To ask you to remind me not to smoke weed

[Dontchewitcharlie]

Feeling depressed and this is when I start wanting to smoke weed.
I know it's bad and I had a terrible breakdown from it last year but my brain is telling me just get one joint and that's it.

Please talk some sense into me. I have no friends for support.

If you lived in various states of America, or the Netherlands, then this discussion would be so different. It's a shame that such a stigma is attached to something that provides genuine relief and succour to people. Obviously not everyone, people abuse weed like anything else, but I'd personally rather ingest weed regularly than alcohol regularly.

I have friends whose parents smoked weed and I have friends whose parents were chronic drunks. I know which houses I'd prefer to be in. Remember it's never black and white.

Hey, that's not a positive message. No parent is perfect, OP wants to improve.

Strangely enough before I got home today and was walking up to my house I had a craving for ice cream so dived into a store for bulk buying choc ices. I wondered if the guys behind me thought I was stoned. I looked a bit odd going after ice cream like a squirrel after a walnut.

You want things to change OP, talk to your husband and make one of your next missions to find female friends

i can’t find you explaining how your husband is viewing the situation and what he’s doing

My ex husband smoked weed outside the house as I refused to have it near the children and honestly weed smokers are so boring and lazy, they umph in life and just sit there with their glazed eyes looking like a demon

You're describing your ex-husband, not weed smokers.

You don't know all weed smokers. In many cases you'd never know.

And vice versa

Of course

@MaryMcCarthy I know alot of weed smokers and alot of women who's partners are weed smokers, those partners are all the same.

To the person who said I was harsh, the OP wanted harsh, it's not a good example at all and buying ice cream is different to smoking weed and dragging your son round the streets looking for a dealer

Yes I suppose you two are perfect and never made a terrible decision/mistake.
OP has clearly just needed her "head given a wobble" and has resumed normality.

Yes I suppose you two are perfect and never made a terrible decision/mistake.
OP has clearly just needed her "head given a wobble" and has resumed normality.

Plenty of mistakes but I’ve never trawled the streets looking for drugs, no

This.

Are you honestly saying you wouldn't report this if a mother admitted she was put trying to find a dealer with her 2 year old in the real world?

Perfect because we’ve not tried to hustle for drugs. Let alone with your toddler in tow.

I mean there’s low standard for parenting and then there’s gutter standards

There is all sorts of ignorance and crazy on this thread - honestly it makes me chuckle. There are a huge range of health conditions now in the UK where you can be prescribed medical weed - my dd (young adult) is prescribed it for her anxiety and ADHD- the postie delivers it (legally). She has regular follow up appointments. If it was this entirely heinous drug that some posters suggest it is - would it be increasingly prescribed for its therapeutic benefits

Posters mutter darkly about cannabis psychosis ( which is still contested btw) - IF there is causation (scientists believe that a tiny percentage of people may have a predisposing gene) it's probably about as common as alcohol psychosis - but nobody seems concerned about that

Sheep

Well said.

The striking thing for me is that opinions are either based on wild assumption, myth, or they're based on outliers or single examples.

They knew one lazy waster and they smoked weed, therefore everyone who smokes weed must be a lazy waster and it must be because of the weed. They don't consider that if you're a lazy waster to begin with, weed makes perfect sense.

They knew one kid who went mental and they smoked weed, so everyone who smokes weed must go mental. Oblivious to the fact that plenty of kids went mental without smoking weed. And if you're going mental to begin with, weed makes perfect sense.

Bottom line for me is that I know numerous recreational smokers of weed who bring up their kids properly an maintain decent careers and their colleagues wouldn't know about the weed unless they were told. On the other hand I work with people who are genuinely worse for wear some mornings following alcohol. And that's somehow accepted. It's certainly a blind spot with a big section of society.

You say you know a lot of weed smokers, and weed smoking partners.

But then you say "those partners are all the same"

So are you separating the weed smokers from the partners?

Are the partners different to the general week smokers you know? I don't get it.

The concern on this thread is more about the Op and how she is managing to parent a toddler and very clearly struggling ie hustling for drugs with her toddler in tow.

Odd you can’t see that

Posters coming onto this thread to argue that smoking weed is fine - please stop. Your argument is irrelevant and dangerous when the OP has already stated that weed is ruining her life.

@Dontchewitcharlie, wishing you all the best.

Go and visit your nearest secure mental health unit. You probably won't be allowed in, but they are forbidding places. My son started smoking weed at Uni. 20 years later he has spent 3 months in the Priory, locked in, on anti psychotic medication. He is now out. Still on meds, and probably will be for years. We know of 3 other 30 - 40 year olds with severe mental health problems caused by having a bit of weed. It is a filthy, life destroying habit. By using it you are supporting an evil trade where dozens of youngsters are a shot or stabbed every year in drug turf wars. Think of that young woman in the pub on the Wirral before Christmas. Totally innocent but caught in the crossfire. The 10 year old lad, caught in the crossfire 10 years ago in Liverpool.

🙄 chuckling at people "muttering darkly"?

I wrote about someone I actually knew who died by suicide as a direct result of his heavy weed habit. I'm so glad that made you chuckle, you absolute delight. And I won't mutter it. I will say it. People who kid themselves that it's just jolly japes and never hurts anyone are idiots.

And re alcoholic psychosis; yes, that is obviously terrible too. And if the op was saying that she was trawling bars with her 2yo, because she couldn't resist a drink despite it ruining her life, she'd not be getting "you do you hun" comments. Jesus. Fuckwits

Good Lord, everyone's high where I live! It's legal here and there's a shop in my village where anyone over 19 can just breeze in and buy weed in bulk or readymade joints, edibles, CBD, the whole works. Everything comes from the government, though so it's expensive. I don't smoke myself but I do buy edibles occasionally to help me sleep.

I'm sorry, OP but I don't see what the problem is. However, if YOU aren't happy and you think your habit may be affecting your mental health, then yes - stop! And please don't take your child with you when you buy it.🙄

The loneliness you're feeling is growth.

When we are in our comfort zone we do not grow. Our comfort zone is comfortable because we use crutches to relieve our discomfort. Remove the crutches of weed and you begin to feel uncomfortable feelings, those feelings aren't telling you that you're a bad person, they're telling you that it's time to grow and develop.

You can either sit with those feelings, listen to them. Acknowledge that you can't fix them immediately but you understand them. Or you you can go blunt those feelings with weed and go back into the cycle you were in.

@Tangerinie - oh fgs get a grip, of course I am not chuckling at someone committing suicide. Idiotic comment