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Would you do these walks if you were me?

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Whycantwebefreetolive · 02/02/2023 23:05

Feeling very anxious about dog walks recently, as a few others seem to be. I’ve been feeling it more the last month or so, not sure why.
I live near to some open fields and woods leading down to the beach.
We go as a family (with Dh) to take the dog in the woods at the weekends and feel safe.
During the week, Dh isn’t home until it’s dark, he’s tired in winter by then and we don’t want to take Dd, 4 out in the dark.
During the day I often take Dd and the dog on my own into the fields part by my home, it’s very open, but with no one around. We’ve always enjoyed it, but I often feel I can’t fully relax. The other day I just started to feel really anxious and just hurried Dd (in a fun way, she didn’t know I was worried) and the dog back home. Then I felt really crappy and also annoyed that I feel scared there.
There’s a road that runs along a little further away that often has the odd car/can down.
I don’t know..I’m wondering if I’m putting us at risk going here?
It’s so nice to have this space we can just walk to at the end of the road. I sometimes drive Dd and our dog to a more open place with people to walk, but we enjoy it by our house.
Would you go or it’s too risky?

OP posts:
PoseyFlump · 03/02/2023 19:32

SharkVega · 03/02/2023 17:43

I'm sure statistically you're far more at risk from e.g. a car mounting a pavement when walking in urban areas than in more rural areas. I've seen several stories where people have been killed in that way in the last year.

We're not talking about comparing travelling in a car to aeroplanes and risks of both using statistics. We are talking about being aware of your own personal vulnerability, especially as a woman, and using common sense and danger awareness. For me, it's like the people you see blindly walking along looking at their phones and crossing roads without thinking. Just have awareness and listen to your instincts.

Celinia · 03/02/2023 19:46

Yes I can relate, I’ve felt vulnerable when I’ve been walking in quiet areas. Always take your phone, consider a walking stick, and maybe think about some self defence classes. Tbh urban areas are more risky than countryside walks but your spidey senses don’t always recognise this.

SuperHandss · 03/02/2023 21:40

Whycantwebefreetolive · 02/02/2023 23:40

Where do you get pepper sprays from?

My mum actually bought me it. Not legal but nor is being attacked & sadly I have been so I’m OK with it.

Amazon sell legal alternatives too. Most of these are dyes.

Anonanonanon1 · 29/10/2023 09:56

Sounds perfect. I walk very early in a remote field so I can avoid people and dogs.
It's not very light when I'm out but avoiding other dogs is important to me. One of my dogs hates others running up to her and has to go on a lead when others are around as she's not tolerant like she used to be.

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