To think that INFJ is a made up thing?

[beautyandtheflleced]

Quiet and introverted type ?
A future date described himself as this in his profile.
What are the dark sides ?
Sounds a bit wanky or is it a thing ?

Its a thing in that a surprising number of blokes stick it on their profiles. A guaranteed pass from me.

One of these things picked up by businesses a lot but like everything designed to stick people in convenient boxes it's not hugely reliable.

So a yeah, a bit wanky.

Personality profiles were all a big thing when I was at school. Often used during careers lessons to find out which jobs fit your personality an introverted type is unlikely to enjoy working in a busy, customer facing role whereas an extrovert would hate lone working etc.

A person who feels the need to declare their ‘type’ is someone I’d avoid tbh.

It depends on if the person using the label fully understands the complexities with it.

Yes.

Not that it doesn't have some use / tell you something about a person.

I think if someone feels it describes their quirks well, it’s a good way to tell a little about someone in very few words. It wouldn’t bother me.

However every time I do the test I get wildly different results so it’s completely not valid for me.

I personally find starsigns to be a crock of shit but a friend told me I’m a total Aries (I am an Aries) so I looked it up and sure enough, it describes me to a tee.

Personally I'd run a mile at that personality type- they are reserved (difficult to get to know), perfectionists, hard to please , don't express themselves...
This person is telling you up front so that when you eventually complain about their aloofness they'll be able to say I told you so upfront. Run don't walk

It's Myers Briggs. It's part of management training about personality styles but it's a load of crock really. Is he a management consultant or something? Some people are really into it. My DH had it done for work and felt like it validated his introversion and made him feel more acknowledged and his skills recognised so it has value in that sense for some people

Ps: I'm an ENTJ, apparently ... same as Thatcher!

Isn't the j in this judgy? Which is a really horrible thing to be. I never get why anyone announces this personality type as if it's a positive. Swipe left.

If someone uses a crappy personality test to describe themselves I‘d assume they are rather dull to be around. Hard pass from me.

Me too although sometimes ENFJ

I can never get through the test, or any other test like it without stopping because I am bored shitless and my brown hurts. I’ve often wondered what that says about me.

My brain, not brown 🤣

@arethereanyleftatall yes but it isn't supposed to be interpreted in such a negative way. It doesn't mean "judgemental of other people" it's about how you filter information.
It's supposed to mean that you view the world in a set of ways and tend to fit things you come across into those existing truths, as opposed to people who have a much more flexible set of structures/values through which they interpret the world (which if you equally wanted to be critical you could say as "devoid of any personal values" but it doesn't mean that)

See www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/the-16-mbti-types.htm

Its been around a while, not very popular these days.

I’m not into these personality tests at all so except from knowing I was for introversion and had no idea what this was. But something just told me it would be 1. rare and 2. the personality type that sounds most appealing on a dating site.

Amazingly I was right!

I’d give anyone waving this about as a credential a wide berth. They’re likely to have this personality type in the same way as self-described nice guys turn out to be not-nice.

INFJ's are rare, so he's probably quite proud of it. And if you look up well known people who are seen as having that profile it sseems they are an interesting bunch! It wouldn't put me off. If you are a 'party' person you probably wouldn't be compatible though.

This is what he wants it to mean:

INFJ
Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.

Myers Briggs is a very good way to understand yourself and what will work for you/others. I remember when a tutor on a training course split the group in two according to Myers Briggs and then asked us to draw the Eiffel Tower. The two approaches could not have been more different.

Surely it would be quicker to just tell people that you are a narcissist?

He probably thinks that it makes him really interesting which probably means that he’s really not.

I'm an INFJ and I'm bloody amazing! Look up INFJs in relationships and it'll give you an idea what he's likely to be like.

Im The Advocate in myers briggs, think its INFJ

I wouldn't advertise this...

I’m an INFJ.

I’m none of those things! Still come out as an INFJ every time.

I think it's helpful to signpost if you are introverted or extroverted.