Calling all Violet’s / mothers of Violet’s

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i had a DD recently and called her Violet. I have struggled since with the name - I like it myself but I worry my lovely DD will be bullied because of a name I gave her - I think this was triggered by a thread I read on mumsnet saying it’s like violent / vile. I’m tying myself in knots worrying I’ve ruined her life and it’ll be all my fault. I’m also in Northern Ireland and the name isn’t as popular here as the U.K. and I worry about regional pronunciation.

if you have a Violet in their teens / are an adult Violet have you been name called or bullied because of your name?

I guess as it’s AIBU (although I’m mainly posting for traffic) AIBU about my babies name.

It's a beautiful name OP, in no way have I ever associated it with anything horrible. Congratulations, relax and enjoy your beautiful little girl

I have one but she's too young to comment on bullying etc. i love the name, mumsnet always has weird connections with names. Kids will use all sorts of reasons to bully others but because a name sounds like 'violent' would be a stretch even for them!

YABU for the stupid apostrophes

I think it a beautiful name

Beautiful name!!

Pretty, pretty name. I love it!

Wouldn't associate it with violence at all.

Just William maybe - as long as she doesn't scweam and scweam until she's sick😀

It's a beautiful name and I have it saved on my list if I ever have a girl 🤞🥰
I have never heard it being referred to as violent/vile before.
Some people are thoughtless and mean about people names!

It's a nice name and nobody will bat an eyelid

I don't think it'll be a thing. If it is, teach her to say "Oh I really am" with a look, she'll be fine.

If you're super stressing, shorten to Lettie, we know one and I think it's a really cute name.

There's a teenage Violet in the school I work at - never heard a single comment about her name.

I think it’s a lovely name.

When my youngest was a baby I went through a phase of fixating on her name and wondering if I’d chosen the wrong one, I look back now and realise it’s because I was quite anxious and isolated and that’s how I was channeling it. Just thought I’d mention if that might apply to you too OP.

It’s a lovely name

She’ll need a shorter version (no one bothers to pronounce 3 syllable names every time) so maybe think about what you want her nickname to be. Vi? Etta?

I think it's a beautiful name

I don't understand comments like this when a person is very clearly worried about their choice. You're proving that a grown adult will take the piss out of a small child's name. Doesn't full them with confidence really does it!

I wanted to name our youngest Violet, and then a colleague mentioned it sounded like Violent and I couldn't bring myself to do it. I regret not using it now, it's a beautiful name!

People LOVE to be nasty on name threads, and will say all sorts. It’s a lovely name. It’s one of a few names that suits someone at every age throughout life.

Thanks everyone for your lovely messages. It means a lot to see others don’t make the same associations. I do think those who have mentioned anxiety may be correct. I was very happy with the name initially then the overthinking crept in and I’ve been looking for/watching movies where people are called Violet to see if it’s ok in the movie or what her peers might think when they meet her / have watched these shows. I do love the name and so does my husband. I just worry.

Nickname wise it’ll probably be V as my DH already calls his brother and me by our initials even though we have normal names where the initial wouldn’t be a nickname.

Totally outing but one of my granddaughter's is called violet and it suits her, her little sister pronounces it liolet so he nickname is lilac

I live on a small country road and every year when I start to see smatterings of wild violets it gives me such a boost - they are so lovely. Not really what you asked for OP, I know, but in case it helps to hear another positive association with the word.

It’s a cute name but yeah, people can be really shit at accurately reading names, especially if they look at first glance like a different word.

e.g. My brother’s name is Harvir and the number of people who glance briefly, then confidently state ‘Xavier!’ is remarkable. Especially as it’s pronounced as it’s written!

so she will definitely get people who are crap at reading/attention to detail saying ‘violent’ as she grows, but that’s no reason not to have it as a name. It’s perfectly nice.

Not at all.

My DD's bestie is called violet (aged 9)

This far zero bullying, I love the name!

My daughters middle name is violet and she loves it.

I think it's a gorgeous timeless name! So pretty, yet can imagine it being on a sophisticated grown up woman as well. Also suits an old lady. Pretty great name!