To invite my Mum round

[Letsgetreadybaby]

So me and the DCs always go to watch our football team together in the ground with my Mum. Husband also goes but sits with his friends. This was because he refused to move his seat to sit with us.
Tomorrow our team are on the TV and my Mum is by herself watching it. Me and husband and kids will be watching at home. Husband doesn't like my Mum but I would like to ask her round to watch it, kids adore her too so would love Grandma to come round.
Am I being unreasonable to ask her to come round even when i know he wouldn't like it?

From the sound of it, you should go to your mum's and leave your miserable husband by himself.

Surely it matters why he doesn’t like her?

go to your Mums & stay there.

Depends why he doesn’t like her, surely?

No real reason just jealous of how close me and the kids are to her!

He doesn't like that you are close to your mother/your kids to their grandmother?

In your position I would take the kids to my mums and leave miserable DH to it OP

Why are you choosing to stay married to such a pathetic man?

No he hates it, it's not normal is it?

Yes and no.

It’s his house and he should be able to sit home and watch the game in peace.

You should go and watch it with your mum though so maybe go around to her place?

This!

Not at all!

Tell him she's coming. End of.

Does she know how he feels?

Yes very aware how he feels its fairly obvious and I am very close to her so maybe have said more than I should to her. He makes it very difficult.
I could go to hers but he would say the kids can't go too!!

YANBU.
It's your house too.
I understand where you're coming from though as my husband doesn't like my mum either so he makes it very awkward and is very grumpy when she visits. It's just a bit shit. And I am on edge and feel guilty.

He sounds awful - get your mum round . I can’t imagine he would make an ass of himself in front of his own kids surely?

Why are you with a man that is jealous of your relationship with your mother?

Your DH sounds like a total cock. It’s not normal. Your tone implies you think it is, OP. Are you happy with him in other respects?

I hate football fwiw so my only input is on the DH dynamic..

Is this a joke? She’s your mum FFS! Who gives a shit if he likes her, unless she’s actively horrible to him (which doesn’t sound like it’s the case) he politely welcomes her for your/ the kids’ sake. Any person who tried that with me would be out of the door, or if they are very lucky in the shed.

They're your children as well op, you can take them to your mother's, what would he do of you just went?

Unless there's some back story for why be doesn't like her /want the kids at hers you need to seriously consider leaving him. It's a form of abuse he's doing to you

Any man disrespecting my MOTHER would be told to get the fuck out of my house, life and sight for the rest of time!

Why would you invite someone to your husbands home rather you know he does not want in his home?

You can't force someone to like another person because it's convenient for you, no matter the relationship.

But should I not be allowed to have someone in my home that I want to?
I never ask her to come round because he would not approve.
Also she said she never comes round because she knows he doesn't want her there.
She is ny herself tomorrow and wanted to invite her round.

You can invite her whenever you want. It’s an interest you share. I would invite her, DP doesn’t need to stay in to watch with you, suggest he meets his footie friends or goes to the pub?