Referring to sex as "intimacy" is just gross

[AdamRyan]

Noticed it on here a lot, usually from male posters tbh complaining about lack of "intimacy" in their marriage when they mean sex

Then just read an article in another thread where a prostitute says some of her clients "only want intimacy for 15 minutes " then they just want to talk

Its really getting on my wick. Sex and intimacy are not the same thing! Grrrr

Aibu?

As can ‘do the deed’ / ‘DTD’.

Intimacy, from Google.

EUPHEMISTIC
sexual intercourse.
SIMILAR:
sexual relations
sexual intercourse
sex
intercourse
lovemaking
act of love
carnal knowledge
sexual congress
congress
coition
coitus
copulation

that has just made me a bit sick in my mouth..

Interesting- my Google says
close familiarity or friendship.
"the intimacy between a husband and wife"
Similar:
closeness
togetherness
affinity
rapport
attachment
familiarity
confidentiality
close association
close relationship
close attachment
close friendship
friendliness
comradeship
companionship
amity
affection
mutual affection
warmth
warm feelings
understanding
fellow feeling
chumminess
palliness
mateyness

a cosy and private or relaxed atmosphere.
"the room had a peaceful sense of intimacy about it"

EUPHEMISTIC
sexual intercourse.

Luredbyapomegranate Imagine what it was like sleeping with it.

What's wrong with sex? It's not crude, gets to the point

I wonder if there has ever been a complaint from a bloke on here that didn't amount to "she doesn't fuck me enough"

Men seem shallow and idiotic as fuck

That's the difference - I don't feel 'horny' (ewwwwwwwwww we are not 19 year old males with all the sensitivity and subtlety of a breezeblock) without an emotional connection. For me it's not (as the abusive ex used to describe it and made me think it sounded like a dose of Thrush) an itch to scratch.

What about "when are we likely to fornicate again?"

I read that as being said by the witches in Macbeth!

The correct biological term is 'snuggle'.

When someone says they haven't been intimate I don't actually think of sex. I think straight away that there has been less love and affection. So no hugs, or talking or spending time together. Just say sex.

I always thought intimacy meant "everything but"
ie husband can't get it up but we're still intimate.
If it's a euphemism for sex itself then it can get in the bin along side making love & special cuddles (my minging ex) 🤮

But do these people who like to be intimate live in a “naice” area? 🫥

Sadly it is true. He used to use most of the above already mentioned but this really was exceptional even for him!

Really? He wouldn't have known that though.

Well im.assuming anything sexual.other than actual intercourse ?I was trying to work out how to word that😂

Just thought of another he used once- I just wanted a bit of comfort. Bleurrghh.
Well fucking go and buy yourself an electric blanket then!

There is nothing ‘eew’, immature, male of lacking in sensitivity or subtlety about feeling horny or admitting to feeling horny.

You don’t get to attempt to shame other women for their natural sexual urges because you have hang ups.

Whenever posters talk about having an "intimate" wedding, it makes it sound like an orgy.

‘Making love’ really makes me cringe. It’s just awful.

But last week, a poster on here said her husband wanted ‘a bit of the other’ and I’ve only just stopped squirming.

Everyone knows it's the no pants dance

I didn’t, but now I do.

Around here it's known as 'a bit of how's your father.' 😁

Agreed. It’s awful - and ‘making love’ just sounds so twee. Sex and twee do not go together! The worst though, was a friend of mine who once described sex with her DH as ‘naughties’…yuck.

I read a book recently that called the protagonist's vagina her "sex".

That made me cringe.

It's all about the riding here.