To not let Dd go to wireless festival on a school day

[jackstini]

She's 17 in March so doing A levels
Festival is in London, we are in East Midlands area

5 of her friends (at same sixth form college) are going on Friday 7 July, which is a school day - so I've said no

Saturday is already sold out and they can't do Sunday

Dd is not happy "its literally one day Mum!!"

AIBU?

Let her go and make memories with her friends

Check the terms. My dd finished around the 2nd in year 12

Yes let her go

I let mine do similar with no ill effects, these sort if things are so important for them.

Having parented six formers in the pandemic too I'm even more sure she should go whilst she has the chance.

Let her go. One day off school isn't going to kill her. It's all about experiences when you're young. Yabu

With her attendance and predicted grades I would let her go. It’s one day but a gazillion brownie points for you.

I did a levels not long ago and those last few weeks were just informal revision sessions. I actually skived off a few days so I could revise at the library instead because I knew I’d get more done there. As long as she keeps up with her revision I see no issue

At this stage attendance no longer matters

Same conversation with my ds a few days ago My initial reaction was no but did change my mind when he showed me exams were well & truly finished and his timetable on Friday includes 2 free periods and PE so not enough to lose any sleep over.

I am thinking I should let her go now!

Persuading dh might be harder
He's quite black and white about rules

I’m an ex secondary teacher. I would let her go on the condition she collects catch up work from her teachers and actual does it.

Exactly this!

If she's doing well and working hard I'd let her go. There has to be a bit of give and take.

Aw let her go A Levels are hard enough as it is, and if she’s working hard as you say she is she deserves to have some fun!

Is she in a school 6th form or a college? Only our local FE college finishes at the end of June so it may be moot?
I'd let her go, assuming that you'd be ok with her going to a festival with her friends anyway that is!

If u was your 17 year old I would not have even asked do I say yeah let her go - it’s 1 day at end of term!

*I was

Let her go. You’ll get more mileage out of working with her and her feeling like an adult. Have an honest discussion about booze, drugs, not letting yourself become vulnerable and looking out for your mates.

YABU. It's one day. Or are you one of those people who's scared of all things London?

Let her go. She will have a wonderful time making memories and not being resentful when all her friends are attending.

YABU. 1 day off in July is fine. The experience is something she can never get back. At least she told you. I clearly remember playing hooky to attend feetivals. Anyone remember T4 party in the park. It was awesome!!!

I’m very black and white like your DH, but I’d still let her go - conditionally on her doing well in college (and with the threat of it being pulled if she does anything to warrant it).

I'd probably let her go, but I wouldn't be expecting Teachers to provide catch up work because of her decision to go to a festival.

I would say it's fine. Any exams are normally over by July evening for year 12

She's 17.

Loosen the apron strings a bit and let her go get some real life experience.

I'd let her go, she has a point that it is literally one day- and it sounds like she will have fun.
There is so much more to life that school work