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Three in a bedroom…what did you do?

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AmIBeingUnreasonableThisTime · 19/02/2023 20:25

So…

I have a 7yo step daughter and 3yo twins.

Step daughter is here EOW (extra in school hols) and has her own bedroom, twins share. Step daughter doesn’t like sleeping on her own and chooses to share a room with the twins. This means stepdaughter is currently sleeping on a pull out chair bed.

This only started a few months ago but now it looks like it will be long term so a chair bed isn’t ideal. However, we can only fit another bed in if we take everything else in the twins room out (wardrobe, bookcase, etc). There isn’t loads in there to take out but it’s all the personal things and there would be pretty much no floor space after that.

AIBU to not want to take everything out of the kids bedroom to have a room full of beds that’s challenging to get everyone ready for bed in?

Has anyone else been in this situation and how did you resolve it?

Thanks

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rainyalan · 19/02/2023 20:26

One room for just sleeping other room for toys and clothes etc?

MrsMitford3 · 19/02/2023 20:26

Could you make one of the rooms for sleeping for all 3 and then the other for wardrobes, toys etc?

DubiousGoals · 19/02/2023 20:27

Assuming the twins are ok with sharing, can you use DSD's room as a playroom instead? Put all the books, toys and even clothes in there if it makes more space, and leave the other room just for them to sleep in?

Original poster
AmIBeingUnreasonableThisTime · 19/02/2023 20:27

Forgot to say that bunk beds are feasible due to low ceilings and beams.

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GoodChat · 19/02/2023 20:27

Is a triple bunk any good?

MrsMitford3 · 19/02/2023 20:27

lol @rainyalan cross post, great minds and all that

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AmIBeingUnreasonableThisTime · 19/02/2023 20:28

There aren’t any toys…just a wardrobe and small bookcase/reading corner type thing

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ToriLynn · 19/02/2023 20:28

I'd make the smallest room into a closet for them all and the largest room for all 3 of them.

GoodChat · 19/02/2023 20:28

How about a bed with a pull out second bed?

Grumpybutfunny · 19/02/2023 20:28

Sleeping room and then a play room out of what is her bedroom now? How old is she compared to the twins? Could it just be a passing phase?

NellietheElephantpackedhertrunks · 19/02/2023 20:28

Whose bedroom is bigger? If DSD’s, perhaps move the twins in there so everyone fits and then use their existing room as a bedroom.

As they’re all young, there are probably various bed solutions which would work eg bunk beds with DSD on top bunk for the time being/bed with pull out second bed underneath.

Ahnobother · 19/02/2023 20:29

Knock the two together? Even if it's a double door opening could you create a play and sleeping area?
She might grow out of this though.
We have a standard size bunk bed with a single pull out full size mattress underneath.

Original poster
AmIBeingUnreasonableThisTime · 19/02/2023 20:32

We’re hoping to move soon so we don’t really want to lose a bedroom by taking down walls (even if we could afford to).

I was thinking pull out bed type thing but I think DH wants to make it a permanent thing but with DSD still keeping her own room should she change her mind.

This sounds harsh but I want twins to have a nice bedroom too…especially as DSD isn’t here as much as we’d like

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Clymene · 19/02/2023 20:36

She needs to sleep in her own room or with you. It's mad that you're disrupting your babies like this.

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AmIBeingUnreasonableThisTime · 19/02/2023 20:38

@Clymene
She cosleeps at mums so it’s not fair to make her sleep alone when with us. Not fair on our children to sleep with her but not them so this works best for us. They all generally sleep together well and enjoy their “sleepovers”.

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Original poster
AmIBeingUnreasonableThisTime · 19/02/2023 20:38

Are folding Z bed type beds any good and we can review if/when we move?

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AliMonkey · 19/02/2023 20:40

It won't be forever so you may just have to go with the current arrangement. Or as PPs have said, move everything except beds out of the room the sleep in? Or would the twins like separate rooms and she shares with one of them when here?

c0nfusedasalways · 19/02/2023 20:41

AmIBeingUnreasonableThisTime · 19/02/2023 20:32

We’re hoping to move soon so we don’t really want to lose a bedroom by taking down walls (even if we could afford to).

I was thinking pull out bed type thing but I think DH wants to make it a permanent thing but with DSD still keeping her own room should she change her mind.

This sounds harsh but I want twins to have a nice bedroom too…especially as DSD isn’t here as much as we’d like

we have 3 kids in a bedroom and very low ceilings (230cm). We have the 'shorty' bunk beds from argos. it's the perfect height for our tiny flat! and then you could buy another shorty bed.

www.argos.co.uk/product/4255662?clickSR=slp:term:shorty%20bunk%20beds:1:79:1

Their bedroom does look abit hostelish but it looks clean and organised. use second bedroom as playroom/wardrobe space.

Slimmer2018 · 19/02/2023 20:42

You sound like a lovely step mum ❤️ I would go with the previous suggestions of making 1 room the sleeping room so they all have a nice bed and the second room the playroom / wardrobes etc…

Okunevo · 19/02/2023 20:45

Is there a low bunk that could work with the ceiling? I understand about the cosleeping, ds wasn't ready for his own room until 11, not specific to needing me, he happily went off to cub scout and school camps as he wasn't sleeping alone.

Clymene · 19/02/2023 20:47

If she cosleeps, she cosleeps Smile

in that case can you make it more of a room for all 3 of them? And move everything into her room and make it a play/dressing room?

UnattendedPotato · 19/02/2023 20:49

If you have a trundle that converts to double at full height (rather than a drawer under style) and a single then the twins can have own beds in the week the double up on SD weekend and she gets the twin. Have her own bedding so it feels like hers and the double bedding in a pattern the twins choose for their "sleepovers".

Ratatatatatouille · 19/02/2023 20:51

I’d honestly just have a trundle bed that is pulled out when she stays.

ittakes2 · 19/02/2023 20:53

We got our twins a bunk bed that had a double bed down the bottom and the twins slept together in the double bed until they were 8. The top of the bunk was a single bed and used for sleep overs. I would have beds in one room and toys in the other.

CatOnTheChair · 19/02/2023 20:59

Is your room bigger?
Can all three kids have the "master" bedroom, and the adults have the second largest room?

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