Went to see my grandmother last night. She's in her mid 80s and constantly talks about how much money she has. I am a lone parent struggling to pay my bills and childcare. Every time I see her she asks 'how are you coping with paying bills?' and talks about how awful the cost of living crisis is for people like me. I never raise the topic of money. Last night she then continued on to talk about the two houses she needs to sell which will hopefully see £600k into her savings, and was talking about 200k she had 'lying around' and needed to put into some kind of investment. She then went on to ask me about which charities I 'recommend' she donates to when she dies as she wants to give most of her money away. Today I have phoned to tell her I'm busy and can't drop her shopping round as I feel like she is taunting me. I DO NOT expect her to give me money, I just hate the way she is so tone deaf. She's completely switched on at 84 years old and seems to think I'm some poor hopeless person. Anyway. I just needed to get that off my chest as I am facing having a pre payment meter fitted and am struggling not to cry into my Cereal.
AIBU?
Sick of my grandmother and all her money
TetherEndOfMy · 08/02/2023 08:42
underneaththeash · 08/02/2023 08:44
Tell her - gran I'm really struggling, could one of the charities you give your money to, be me please.
Conkersinautumn · 08/02/2023 08:49
Is she one of those truly bizarre people who will only help if you ask and is weirdly goading you into asking? Tell her straight she's in her 80s, she can handle it. Gran, you need to stop taunting me, yes money is really tight and I'm struggling. It's difficult to hear about how you're finding being wealthy. I don't want money to come between us type chat.
No doubt someone will point out that a loss of appropriate boundaries in conversation can be a sign of dementia, but that probably isn't relevant!
GoodChat · 08/02/2023 08:52
Tell her you can't do her shopping as you need to pick up extra hours at work.
I'm assuming she has internet access so I'd show her how to do her online shopping.
TetherEndOfMy · 08/02/2023 08:46
Nope, won't happen. She believes people should earn their money and not ask for 'handouts'. She's talked about her friends who have 'entitled grandchildren' asking them for money and has told me she's glad I'm not like this. I need to cut her off but the guilt of her being round the corner and not being particularly well always gets me.
underneaththeash · 08/02/2023 08:44
Tell her - gran I'm really struggling, could one of the charities you give your money to, be me please.
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