@givemeenergyplease
Let me first say I hear you because I've been there.
Now 64, will be 65 in April, and am always being complimented on my smooth, wrinkle-free skin and disbelief when I share my age which I am not ashamed to admit.
You acknowledge that you have a very active 5 year old. Your little one sounds healthy and happy! And you walk your dog 'most days'. If you 'often have kidney stones' - ouch! because I've only had one in my life and hope and pray I never get another. So yes, drink more water - its free and has amazing benefits for the whole body. Cranberry juice is delicious but can be diluted if you find the taste too strong and drinking that regularly counts as part of your overall fluid intake, keeps UTI's at bay and helps flush the kidneys, so worth consideration. Similarly, Pomegranate tea is delicious and it doesn't matter if it gets cold either because you forgot to drink it hot or just didn't get time - cover the mug, bob into the fridge and drink it chilled later! Pomegranate is great for allsorts of things and you can buy a good sized box of two bags cheaply on Amazon UK.
Hairdresser visit should be a priority as they can advise on cut, style and more importantly (for me) easy-maintenance. Even if you have to go shorter (and that's not always a bad thing) if you're better able to manage your hair it looks and you'll feel so much better generally.
Puffy eyes - could be lack of sleep, too much sugar, or an undiagnosed health issue so yes, cut down on the sugar (we all should) but also see GP if you can first to get blood tests done to rule out anything health-wise. If all well there, then either a cold compress (just fold a facecloth and soak it in really cold water, wring and put under each eye just for 5 mins in the morning, or a couple of tablespoons in the fridge overnight and a 5 min lie down in the morning with the spoons UNDER the eyes works wonders!
Thankfully I'm through the menopause now, but I did suffer. Just rest when you can and try to wear loose, comfortable clothing. Cotton leggings with a nice t-shirt and cardy or other kind of top will look nice and you won't feel so dowdy.
Skincare...you will save an absolute fortune and massively reduce anxiety and worry if you use 100% pure organice Jojoba oil! Just that. You can use it on a pad as a cleanser, or a small amount massaged in with fingers and then a soft dampened pad to 'wipe' off, but the oil is fast absorbed, non-sticky, and is wonderful for skin, hair, cuticles and nails so a really very good all-rounder! Unless you prove allergic, which is rare, Jojoba oil is all you'll ever need. And you'll see (and feel) visible results within a week. A little rubbed into the scalp will feed the hair roots, a great conditioner. Rubbed into the elbows, heels, anywhere you have dry or flaky skin. If you have hard skin, warm a little oil in a small bowl within a bigger bowl - pour the hot water into the bigger bowl and sit the smaller bowl inside so the oil warms, and if its nails just sit for 10 mins with your nails in the oil, if its elbows or heels, obviously rub well in with fingers and your nails still get the benefit as do your hands. Honestly, unless you're allergic this is the only skincare you will ever need. And when your facial skin has visibly improved and you want to apply a little make-up, then just a light tinted moisturiser and a shade-to-suit lipgloss/stick is adequate. You'll already have a healthy glow from your new skincare routine so not likely to need blusher. Many are allergic to mascara but you could use a good quality hypoallergenic brand if necessary.
I apologise if I'm coming over like some kind of know-it-all. Not my intention because I certainly do not know it all. I just know that Jojoba really works, my skin is glowing and wrinkle-free, I don't spend money on a ton of products I really don't need (beauty industry targets womens' insecurities around appearance and constantly condemn us for daring to look 'natural' or show our age in any way) and as I said, I'm fortunate to receive a lot of compliments on my skin and people don't believe how old I am when I tell them. Its a lovely thing to hear that but more importantly my care routine is simple and therefore manageable, 'cheap' and readily available.
I wish you well and hope you would return at some point to post on your progress because I see a lot of posts just like yours, and I feel for the ladies who make them, and although much good advice is given the OP's so rarely update to say if anything worked for them and how they're feeling now.
Well done for reaching out for support of your own self-care, and good luck to you.