To not let Dd go to wireless festival on a school day

[jackstini]

She's 17 in March so doing A levels
Festival is in London, we are in East Midlands area

5 of her friends (at same sixth form college) are going on Friday 7 July, which is a school day - so I've said no

Saturday is already sold out and they can't do Sunday

Dd is not happy "its literally one day Mum!!"

AIBU?

I’d let her go. It’s literally one day.

Not sure I could stop mine .. and I wouldn’t try. It’s one day.

I'd let her go. She sounds like a good kid. It's the end of the week and if she's knackered, well she'll have the weekend to rest up.

Let her go.

One day in the grand scheme of things really isn’t a big deal for what sounds like a good student.

Experiences are more valuable than one day of school before the summer holidays at that age.

Buy the ticket and don't tell her - then you've got plenty of time to convince DH.

When my children were in sixth form I let them have a handful of days off for stuff, one was eighteen and an adult for all of year thirteen anyway. The only time the school contacted me I just sit it down and said they had an appointment. I've never come across anyone getting into trouble for the odd day, sometimes my children had discussed what they were doing with subject teachers anyway!

100% this.

Well it's pretty unanimous so have showed dh and will talk to Dd tomorrow (she's at work tonight)

Thanks all!

I would let her go. I remember being a teenager and there was nothing worse than being the only person not being allowed to go to something (for whatever reason). It’s just one day and a one off and I’m sure she’ll make such fun memories from the festival that she’ll be so thankful for you letting her go! Just make it clear she needs to be on top of all of her work etc and that it’s a one time thing.

I think she’ll remember the resentment forever if you stop her from going. I’d definitely let her. What’s the actual reason why not?

I'd let her go.

So what?

I'd let her go - I had three days off for a choir course at the same age, so I can't see much of an issue for one day for a festival!

If it was my dd I would let her go.

At 17, is it actually up to you if she goes or not?

I would let my DD go. Life is for living and memories. One day will make no difference to her grades, but will be something she will remember forever.

It's one day. I'd let her go. She can catch up after.

Wow at 17 I wouldn't have even thought it was a debate. Even in Y11 I'd have let mine as he is mega sensible and made sure he was always up to date with studying etc. At 17 I wouldn't expect him to have to ask other than he would always tell us what he is doing so we know where he is and we can ensure he gets there/home safely.

Oh I clearly need to learn to read, it's on a school day, not a school night, even so I would allow it. Especially if they rarely miss school/college.