the train on the way, then I was wondering why bother with a train at all?

KievsOutTheOven · 25/02/2023 23:34

WarningToTheCurious · 25/02/2023 23:29

Yes it is!

There are still train stations that you have to stick your hand out for the train to stop - or ask the conductor to stop the train so that you can get off.

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I’ve literally never seen this. I rarely even see a conductor mind you …

Surely it’s pretty rare? And how slow is the train going that OP can get off the platform, into a car, drive to another station, park their car, get out car, and get back on to platform before the train even gets there? That wouldn’t be possible on any trains I’ve been on (not saying it’s not true, it’s just really surprising to me and not at all my experience)

nocoolnamesleft · 25/02/2023 23:34

That seems to be a lot of people who have never heard of request stops. I presume they've never lived rurally.

WarningToTheCurious · 25/02/2023 23:34

I ended up going to the end of the line because the conductor forgot to stop off for me - I could see my mum in the car park as we sailed by. It was pre mobile phones and I had to rely on somebody giving me a lift back.

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gypsytrampandthief · 25/02/2023 23:34

Yes I'm in the U.K., sorry I should have clarified there are several request stops on my commute, its just really frustrating that I'm apparently completely invisible!

It's fine on the return as the ticket inspector makes a note of where people want to get off so the driver knows to stop

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