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I've just called the police on him

102 replies

Iamworthit · 23/02/2023 21:54

I'm waiting for them to turn up.

Advice from my last post was to phone the police if I felt threatened.

I'd put our son to sleep and was lying in my bed, just in my nighty, in my bedroom that i share with my son. He was in the shed where he hangs out and sleeps. He had already said goodnight to the children. He had also let me watch them yesterday alone, all night last night whilst he slept in the shed and half of today.

Basically abruptly out of no where he is out side my bedroom door, tells me he wants to talk and pushes open the door without any notice or even a knock. He asks me what I'm doing, to which I reply "it's none of your business", because I'm feeling vulnerable that he's just come in. He then tells me he can do what ever he likes, it's his house, he can open any door he wants, and if he wants he can kick me out on the street right now.

I felt really threatened so just called the police. I told the operator what's happened and she's sending some police over!

He's on the phone to his dad, pacing downstairs.

He's just come up with a glass of water, to check I'm OK, because I have a mental health condition... all whilst his dad's listening.

I feel stupid for calling, but I feel scared, I don't know what to do.

OP posts:
autienotnaughty · 23/02/2023 21:56

I remember your last post. You did the right thing. Stay safe.

Iamworthit · 23/02/2023 21:56

Oh and the operator said on loud speaker to stay away from each other. But he's still keeping on checking on me

OP posts:
MrNook · 23/02/2023 21:58

You've done the right thing

qwertykeyboards · 23/02/2023 22:00

You did the right thing no one should be made to feel threatened in their own home.

AnneLovesGilbert · 23/02/2023 22:02

Hope they come soon.

MrsMenmen · 23/02/2023 22:05

Hope you are okay. Xx

Iamworthit · 23/02/2023 22:05

He's now talking to his mum on the phone, speaking into the phone, coming up amd down the stairs, asking if I'm OK, that I don't look OK and that does he need to call a mental health team. He's being calm it's creeping me out

OP posts:
RosieMolloy · 23/02/2023 22:05

whats your plan whilst you wait?
who do you want to leave, him or you?
do you have keys, chargers, and meds, everything you need to hand?

RosieMolloy · 23/02/2023 22:06

Iamworthit · 23/02/2023 22:05

He's now talking to his mum on the phone, speaking into the phone, coming up amd down the stairs, asking if I'm OK, that I don't look OK and that does he need to call a mental health team. He's being calm it's creeping me out

Do you have a mental health team and does he actually know who to call?

Starlighttwinkle · 23/02/2023 22:07

The police will call a mental health team if you need it.

They will ask you some questions, separately to him. Please be honest. They will likely ask him to stay elsewhere tonight.

I hope you’re ok

Clarissa111 · 23/02/2023 22:08

Oh please be careful. It sounds like he's trying to make out that you are having a mental health crisis ans he's innocent. Please stay calm when police get there.

Showmethefood · 23/02/2023 22:11

Im so sorry that you are going through this. My thoughts are with you and I hope everything turns out ok for you 💐

LeggyLinda · 23/02/2023 22:13

I didn’t see your last post; so excuse me for not understanding and finding this a bit weird.
But, obviously there is history here and, having been in a similar-ish situation in the past, I would not want to read and run - totally recommend taking the advice and staying away from each other until services arrive. I know this can be difficult if other person doesn’t agree to it. Keep your phone connected if you can until they arrive.

Hope it all works out.

Pompom2367 · 23/02/2023 22:14

Op keep your phone on record so you have evidence of anything

Whiskeypowers · 23/02/2023 22:15

I’ve just read your other most recent thread.
his behaviour is textbook abuser and very sinister.

trust the real professionals to comment on your mental health not the freak in the shed who is the one with the really worrying problems.

Hope the police are there soon

Icanflyhigh · 23/02/2023 22:25

I can't see your other post, but it sounds like he's being deliberately calm to make out you have a mental health issue. Don't be fooled and trust that the professionals won't be fooled by him either x

Pseudonamed · 23/02/2023 22:27

He sounds dangerous. Making calls and coming up pretending to ask if you are ok and asking about your mental health so he has witnesses. He is blaming this all on you.

Guavafish1 · 23/02/2023 22:30

Are the police coming?

Noicant · 23/02/2023 22:30

Sorry I haven’t seem your other thread. Try to stay as calm as possible (I appreciate that may be very hard) explain the history to the police. He’s going to try to make out that you are unhinged and he has to cope with you as a loving husband. Do your best to keep it together xx.

Iamworthit · 23/02/2023 22:32

It's been an hour now and still no sign.

OP posts:
RosieMolloy · 23/02/2023 22:33

Iamworthit · 23/02/2023 22:32

It's been an hour now and still no sign.

Where is he
where are you?

im hoping it’s a wee bit calmer now

quietnightmare · 23/02/2023 22:35

When the police come explain calmly and honestly. If you get upset and cry that's not an issue just don't fly off the handle it seems that your other half will try and twist this on you and make it seem like he is all innocent. I haven't seen your other thread but from other responses I'm assuming there's more to this

ShinyHappyTits · 23/02/2023 22:37

I remember your other thread. He’s a nasty piece of work, isn’t he. Well done for calling the police, I hope they turn up soon and please try to stay calm when they do, let your DC see you’re the one in control.
I would really try and engage with your GP and mental health team if you haven’t been discharged, get this on record and they will hopefully be able to say that there’s no basis to his concerns whatsoever. Hand hold 💐

Iamworthit · 23/02/2023 22:37

The kids are all asleep. If they ask if I want to leave is there somewhere I can go. Would it be held against me if the kids stay with him here. I think I'd be scared to go to sleep. I don't know what to do.

OP posts:
RosieMolloy · 23/02/2023 22:42

Iamworthit · 23/02/2023 22:37

The kids are all asleep. If they ask if I want to leave is there somewhere I can go. Would it be held against me if the kids stay with him here. I think I'd be scared to go to sleep. I don't know what to do.

Can you stay in the house with your DC and let him go with the police, it’s not your job to worry about that.

you need to look out for you right now

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