To tell her she’s overdoing the Botox

[Permanentlysurprised]

Just this really, do I tell my friend or do I just keep my unsolicited opinions to myself?
Just for a bit of context, we are part of a group of friends from Uni. She was a mature student and is 8/9 years older than the rest of us.
She is attractive with a great figure and hair and over the past few years, has really started making an effort with how she looks and she looks better now than she did 10 ears ago.
But recently she’s been doing more and more and has that frozen look, no expression. She’s just booked yet another appointment.
She’s a very good friend, the kind where we always promise to tell the other if they have spinach in their teeth or snot on their nose. I would want her to tell me if our positions were reversed.
YABU Don’t tell her, it’s got nowt to do with you.
YANBU Tell her, be honest, it’s what a good friend would do.

Honestly I wouldn’t say anything. It’s only too much in your opinion, just let people look how they want to.

I wouldn’t.

I wouldn't. The thing is, she's looking in the mirror and deciding she looks good and opting herself for more Botox. So obviously happy with what she sees. Totally different to spinach in teeth to me, etc.

Some people like the frozen look, they specifically ask for it. It’s not really any of your concern just because you don’t like it, it’s an aesthetic she likes so leave her be.

Thank you all, I won’t say anything. You’re right, it is totally subjective and I guess I might be the only one who thinks it.

I wouldnt. She might love how she looks and there's no coming back from the offence it could cause.

I would, tactfully, just because I’d want to be told. I’d say something like -it still looks like it’s active, you could probably get away with leaving it for a bit. It’s seems unlikely she’s deliberately going for the frozen look.

You could tell her, but she probably wouldn’t even raise an eyebrow.

If she asked for your opinion I'd tell her.

Good one. 🤣🤣🤣

Seriously, tell her.
She sounds like the type of woman who’d keep a stiff upper lip.

Haha 😂😂

It’s hard because what one person thinks is too much another thinks it is the look they want. You could maybe gently say you think she looks great atm and to maybe wait a bit longer for the next appt to be more effective.

On the plus side if she’s pissed off with you for saying anything, you won’t be able to tell from her expression. Sorry, I couldn’t joining in!

that Should say couldn’t resist joining in!

My friend has been doing this more and more and I think she looks awful. I can't get my head around the trend of this frozen, fake look.

It has put me off her a bit tbh. I can't look at her face without wanting to cringe.

I wouldn't say anything to her though. Unless she asked.

I wouldn't.
I ask for the frozen look, because it only stays fully frozen for a bit.

This properly cracked me up 🤣

I can see why you wouldn’t say but I would also want to be told; I was bleaching way too much and my best pal said look mate, no offence but it’s gone a bit Galadriel. I didn’t get offended, we are similarly frank 😂

Botox and fillers are like bleach, ALGALW and sometimes we all do get to that point where we can’t stop, and then we fuck it up. I’d probably say ‘does it need doing just now, you already look amazing.’ If she persists then you can’t say anymore, it’s obviously what she wants.

😂😂😂

Omg there are so many women who have had their lips trout pouted and their foreheads so smooth it looks plastic.

I honestly would not say a word.

There is a woman at the gym who has had the above mentioned done and cheek fillers and it looks so corpse like and plasticky, you wonder why it's so popular.

To say anything at all would be cruel and as Madonna says, misogynistic, as men don't get the same scrutiny about how they look.

I keep my feelings to myself and am only ever kind, as to have that level of insecurity about facially growing old is society level sickness and people who suffer from it deserve compassion.

Gone a bit Galadriel 🤣
Funnily enough when I decided to embrace the white hair (age, not bleach) it was my friends who gently told me it might look better with a hint of blonde. I was so offended I didn’t speak to them again…… No, I’m joking, I was slightly pissed off that I clearly wasn’t young enough looking for the grey to look like a trendy choice, but grateful, because the blonde is way better!

On the other side of the coin…
I had some filler done and then a year or so later said to my friend “do you think I should go back for more? ” and I was surprised with the swiftness of the “yes”. A bit blunt but back I went…
For other reasons we’re no longer friends!

Rinkydinkydoodle
I was bleaching way too much and my best pal said look mate, no offence but it’s gone a bit Galadriel
🤣
We all need friends like that (I had to look up who Galadriel was!).

OP I'd be tactful as in 'oh, you look really good you can go a bit longer between treatments now'. & I'd only say that if Botox was specifically the topic.

If she wants to look like The Face Of Bo its up to her

The thing is Botox looks harsh at first then wears off after a few days to the optimal position. It might look better as time goes on

yeah, my friend has also had filler and that actually looks great. I’m sure your ex friend meant that yours just enhanced your natural beauty!