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AIBU?

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A parking one...

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mrsflanders23 · 24/02/2023 17:22

So I live in a street of mainly terraces. I'm one of few houses that has a drive (I'm an end terrace). There is green space across the road though with no houses so there is generally enough parking for everyone iykwim.

I don't use the drive a lot recently, I have quite a big car and the drive is narrow so I find it more effort to park up there sometimes (a bit of laziness on my part). If I can park on the road I will. I used to have a smaller car and used the drive a lot more.

I guess people on the street have noticed that I'm not using the drive as much and I've had a spate of people parking across my drive... I've not said anything so far as I don't want to fall out with anyone but there have been occasions where I haven't been able to get a parking space near my house and then haven't been able to park up my drive as it's been parked over. I've then had to park further up the street... but hey ho.

Issue is- I'm heavily pregnant, baby due in a matter of weeks. The people parking over my drive thing has started to annoy me a little recently as I'm thinking with a baby I will more than likely want to use my drive if I can park at the front of my house.

I've had various complications and this week I've been at hospital nearly every day. Feeling a bit flustered and stressed. Approached my house in car to see neighbour park 3/4 of way over my drive. No drama, space at front of my house I suppose.

As I got out of my car said neighbour approached me, and told me, didn't ask, but told me, that they now have two cars and would be parking "like this from now on" (gesturing to the way his car was parked over my drive). And that "you know where we are if you want us to move".

I was in such a stress and fluster that I just said "okay" and hurried into my house.

Thing is, I don't want to have to go and knock on doors and ask people to move when I have a newborn baby. I want to be able to use my drive, or not use my drive, or do whatever I like with my drive, which is one of the reasons I bought the house.

If I choose, or choose not to use it, surely that is my choice?

AIBU?

Would I be unreasonable to go speak to neighbour and tell them no?

Oh and I've never parked at the front of this neighbours house or anything like that so it's no kind of weird retaliation from them. I either park in front of my house if available, or across the road where there are no houses.

OP posts:

Alice786 · 03/03/2023 10:48

Park in front of your drive that way you don't have to park in your drive and you are not taking up a parking space. Tell everyone not to park in front of your drive regardless of whether you use it or not if they still do it call the council and get them a ticket and they won't do it again.

whynotwhatknot · 03/03/2023 13:12

i still dont get how him parking near his house wll stop someone damaging his car

if he wants to protect he just needs dashcams

HowcanIgetoutofthisalive · 03/03/2023 13:26

Can't understand why people are piling on you and saying you're in the wrong OP.

Just tell your neighbour that he'll have to park elsewhere as you intend to use your driveway going forward as you'll have a little baby to carry around and you don't want to schlep up/down/across the road with said baby and 3 other kids in tow.

He shouldn't be parking over your drive anyway. Hopefully he'll see reason and won't be a nob.

SinnerBoy · 04/03/2023 14:08

@mrsflanders23

You think you've got it bad, take a look at this!

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-11819657/Man-sex-wife-bollard-erected-stop-parking-campervan.html

VanillaImpulse · 08/03/2023 00:38

Hope you're doing ok @mrsflanders23

WombatChocolate · 08/03/2023 16:47

Yes, hope you’re okay. If that guy is still there or parking there, he’s essentially bullying you.

Youve asked him not to and have right on your side. To ignore that and to continue is totally unacceptable.

But bullies rely on people being scared of them and not standing up to them. Report it the council with a picture. And do it every time it happens.

I know you don’t want awkward neighbourly relations….but it his actions that have made it awkward. Now he’s hoping you will let it go and he will get his way. Don’t. You do t have to deal with him direct if you don’t want to. Email the council about the ongoing situation.

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mrsflanders23 · 11/03/2023 14:48

I'm still here everyone, thanks for the messages! Booked into have baby next week!

I happened to see neighbour outside on bin day and again made clear that I wasn't in agreement with him parking over the drive, he just shrugged at me and walked off.

Since then instead of parking maybe half over or 2/3 over he is blatantly blocking the whole lot

Currently is in that spot blocking the entire drive, even though the street is basically empty and there is ample space on the other side of the road and actually on this side of the road as well right next to his house... so clearly doing it now just to make a point!

So I'm happy to report that I've taken the step of reporting to the council and requesting enforcement, will see what happens with that! I really don't want a fall out but I do feel like I've been reasonable?

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heldinadream · 11/03/2023 14:54

Completely reasonable OP and I hope it gets a result.

And good luck with your baby result too!

SinnerBoy · 11/03/2023 15:04

You've been perfectly reasonable, he's been a complete arse. Don't blame yourself.

WombatChocolate · 11/03/2023 16:02

Good luck for next week with your baby. Exciting times.

What an arse he is. I hope you return with your baby to find his car with a ticket on it.

You’ve done what you can. You’ve made clear that you don’t want him to do it more than once. He has continued to block your driveway. I really hope the council do act on it and you dont have to report it multiple times.

I realise you’re about to have the baby, but if I were you and had the time, I’d take a picture every day he is there and attach to a repeat email that I sent to the council every day, as well as the Police.

He is a bully.

billy1966 · 11/03/2023 16:25

I hope you have plenty of photos.

I would report him to 101 for harassment too.

NailsForBreakfastTacksForSnacks · 11/03/2023 17:27

Knock on the door and ask him to move.
Every. Single. Time.

WiddlinDiddlin · 11/03/2023 19:19

Oh I do hope he gets a parking ticket for it... I bet he will think you're super unreasonable when he does! What a twat.

juliettesmother · 11/03/2023 21:39

NailsForBreakfastTacksForSnacks · 11/03/2023 17:27

Knock on the door and ask him to move.
Every. Single. Time.

This. Rude entitled bastard

Msmossy · 11/03/2023 22:05

What a prick. Wonder if we would do that to a man. You've done the right thing. Good luck for next week.

SchoolTripDrama · 11/03/2023 23:03

mrsflanders23 · 11/03/2023 14:48

I'm still here everyone, thanks for the messages! Booked into have baby next week!

I happened to see neighbour outside on bin day and again made clear that I wasn't in agreement with him parking over the drive, he just shrugged at me and walked off.

Since then instead of parking maybe half over or 2/3 over he is blatantly blocking the whole lot

Well done OP! Best of luck with the baby! Please come back and update us all on both council enforcement and baby! 💛

user1471447863 · 12/03/2023 00:03

Once again the poor reading comprehension on MN strikes again 😡
@mrsflanders23 you've done well keeping your cool with those that can't comprehend the basic statements you've made let alone with bellend entitled neighbour.
Hope the council sort him out - though they do tent to work at a pace that make glaciers seem quick so i wouldn't hold my breath for any action soon.

You're doing well getting a car along that drive way unscathed with mirrors in. 2.12m is more than tight. It must have been tight even in the olden days when cars were a foot narrower than they are now - even then it must have been a drive through and not a spot to get in or out.

How old are your other kids & how safe is the pavement/street for playing? Bellend may chose to keep his precious car elsewhere if there were children wobbling around on bikes and scooters next to it and its precious paintwork 👀

Bluetrews25 · 12/03/2023 07:52

Best of luck for next week.
Hope all goes well.

VanillaImpulse · 12/03/2023 20:55

Definitely sounds like he's taking the piss. Agree with above, I'd have the kids out there going very close to his car with bikes and scooters etc!

cosmiccosmos · 12/03/2023 21:24

Thank you for the update OP and good luck with the baby!

Well done for reporting the neighbour, what a horrible man.

jasminetrampoline · 12/03/2023 22:05

Best of luck nest week and glad to hear you have reported him, what an idiot he is

juliettesmother · 13/03/2023 19:58

Good luck for the baby!

bellabasset · 18/03/2023 14:14

I'm a bit mischievous so I'd definitely be double parking and putting the shopping on the bonnet of the car to save me walking round each time. Your older dcs could take it off onto the drive

HappyMothersDayLadiesofMN · 19/03/2023 08:59

Good luck with the baby OP. I hope you're doing ok

thebestbirtheraccordingtoDD · 01/05/2023 22:31

How's it going with the baby?

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