Three in a bedroom…what did you do?

[AmIBeingUnreasonableThisTime]

So…

I have a 7yo step daughter and 3yo twins.

Step daughter is here EOW (extra in school hols) and has her own bedroom, twins share. Step daughter doesn’t like sleeping on her own and chooses to share a room with the twins. This means stepdaughter is currently sleeping on a pull out chair bed.

This only started a few months ago but now it looks like it will be long term so a chair bed isn’t ideal. However, we can only fit another bed in if we take everything else in the twins room out (wardrobe, bookcase, etc). There isn’t loads in there to take out but it’s all the personal things and there would be pretty much no floor space after that.

AIBU to not want to take everything out of the kids bedroom to have a room full of beds that’s challenging to get everyone ready for bed in?

Has anyone else been in this situation and how did you resolve it?

Thanks

The thread content doesn’t live up to the title… I thought it was a discussion about threesomes and how to navigate them

I think I’d go trundle if she has another red/bedroom. So she’s choosing where to sleep and it’s got a sleepover type vibe. But twins have 2 beds when just them.

Give the twins a room each and she can alternate sharing

www.ikea.com/ch/en/p/vallentuna-sofa-bed-module-kelinge-rust-s59396730/ We have this, it’s brilliant when folded down and makes a very comfortable bed

How about a cabin bed, not so high as a bunk bed but room to play and store things underneath, and a single bed with one of those pull out ones hiding underneath?

Firstly, I think it’s great that they all get on so well ☺️
If it were me, I’d be making 1 room for them all to sleep in, 1 for clothes and play. I wouldn’t be keeping one for dsd in case she changes her mind back - do what works for you all now and that’s that. Change later down the line if needs be.

Not had to accommodate 3 in a room but our 2 had to share a small room with restricted ceiling height and not enough space for 2 single beds. We had a mid sleeper for eldest and then mattress underneath (on slats, not directly on the floor but not very raised) for youngest.

Would right angles work? So low bed pointing one way and higher one perpendicular over the end of it? Had that arrangement in a hotel once.

My 3 all share (13/10/8) although we are about to move oldest out. It’s the best thing we’ve done….. they are all so close, listen to harrry potter etc each night….. I hear them giggling and laughing with each other.

oldest has her own bed and other 2 go top to tail. Works very well.

You can get low bunkers, the bottom bunk is pretty much a.mattress on the floor and the top bunk is low too.

That's what I'd opt for in your situation.

I like people's idea of the trundle bed in the twins room. That's the best option to keep the room tidy when not in use and the house attractive for selling in the future.
Alternatively, just keep the chair bed if your step daughter is happy enough on it. She may grow out of wanting to share soon and it could coincide with a house move.
Splitting the twins up would be unfair. Having 1 bedroom for beds and 1 for everything else would be a pain (dashing in and out of each room for a change of clothes or the favourite book/toy sounds tiring) and wouldn't make sense in the estate agent's listing when selling the house.

Just let her have a sleepover on the chair bed. My seven year old slept on the floor by choice for about 4 Months lying just on the duvet. An air bed or the chair bed is absolutely fine.

It's really sweet that dsd want to share with twins even if it is a headache.

If dsd is small you could go for a short bed or a day bed so it looks like a sofa when she isn't there and kids can sit on it.

Could you turn dsd bedroom into a spare room/playroom. Turn bed into a day bed with lots of cushions, pop toys in, bean bags for reading, make it a space the twins can play in too.

Would it work doing a u shape with dsd bed across top and twins beds either side. Then if you did day bed it would look like a seating area when dsd not there

Get a good quality z bed. On of my dds sleeps on one when she visits (adult) and it's fine, just get the thicker mattress

Floor Sofa bed in the reading corner?

One king size bed for the three to share? Or will they wake each other (likely)?

If they’re all happy with the chair bed situation and you’re planning to sell soon then why make problems for yourself.

But this isn't fair, she can't have it both ways. She has a perfectly decent bed in her own room, so it's reasonable to say that if she wants to share with her sibs, that she has to have a more "temporary" bed such as a trundle.

Honestly I was about to post this
it’s every other weekend and she’s happy with the chair bed as is
there’s no need to buy bunks or trundles
she has her own room if she wants space and the twins can keep their stuff the way it is

My kids sleep on chair beds at the grandparents for up to a week at a time and they find them very comfortable- and they’re much older and heavier. I find them fine too. I’d just keep going as you are. I used to sleep on one at relatives houses and I liked it - felt quite fun. Add a mattress topper if you like. But she has her own bedroom at yours - if she’s comfy on the chair bed AND has her own bed if she wants it, just keep as is. Especially as you’ll be moving at some point. There are other ways for your DH to show he loves her xx

I'd wait until you move- then you can buy furniture appropriate for the new place.

For now could you not put the mattress from her bedroom on the floor with the twins? Then pop it back the following morning? My eldest (almost 8) loves "camping" in my youngest twos bedroom - they're 3 and 2 we just take his mattress and pop it back the following day.

Was going to suggest the mattress move!

I would just get a pull out. She’s 7, by 8 I doubt she’d be wanting to share a room.

This. Bunk beds plus a single, you can even get a triple bunk. Have the other bedroom as clothes space plus toys.

Ah see I don't think you can give SD two proper beds. So either proper beds (you can get low ones) and third room is a cosy space and play room. OR she keeps her room and sleeps on a trundle under a bed.