Who takes the burnt food or ends in your house?

[Skyofplanets]

In your family who takes the less desirable bits of food?

I'm talking about things like if you have portions of lasagne and one fell apart, the bit of toast that is slightly too dark, or the end of the garlic bread, the sausage that split or the fillet that got a bit stuck to the pan what ever means that while all are completely edible one is slightly worse.

I once read something (which I can't find now!) about that women, in particular mothers have a tendency to give themselves the less desirable portion as part of their sacrifice to the family. I think it called it pigeon toast, in that the toast that might used to be fed to the pigeons because its caught, then becomes the mothers when they have children as she's too rushed to cook a new slice. It also said there's differences I'n culture's about if the children get given the broken food signifying that they are expected to come second to parents, or if they are given the better bits because of the feeling around providing being a parents job.

It popped up in my head when
I noticed my completely lovely DP, will serve himself the better portion. We both try and even it up eg. If there's 2 naff bits, then we will get one each, but if there's a third then dp will take it. I gently teased him about it, and he said that it was a reward for cooking. I realised that completely subconsciously I would always give him the better bit.

Obviously it's not a major issue in my life, however I've noticed this in other people. For example when BLW I've watched lots of friends have chose the meals they've had in restaurants based on if the baby could have some and while not picking something they hate often picking a second choice while the dad tends to just pick what he'd like off the menu

What does this look like in your family?

DH because he prefers burnt stuff

The real question is ‘who eats the apricot yoghurt’? (Or why is there always an apricot yoghurt that nobody likes?)

That's the best one! I volunteer as Apricot yoghurt tribute

I cook, I get the best bits before they hit the plates. Will share with dcs, DH wouldn't even notice.

We have a competition for the last roast potato- whoever comes up with the most tragic bad luck story wins it.

Yeah I prioritise DS. I definitely eat something I don't really want because I'm sharing with DS. And I give him the better food for him even if I'd prefer it. So I wouldn't give him something burned. I'd rather him eat than food be wasted.

DH gets the bigger portion simply because he is almost a foot taller than me so needs more food, but to counterbalance that unfairness I usually give myself the best bits! I think he would normally give me the same as him, I can’t think of a time he’s given me the burnt bit or the worst bit! (Though I actually love the burnt edges of shepherd’s pies and lasagnes!)

I like the ends and as long as it's brown burnt not black burnt, I like that too.
There's no competition for it here, which I am very grateful.
They can have the yucky soggy middle bits.

I thought the burnt bits were the best bits. Always me that gets them if I'm cooking or fast

Depends if I’m posting a picture of it on Insta or not 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 if I am I’ll have the best presented portion, if I’m not then I’ll go for the less desirable and give then best bits to hubs x

My husband always takes the worst bits. I'm a fussy eater and I just wouldn't touch it and go hungry! 😂

Rarely happens as I try and even out when I serve whether I’ve cooked or not
Then I let other person choose which plate
Only exception is fried or poached eggs - mine have to be perfect and if there is a broken egg DP or DS always offer to have that one

Whichever of us fucked it up takes it.

Depends who I'm most pissed off with at the time...!

DH gives me the best bits when he cooks. When I cook, I give DH the best bits ...... unless it's pudding then I always get the best bits cause I like pudding!! That said - I'd always give him the last bits of Stilton because that's his favourite.

I do all the meal planning, shopping, cooking and clearing up afterwards. I get the best bits

DH wouldn’t notice if he got a split sausage, broken bit of something. I’m the cook in our house, so if I burst one of the egg yolks, DH gets it. He really doesn’t care.
Burnt bits, I have rarely ever burnt something (luck not skill).

I cook 90% of the meals in our house and serve them. Wife is served first (the largest and best portion), then children and then I get the remaining portion. Sometimes DS will ask for more, so that comes from my plate. I only ever cook what my wife likes and she approves the menu each week.

DH. He is like a human garbage disposal. He will stop me throwing food midway in the bin to eat it.

I normally end up cooking three different meals for myself, DH and DD as we all like and hate different things. In my house no one else cooks and I am pretty rubbish so trying to juggle three different meals generally just means three plates of burnt food 😅🙈

DP always takes the crappy bits. He genuinely isn’t bothered if something is a bit burnt/cold or if the egg yolk has cracked etc. He knows me and DD are fussier, so even if I try to take it, he won’t let me as he knows I wont enjoy it, but he still will.

Wouldn't cross my mind to give myself the best bit. As a mother, my priority is my children. They will always come first and always get the food that is most desirable. My other half is the same though, he would also always sacrifice for the kids. Why should you be rewarded for cooking? The reward is seeing your family enjoy the meal you have prepared.

Why does your wife come before your child? And why does she allow that? That's appalling

Why don't you order the kids their own food?

Who ever cooks and burns the food takes the burnt bit in our house.