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Original poster

To not let Dd go to wireless festival on a school day

94 replies

jackstini · 28/01/2023 13:32

She's 17 in March so doing A levels
Festival is in London, we are in East Midlands area

5 of her friends (at same sixth form college) are going on Friday 7 July, which is a school day - so I've said no

Saturday is already sold out and they can't do Sunday

Dd is not happy "its literally one day Mum!!"

AIBU?

OP posts:
Galarunner · 28/01/2023 13:39

Is she up to date with her work, does she have 100% attendance? I would probably let her go if that is the case or use as a bit of a bargaining tool if she isn't. Also are her friends actually got permission, watch out for rhe everyone is going trick. The other 4 could be saying exactly the same to their parents!!

NoAprilFool · 28/01/2023 13:40

I’m not in England, but aren’t A Levels over by then? I’d let her

Bluevelvetsofa · 28/01/2023 13:41

I’m assuming year 12 rather than 13. But if it’s year 13, the exams will be finished in July. If year 12, no I wouldn’t agree to it.

MavisMcMinty · 28/01/2023 13:41

YABU, let her go. Or as someone else advised, wring something out of her in return for letting her go.

mintdaisy · 28/01/2023 13:45

I would let her but everyone has different boundaries and priorities.

romdowa · 28/01/2023 13:45

I'd let her go. It's one day towards the end of the year. She could have not told you and just went anyway. I'd reward her honesty

Coasterfan · 28/01/2023 13:47

I would, if she is doing A levels she will be pretty self directed with her studying anyway and she can catch up the work, it’s only one day.

Bayleaf25 · 28/01/2023 13:52

My Dd is also year 12 - they have mocks in June and are basically on holiday from about 3rd July (state school). I’d check with school the plan for mocks/teaching finishing and probably let her go depending on what they say. What is her timetable usually like on a Friday? College is not usually exactly like school so may not have lessons every day.

Bobbybobbins · 28/01/2023 13:54

I'm a teacher and I'd probably let her go. I'd check when internal exams are first though.

Original poster
jackstini · 28/01/2023 14:03

She has got 100% attendance so far and doing ok - latest assessments were 3 Bs and a merit

Year 12, so not finishing early but good idea to check when the mocks are

Dh is a definite no, I'm half and half...

OP posts:
6ft1minimum · 28/01/2023 14:05

I'm another for saying let her go, it's a one off!

moomoogalicious · 28/01/2023 14:07

Jeez let her go!

Valhalla17 · 28/01/2023 14:07

Yabu!

BigMadAdrian · 28/01/2023 14:08

Bloody hell, it's one day off. I would let her go.

bearfood · 28/01/2023 14:08

I let my boy go last year. It's one day.

TheMoth · 28/01/2023 14:09

I still regret not going to Glastonbury in yr12. My boyfriend and his mates were going to go through the fence. Can't even remember why I didn't go.

Things I did skive for:
Alton towers
The aftermaths of big weekend outs
An afternoon in the pub
Afternoons with my boyfriend
Friday afternoon

I feel the hypocrisy dripping from me, every time I have to have The Talk with 6th formers with poor attendance.

DaVariance · 28/01/2023 14:09

She won't get any work done being distracted by all her friends having the best time ever

123rd · 28/01/2023 14:09

I'd let her go

JarOfShapes · 28/01/2023 14:12

YABU. It’s one day.

BitOutOfPractice · 28/01/2023 14:12

I’m pretty hard core about school attendance but I would 100% let her go.

Evasmissingletter · 28/01/2023 14:12

It’s one day at the end of the school year and she is in 6 th form with good attendance and nearly 18. Pick your battles. Let her go .

mrsmarmalade12 · 28/01/2023 14:18

YABU. It's one day, she's nearly an adult and old enough to deal with the consequence of been a day behind on her work. At that stage of the year it's wind down anyway. Let the poor kid go, I'm surprised she even asked your permission.

whiteroseredrose · 28/01/2023 14:20

If she's otherwise reliable I'd let her go.

We let DS use his judgement by this stage.

LookinUp · 28/01/2023 14:21

If she’s generally a good kid and takes school seriously, and she won’t be missing any exams, I’d probably let her go.

MyWillyBrokeTheDogBowl · 28/01/2023 14:22

Let the poor girl go! She’s obviously got great attendance and is doing well, she’s almost and adult herself and you don’t want her packed off to uni or leaving home thinking she’s getting away from her controlling parents. It’s time to start loosening the strings and see her as a young woman with a full and exciting life to live.