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To not let Dd go to wireless festival on a school day

94 replies

jackstini · 28/01/2023 13:32

She's 17 in March so doing A levels
Festival is in London, we are in East Midlands area

5 of her friends (at same sixth form college) are going on Friday 7 July, which is a school day - so I've said no

Saturday is already sold out and they can't do Sunday

Dd is not happy "its literally one day Mum!!"

AIBU?

OP posts:
dizzydizzydizzy · 28/01/2023 16:24

If she goes without permission from the school and t they find out, DD will be in big trouble .

Marymary987 · 28/01/2023 16:27

Yes definitely let her go, life’s too short and it’s only one day.

RecordsTurning · 28/01/2023 16:28

Let her go, it’s one day and she’ll always remember it. Once my son was doing A levels, he decided things like this himself and did things like this occasionally.

Rockingcloggs · 28/01/2023 16:29

Mine would definitely be going! In fact, for one day, it wouldn't matter what time of year it was (providing it wasn't an exam day!) I'd be letting him go! This is a time in her life when she can enjoy herself, go places, experience life and all it entails - let her crack on!

Galarunner · 28/01/2023 16:32

dizzydizzydizzy · 28/01/2023 16:24

If she goes without permission from the school and t they find out, DD will be in big trouble .

Sixth form staff are incredibly busy, a student with very good attendance and attainment missing one day would probably not even result a phone call home. It was just go down as unauthorised absence.

Houselamp · 28/01/2023 16:33

dizzydizzydizzy · 28/01/2023 16:24

If she goes without permission from the school and t they find out, DD will be in big trouble .

Why would she be in 'big trouble'? Its one day, shes not skipping a week or an exam its just a friday- the college will not care.

skingraft · 28/01/2023 16:34

Let her go she’ll forever remember the festival all her friends went to except her

Killingmytime · 28/01/2023 16:34

Unless she has an exam let her go.
I’d skive anyway, and I was a goody goody Grin

Nat6999 · 28/01/2023 16:35

She is over 16, it should be up to her.

KittyCatChat · 28/01/2023 16:35

She will be 17. Not even sure she needs permission at that age.

ItsReallyOnlyMe · 28/01/2023 16:35

I would let her go. I haven't read all the replies but this is my take on it :

  1. If you don't let her go, this will be the one thing she remembers forever, and not in a good way.

  2. Private Schools will have generally broken up by then or at the very least will be winding down.

  3. Can you build some achievable 'bribe' into it, as a condition of going (so it will be easier for you to 'back down' now).

  4. She is 17 - very nearly an adult and you don't want her to go crazy when she achieved actual 'freedom' at university or wherever.

AuntyMabelandPippin · 28/01/2023 16:35

She will have done her exams, let her go.

MissWings · 28/01/2023 16:36

Christ I’m with your DD. Just let her go she’s 17, it’s ONE day. Good grief.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 28/01/2023 16:38

I wouldn’t think twice about it. I’d send her off with my blessing.

Bunnyannesummers · 28/01/2023 16:38

Let her go - life is for living!

Wtfhusband23 · 28/01/2023 16:43

Let her go!! Life is short and they've missed enough. She'll be an adult soon and things like this are great preparation, plus she's a great student.

Wtfhusband23 · 28/01/2023 16:43

Plus, next time she might not ask, and just go anyway.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 28/01/2023 16:45

She will either be off on study leave in the midst of her exams, or the exams will be over. So agree she can go, as long as she doesn't have exams that day.

AgentJohnson · 28/01/2023 16:52

She’s 17 and has 100% attendance up until now. I’d make it a condition that barring illness, it remains that way and I’d let her go, she’s nearly 18!

SallyWD · 28/01/2023 17:20

I'd let her go. Life isn't all about work and study. She's 17 - let her have some fun!

dizzydizzydizzy · 28/01/2023 17:35

@Galarunner @Houselamp some sixth formers in our school took a day off for
Some kind kind of event or day trip. The school found out and they were in trouble.

Inmyonesie · 28/01/2023 17:47

My 17yo is going on the Friday, as are about 20 from his school! I did suggest calling the school and making it a sanctioned school trip. Doubt they’ll go for it.

wwyd2021medicine · 28/01/2023 17:51

DD went and missed school - a good few years ago now
About half her year group did too

ExtraOnions · 28/01/2023 17:54

Practically an adult .. let her make her own decisions.

It’s not a prison camp you’re running ….

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 28/01/2023 18:07

dizzydizzydizzy · 28/01/2023 17:35

@Galarunner @Houselamp some sixth formers in our school took a day off for
Some kind kind of event or day trip. The school found out and they were in trouble.

It’s hardly a prisonable offence.