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Constant Moaning

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Fairytits · 22/02/2023 20:58

I am sick and tired of my partner's constant moaning.
It's constant, repetitive, he drones on & on & on saying the same things he says every time he moans about a particular subject, almost like he's on autopilot, he knows it annoys me, yet on & on he goes:
It's everything & everyone.

If we are driving, it will be everyone elses driving or bright lights from other cars, for the entire journey, every journey. This happens every time we are in the car, the same complaints, his moaning neither changes or solves anything just annoys me and anyone else in the car. He even arrives home after work and feels the need to give me a debrief on his drive to and from work.

Seemingly everyone he works with is incompetent, he is the only one who knows how to do anything properly, everyone else is lazy, his boss is incompetent and everyone he works with is two faced.

Even family & friends have huge failings which I am told of on repeat.

Then there is the noise that anyone else makes where we live, be it DIY, music, kids playing.

Don't get me started on his annoyance at everyone elses parking on our street or the number of cars they park on the road.
Smells, unexplained noises, BBQs, people looking at him funny, chainsaws , other people's dogs barking etc etc etc in fact, you name it - he will have some beef with it !

The moaning is relentless and on particular subjects it is as if it is on repeat, the same phrases the same gripes over & over & over.

He is not interested in solutions, compromise, having it pointed out to him that he has car lights, does DIY, owns a barking dog, has a BBQ, in fact does most of the things he complains about in others !

It is annoying, exhausting, to me pointless, he winds himself up over things that I see as " life"
Frankly we have bigger problems than above, aging parents, job security, rising prices, but he focuses on the trivial ?

So, my aibu question is just that ?
Or does anyone else have one of these and the manual ?

OP posts:
ATastingMenuButItsAllCrisps · 23/11/2024 11:28

@SpunkyFatball the thread is from last year. OPs boyfriend is not a Labrador needing praise
Hopefully she's dumped the bore now.

BananaPalm · 23/11/2024 21:15

Well, since this thread has already been resurrected, does anyone have any advice on how to find "joy" when living in such situation?

Just to feel a bit giddy, joyful, not asking for some massive happiness but bits/pockets of consistent, genuine joy sprinkled here and there?

Crikeyalmighty · 24/11/2024 10:22

@BananaPalm yep in my case it's like living with a much better looking, non retired Victor meldrew- doesn't help that my H hates the UK - we lived overseas for 2 years and came back for family and business reasons but yep he still can't stand it -

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