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My niece creeped me out - death comment

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Lanzy · 15/02/2023 21:15

Tonight my niece (7 year old) looked at the hand print I had recent done with my 7 week old. My niece then innocently goes is that so you can remember Em? Then does this gesture of putting hand to throat (slit) I went what does that mean and she went death.

I’m now worrying as niece also few weeks ago kept saying “EM I don’t want you to grow up be this size forever” of course maybe innocent but had seen some TikTok of woman who said that then next thing.. tonight it freaked me though ger saying that!
i’m now :( - I said why did she think that and she didn’t really say…

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Roundabout78 · 15/02/2023 21:18

What is it exactly that you’re worried about?

CoedenNadoligLanOHyd · 15/02/2023 21:20

Try not to over think it. She's a child saying child things, and not knowing the impact of her words.

TigeToo · 15/02/2023 21:20

Sounds like something wrong with that kid, not normal behaviour

ShakespearesBlister · 15/02/2023 21:21

Don't turn your back on her 😱

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Lanzy · 15/02/2023 21:21

Roundabout78 · 15/02/2023 21:18

What is it exactly that you’re worried about?

Just for her to say for me as an adult to remember my daughter then implying death…it was such an odd :(

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Lanzy · 15/02/2023 21:22

TigeToo · 15/02/2023 21:20

Sounds like something wrong with that kid, not normal behaviour

I am seriously hoping it’s something from Youtube but just very odd

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Roundabout78 · 15/02/2023 21:22

Lanzy · 15/02/2023 21:21

Just for her to say for me as an adult to remember my daughter then implying death…it was such an odd :(

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But what specifically are you worried about? Do you think she would hurt your baby?

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Lanzy · 15/02/2023 21:22

ShakespearesBlister · 15/02/2023 21:21

Don't turn your back on her 😱

Freaked me

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shell856 · 15/02/2023 21:22

My 9yo niece has always come out with weird stuff too, nothings ever come of it.

ShakespearesBlister · 15/02/2023 21:22

Roundabout78 · 15/02/2023 21:18

What is it exactly that you’re worried about?

A 7 year old making a slit throat gesture about a baby? Yeah that wouldn't be the least bit worrying....

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Lanzy · 15/02/2023 21:23

Roundabout78 · 15/02/2023 21:22

But what specifically are you worried about? Do you think she would hurt your baby?

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I didn’t think of her doing something but I just thought what odd thing to say and they say kids can know spirtual stuff etc

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gandalf456 · 15/02/2023 21:23

Have you spoken to her mother about it?

TigeToo · 15/02/2023 21:23

Don’t leave her alone with the baby. I’m assuming you’ve told her parents?

SmileyClare · 15/02/2023 21:24

She’s just a child and probably repeating something she’s seen on Minecraft or tv or something.

You’ve just given birth so feeling hormonal and protective of your baby but there’s no need to feel worried by a child’s comment like this.

Feeling paranoid or anxious can be an indicator of PND or PNA. There are online questionnaires which recognise PND or talk to health visitor x

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Lanzy · 15/02/2023 21:24

gandalf456 · 15/02/2023 21:23

Have you spoken to her mother about it?

I’m going to, shes staying tonight and would like to do face to face :(

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Lanzy · 15/02/2023 21:25

I’m not implying she’ll do something she loves her, but I think the comment is so odd for a kid to see art of a footprint then think death? I think that comment will stick with me too! ://

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Carryonroundthecorner · 15/02/2023 21:26

Yes i would talk to parents about it. I know kids spout shit but it's unsettling.

DuplicateUserName · 15/02/2023 21:26

She probably knows someone (or of someone) who's had prints of their stillborn done or something.

CrapBucket · 15/02/2023 21:28

I think she's being a typical kid in that they all parrot some shite they don't understand, however it is pretty unusual stuff to be repeating. I don't think your baby is in any genuine danger from her. But I wouldn't leave a 7 year old and a baby alone together anyway - because they are too young not to treat them like a doll and drop them or whatever.

Roundabout78 · 15/02/2023 21:28

If this is a one off, you don’t think she’s do anything and she is loving towards your baby, being “freaked out” is a bit silly. Your earlier comments about kids knowing spiritual things is even sillier.
kids say all sorts of weird stuff, half the time they don’t know what it means or the impact of their words. Speak to her mum and get her to have a chat with niece and explain why we don’t say things like that.

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Lanzy · 15/02/2023 21:29

DuplicateUserName · 15/02/2023 21:26

She probably knows someone (or of someone) who's had prints of their stillborn done or something.

Nope no one :( so that makes it odd

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Inastatus · 15/02/2023 21:30

Roundabout78 · 15/02/2023 21:18

What is it exactly that you’re worried about?

You really don’t think there’s anything odd to be worried about???

FlosCampi · 15/02/2023 21:31

Maybe she's seen a bereaved parent on tv taking prints like that of the feet and hands so that's what she associates it with? The other thing I think you are misunderstanding: " i wish you could stay this size for ever!" is a statement of affection and a compliment ; she thinks your baby is perfect as they are. If someone says " ooh i could eat her up she's so sweet" you wouldn't start hiding the baking tins!

Roundabout78 · 15/02/2023 21:33

Inastatus · 15/02/2023 21:30

You really don’t think there’s anything odd to be worried about???

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Did I say that? NO I didn’t so wind your bloody neck in.
the op followed up with something about kids “knowing spiritual stuff”, is that where you thought this was going? Doubt it! I certainly didn’t.I asked for clarification. Amazing how many people here jump to the ops 7 (!!) year old niece being a homocidal maniac. MN is nuts.

Nursejackie1 · 15/02/2023 21:33

@SmileyClare that sounds kind of gaslighty.
I mean women who have just given birth are allowed to feel freaked out by a child doing a slit throat gesture about their baby, I’d say that would be normal for anyone.
Perfectly rational reaction- let’s not make every feeling a woman has have to be their poor mental health, that’s a dangerous road to go down.
OP don’t feel you have anything postnatally wrong with you because this has spooked you. May be nothing, kids do say weird things but I’d be a bit uncomfortable about it too.