Sister behaviour

[tukker]

So I live abroad and arranged to come back to the UK to see family and New baby etc. I previously stayed with my sister and her fella a few months ago so asked her again if it would be ok if I stayed with them again. So firstly she said she would ask 'the boss' meaning her partner, then a few days later said yes I can stay but I would have to pay x amount towards the bills! So I said don't worry I'll stay somewhere else as I didn't feel welcome! I would have offered towards the bills as I don't expect to stay anywhere for free but AIBU to think I shouldn't be expected to be charged for staying at my sisters house?? We've had a huge falling out about it this week and it's all my fault!

There's a world of difference between the guest offering money and a prospective family host saying "you can only come and stay if you contribute to our bills"

I'm astonished that there are people on this thread who don't recognise that.

The people on this thread outraged that you don't want to PAY to stay at your sisters 😂😂😂😂 It's absurd! No one pays a contribution to the bills to stay with family. Bring presents, buy food and pay for takeaways/meals out yes! But unless the stay is over a month paying board is just odd.

No but they want to start a family.

Maybe if they're trying for a baby they don't want you in the house while they're having a lot of sex?

Just book into a nearby hotel. That way you have nice fluffy bedding. No pressure to get up etc. Can see them for exactly the abount of time you want

I'm not sure how OP paying a contribution towards their bill is going to help.

I’m a little surprised that she a) said she’d have to ask the boss (what if her Dh said no?!) and b) she wants a contribution to bills. Who says that when your sister comes to stay for a week? Really odd. If my bil wanted to stay for a week, I wouldn’t blink, I’d just add more ingredients to the meals.