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To ask you to remind me not to smoke weed

123 replies

Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:25

Feeling depressed and this is when I start wanting to smoke weed.
I know it's bad and I had a terrible breakdown from it last year but my brain is telling me just get one joint and that's it.

Please talk some sense into me. I have no friends for support.

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Mabelface · 03/02/2023 07:41

You've got this far, you've binned all the stuff so why go backwards? I get why you want it, life is just a little fuzzier around the edges and less real. However, you know what else it does to you. You know that just one doob will never be enough and there'll always be another excuse. Stay the fuck away from dealers, particularly with your child!

Tangerinie · 03/02/2023 07:41

Oh so many reasons not to do it!

It stinks and other people have to smell it, even your wee boy 🤢
If you're smoking it, it's even worse for you than cigarettes
It's expensive - we have a highish household income and we couldn't afford a weed habit. I have no idea how people do this without missing bills. You have a kid. He needs that money for other things. He also needs a parent who is not high all the time.

TRIGGER WARNING

Worst of all are the MH issues though and if you want a proper horror story.... A friend of mine at uni was a chronic weed smoker. He ended up developing MH issues and accuse psychosis and was sectioned. One day he went home to see his mum for a visit and never showed up. He had hanged himself. Sorry if that sounds extreme and horrible, but it is a true story and you did say you wanted shocking out of buying weed

DustyOwl · 03/02/2023 07:42

I don’t think I am a savage mumsnetter. On this subject Im definitely not! But here goes;

”This is disgusting and I can’t believe I’m reading this. Your talking about DRUGS. You will be doing crack by the end of the week and end up as a prostitute”

Now for the real me. It won’t help. You might think it will but that’s just the addiction talking. It’s a subtle drug.

PP was also correct. As normalised as it seems to you, it really isn’t. If you are found to be buying drugs with your son in tow, social services will be called.

Go to your GP, especially as you have no one in RL to help you. This drug has caused mental health problems In some close friends of mine and they still can’t see it. NA is not just for “hard drugs”, maybe try and attend a meeting.

The weed is masking the problem and you need to try and find the cause or find a better way to deal with it. It’s definitely easier said than done but well worth it in the end.

Good luck.

Daffodilis · 03/02/2023 07:42

Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:39

Nooooo I don't like that....surprisingly.

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That's so good, I got my nicotine fix through spliffs, hated cigs (probably because they didn't have weed in). It's hard to advise, but I tried to focus on why I was not smoking. There are a lot of gaps in my memories. You sound like a tough cookie, you can do this.

Original poster
Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:42

Thanks guys this is really helping to remind me to not to.

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Tangerinie · 03/02/2023 07:42

Acute*

Divebar2021 · 03/02/2023 07:43

Think of all the brain cells you’re saving. I’ve actually had to deal with someone with a cannabis psychosis and they ended up in a police cell naked covered in food and their own shit masturbating. I can’t really think of ways you could sink any lower really. He used to smash up his mums house until she gave him money. I think of him when people are pontificating about how natural and harmless weed is.
I think you should concentrate on making friends because nothing lifts you up like good people around you.

Whatislove82 · 03/02/2023 07:43

Op as shit as this time currently is for you

I can tell you that it will be many more times shit for your son

you don’t need mumsnet to encourage you not to do this. Just look at your son

Daffodilis · 03/02/2023 07:44

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toomuchlaundry · 03/02/2023 07:44

What sort of childhood are you giving your son if you take him for walks to find drug dealers?

How old is your son? Do you not meet other parents through him via baby groups/activities/school (depending on age)

Original poster
Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:45

Tangerinie · 03/02/2023 07:41

Oh so many reasons not to do it!

It stinks and other people have to smell it, even your wee boy 🤢
If you're smoking it, it's even worse for you than cigarettes
It's expensive - we have a highish household income and we couldn't afford a weed habit. I have no idea how people do this without missing bills. You have a kid. He needs that money for other things. He also needs a parent who is not high all the time.

TRIGGER WARNING

Worst of all are the MH issues though and if you want a proper horror story.... A friend of mine at uni was a chronic weed smoker. He ended up developing MH issues and accuse psychosis and was sectioned. One day he went home to see his mum for a visit and never showed up. He had hanged himself. Sorry if that sounds extreme and horrible, but it is a true story and you did say you wanted shocking out of buying weed

Thank you. I admit I was high a lot of the time last year and looking after him.
You guys have made me feel better.
I'm not sure what a gp could do tbh. I'm on the highest dose of antidepressants. I just need a good telling off.
I am going to take my son on a train today.

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Daffodilis · 03/02/2023 07:46

DustyOwl · 03/02/2023 07:42

I don’t think I am a savage mumsnetter. On this subject Im definitely not! But here goes;

”This is disgusting and I can’t believe I’m reading this. Your talking about DRUGS. You will be doing crack by the end of the week and end up as a prostitute”

Now for the real me. It won’t help. You might think it will but that’s just the addiction talking. It’s a subtle drug.

PP was also correct. As normalised as it seems to you, it really isn’t. If you are found to be buying drugs with your son in tow, social services will be called.

Go to your GP, especially as you have no one in RL to help you. This drug has caused mental health problems In some close friends of mine and they still can’t see it. NA is not just for “hard drugs”, maybe try and attend a meeting.

The weed is masking the problem and you need to try and find the cause or find a better way to deal with it. It’s definitely easier said than done but well worth it in the end.

Good luck.

OMG I'm an idiot, I do apologise for not reading you properly. So sorry xxxxx

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Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:46

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No no it does. It gives me the kick up the backside I need to remind myself.

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Whatislove82 · 03/02/2023 07:47

Thank you. I admit I was high a lot of the time last year and looking after him.

OP I am very concerned about your child. Is he at school?

I am guessing you don’t work?

This is a very concerning environment for your child.

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Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:48

toomuchlaundry · 03/02/2023 07:44

What sort of childhood are you giving your son if you take him for walks to find drug dealers?

How old is your son? Do you not meet other parents through him via baby groups/activities/school (depending on age)

There is one group we go to. The others are too far or in time with when he has his nap.

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Whatislove82 · 03/02/2023 07:48

One of those threads that I don’t believe the OP is a troll

but I desperately wish they were

Bbq1 · 03/02/2023 07:48

Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:32

This is the time when I really need some savage mumsnetters to have a go at me

You have your son. Is he not enough?

maddy68 · 03/02/2023 07:48

Substitute with something else. When you want to smoke. Pinch your left ear lobe really hard until it passes

Daffodilis · 03/02/2023 07:49

Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:46

No no it does. It gives me the kick up the backside I need to remind myself.

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My brain is addled from all the years of smoking, I got this poster totally wrong. I'm sure I'm headed for dementia because of it.

BrookeD · 03/02/2023 07:49

Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:45

Thank you. I admit I was high a lot of the time last year and looking after him.
You guys have made me feel better.
I'm not sure what a gp could do tbh. I'm on the highest dose of antidepressants. I just need a good telling off.
I am going to take my son on a train today.

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I'm sorry you're struggling but your poor son should not be seeing this. Don't you think he deserves a better childhood than memories of his Mum being high all the time and dragging him around the street looking for a dealer?

Put him first. If you need help, speak to your GP or hound whatever service you think will help - he deserves better than this.

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Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:50

Whatislove82 · 03/02/2023 07:47

Thank you. I admit I was high a lot of the time last year and looking after him.

OP I am very concerned about your child. Is he at school?

I am guessing you don’t work?

This is a very concerning environment for your child.

I've made it sound like I live in a crack house but I promise you he is fine.
Great now I'm going to be reported on here. Can't people just keep their beaks out about my son please.

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Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:51

Whatislove82 · 03/02/2023 07:48

One of those threads that I don’t believe the OP is a troll

but I desperately wish they were

Not a troll I wish I'd worded this better.

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Whatislove82 · 03/02/2023 07:51

Can't people just keep their beaks out about my son please.

yes, that’s what you would like.

I will bow out because absolutely nothing we can do to change this child’s environment, and I find that depressing. Hopefully if the OP still doing this by the time he is at school, then at least school will no doubt become aware of it

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Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:52

BrookeD · 03/02/2023 07:49

I'm sorry you're struggling but your poor son should not be seeing this. Don't you think he deserves a better childhood than memories of his Mum being high all the time and dragging him around the street looking for a dealer?

Put him first. If you need help, speak to your GP or hound whatever service you think will help - he deserves better than this.

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THANK YOU

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Whatislove82 · 03/02/2023 07:52

Dontchewitcharlie · 03/02/2023 07:51

Not a troll I wish I'd worded this better.

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Sadly I don’t think you are a troll

I just wish you were