DPs expensive new car... AIBU?

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DP and I have three children between us, and are expecting our fourth in a couple of months. I have a small, but nice car that is on a cheap finance deal, I will own it outright in a year. DP originally took out a cheap finance deal for a similar small, nice car. This isn't the ideal scenario; it means whenever DP has his children we will need to use two cars for days out, trips away etc. The boot of my car isn't massive, so it also means the buggy will take over the whole thing, leaving no room for anything else. I wasn't bothered by any of this though, because we had decided we would both have cheap cars and make these sacrifices to save money.

Today, DP has said he no longer wants the cheap, small car he'd agreed to finance, and has doubled the finance budget. He wants to get a sporty, posher model car. We can afford this, that's not the issue, but we will no longer be saving money. My argument is, if we are now doubling the finance budget, we should get a bigger car that can accommodate all of us. He's adamant that he wants to get a sporty, posh car even though it's impractical.

AIBU?

He is being utterly utterly selfish and ridiculous

kick up a huge fuss and block it which ever way you can!!

amazes me when people spend hundreds a month on a car when they could be spending it on other exciting things!

expensive fancy cars are nothing but an ego boost!!!!

fair enough if he was going to get a 7 seater

Does he have children from a previous relationship as well?

Is he a high earner?

Unfathomably selfish, even if money isn’t an issue.

What a man child twat.

I hope your finances are separate and you are not dependent on this fool.

Is this the first time he has ever been a twat with money? I’m guessing not

What a man child. does he have any redeeming features?

I am with you on this. Your second car should definitely be a family car that is big enough for all of you. The only exception to this would be if your husband was to pay for his new car, its upkeep, petrol, insurance etc. out of his own personal spending money rather than from the family finances, if that is how you work things.

You have 4 kids and he's bought an expensive car that can't accommodate them... He is nothing but selfish here.

More detail required, who earns what and what’s the agreement on joint finances.

and please don’t anyone say it’s all family money, lots of families have different ways of operating their finances so understanding is key.

My argument is, if we are now doubling the finance budget, we should get a bigger car that can accommodate all of us. He's adamant that he wants to get a sporty, posh car even though it's impractical.

Your argument is sound OP. I'm surprised your partner can't really comprehend that to be honest or he just doesn't want to cuz he's selfish!

Who earns what is completely and utterly irrelevant

Sporty car? surely he won't pack much in there too. Fine by wanting bigger car, but this choice is for his vanity, not practical reasons.

Even if the husband earned more OP's judgment is this is still the smarter one. Why not get a bigger car to accommodate the whole family instead of a flashy sports car? It's irrelevant who earns more here.

Prioritising a sporty car over a car that would accommodate your children is overcompensating on a whole different level.

It does sound a bit unreasonable, yes.

However I also think your original set-up — both of you having small, cheaper cars, neither of which can accommodate you all as a family — is a bit unideal as well.

Point out depreciation rates for sporty posh cars and ask whether he really thinks it's worth throwing that money away for the sake of buying a penis extension.

Men and the fucking cars. Just why?

he needs a car that fits all his children in..

if he can find a posh sporty one lovely but it needs to fit.. not sure 2 small cars was a great plan in the first place. ..how is he going to do anything with all his children if he can't transport them....do you have good public transport?

What a dick. How is he going to finance this, with another child on the way?

My exDH was like this. Never satisfied with whatever car he had, always wanted something sportier, and better. It drained our finances and caused me no end of stress. One of the reasons why he is now an ex........

Sporty posh large cars are available.

Hard to say without knowing what car it is . That detail was left out

Exactly.

Need more info - what age children, how much of the week are they with you, what car etc

This isn't the ideal scenario; it means whenever DP has his children we will need to use two cars for days out, trips away etc.

Sporty cars don't usually have a lot of room. So what's going to happen when he has his DCs? Will he expect that it falls to you to work it out and squash everyone into your car?

Surely you need a 7 seater if you are due baby #4? Of course you won't manage with the 2 small cars that you have!