Who takes the burnt food or ends in your house?

[Skyofplanets]

In your family who takes the less desirable bits of food?

I'm talking about things like if you have portions of lasagne and one fell apart, the bit of toast that is slightly too dark, or the end of the garlic bread, the sausage that split or the fillet that got a bit stuck to the pan what ever means that while all are completely edible one is slightly worse.

I once read something (which I can't find now!) about that women, in particular mothers have a tendency to give themselves the less desirable portion as part of their sacrifice to the family. I think it called it pigeon toast, in that the toast that might used to be fed to the pigeons because its caught, then becomes the mothers when they have children as she's too rushed to cook a new slice. It also said there's differences I'n culture's about if the children get given the broken food signifying that they are expected to come second to parents, or if they are given the better bits because of the feeling around providing being a parents job.

It popped up in my head when
I noticed my completely lovely DP, will serve himself the better portion. We both try and even it up eg. If there's 2 naff bits, then we will get one each, but if there's a third then dp will take it. I gently teased him about it, and he said that it was a reward for cooking. I realised that completely subconsciously I would always give him the better bit.

Obviously it's not a major issue in my life, however I've noticed this in other people. For example when BLW I've watched lots of friends have chose the meals they've had in restaurants based on if the baby could have some and while not picking something they hate often picking a second choice while the dad tends to just pick what he'd like off the menu

What does this look like in your family?

I do most of the cooking in our house. I always take the overcooked bits and a smaller portion if there is not enough. I’m happy to have a bowl of cereal if I’m still hungry.

I often give dh a bigger portion but that’s because he eats more than me and he has a higher tolerance for burnt toast so he gets that too

Whoever is serving out of DH and I will usually give ourselves the worst bit. Although he'll often tell me to give him the worst bit when I'm serving. I'm a bit fussier than him (especially when I'm stressed) so he likes to make sure I'm definitely happy with what I'm eating because he'll pretty much eat anything!

Often we consider different things the worst though - for example he likes the small crispy chips whereas I prefer the plumper ones so that makes it easier!

DD gets the best bits or rather her most likeable, then me, DH is the last. I try to be sensibly selfish when helping myself. I don’t serve burnt ends - I would throw them away and do something else. And I cook sometimes things DH likes, just for him - it evens the score imo.

It sounds like a lot of people have hot spots in their oven?

I get the bits I want which is mostly what other people hate I love meat bones, edge of lamb chops, melted cheese, some crispy bits of lasagne if cooked a certain way, crackling, I am willing to share if people have my tastes

So don't do this 'oh poor me I am a second class female citizen who has no brain in my head' thing

I live on my own so I just eat it all haha.

We actually had this discussion a while back at work for some reason. One person said whoever cooked the meal got the bad bits because it was "their fault" they shared the cooking 50/50

It depends what it is. I actually like my toast very well done, both of us like the crusty end of good fresh bread, split sausages rarely happen here but neither of us would mind.

Last night I gave ds half of my baked potato and had his smaller one as his had gone very crunchy bit that was fine as I enjoyed it and he would have left it.

It depends who has cooked. The cook tends to assume responsibility for messing it up and take the worse bit

I cook more often than DH but am also a better cook so I think it evens out in that mess ups happen less for me

Burned bits go in the bin, they are carcinogenic apparently.

My dog usually gets the burnt bits.

The only thing I can think of that applies to us is when we eat the bake at home baguettes. The ends get cut off and DH eats them. The rest is shared equally.

More annoyingly I had a friend who would let her 8 year old order a starter, mains and dessert knowing full well most would go in the bin.
I only ordered dd what I thought she would eat.
We always split the bill and it was like throwing a tenner away every time!

The end of the garlic bread is the best bit. Scoop out the contents and fill with whatever's on your plate. Yummy.

It’s a bit of both here - DH always gets the shit eggs because I love my eggs. He likes the end of garlic bread (maybe by the packs of slices instead?) but I do agree, I will generally give DH and the DC the better portion - largely because they are fussier than me, if anything!

YABU. The singed toast, seared steak and end pieces of garlic bread are my favourite bits. I don’t think they are “naff bits.”

Whosever plate it ends up on! If it's food and it's edible, someone will eat it!

DH usually takes the burnt, less desirable ends at home.

Depends on what it is really. I prefer the crusty end of the bread and he doesn’t like them so that’s easy. I do, however, love the ends of the roast meat and if I’m plating up I’ll take it for me, every time, because there’s a lot of times I take the smaller of the sausages etc. can’t say I’ve noticed what his take on things are but we share a steak and he will always ask me which half I prefer.

You all share meals with your kids? When out I fully enjoy myself and choose whatever I want and I do not share food. I order kids food off the kids menu 🤷‍♀️ if I can afford to eat out then I can afford to pay an extra 8 quid or whatever it might be for a kids meal.

Same, if I order a meal I want a meal

I am happy to share Chinese dishes, and maybe Indian but like a pub meal I order it because I want it

And I hate people who order a starter, then try and pinch food off other people's plates because it looks like they eat less, just order what you want

I get the whole lot, crappy ends and best bits. I live alone...!

I always take the worse bits. My husband and kids are a bunch of fannies who fuss and complain. I'll eat anything.

I tend to cut off the bad bits while serving and gobble the evidence up and then portion up the nice bits evenly between everyone .
DH is a useless cook so eats what he is given like the kids.

We take it in turns if we're out and about or in a restaurant with the toddler. Last time, I chose what I wanted (fish) because I never get to eat it at home as no one else likes it, while DH chose a pasta that the toddler would also like and ultimately shared. The time before that, DH had the spicy whatever it was and I had my second choice so toddler could share.

If we're at home, I don't like the crusty end bits so generally don't eat them, DH hates waste and eats loads so he'll polish off whatever. He has some weird combos sometimes to finish up whatever is left. But toddler doesn't always get the best bits!