I was just reading about Paris Hilton and obviously i don’t know the full story but it seems like she just used a surrogate because her friends do for convenience.
obviously if you have no choice I completely understand but if it’s just because pregnancy is hard I think it’s a bit wrong taking a newborn baby away from the only person they’ve known for 9 months
especially as pregnancy itself prepares you to care for a newborn and changes your brain for that purpose.
am I just being very judgmental
AIBU?
Unpopular opinion but surrogacy as a choice is a bit gross?
Janedoe95 · 25/01/2023 19:38
Am I being unreasonable?
705 votes. Final results.
POLLVestaTilley · 25/01/2023 19:41
YANBU at all, and as surrogacy goes more mainstream we’re going to see more women waking up to what a horrific practice it is.
It’s human trafficking. It shouldn’t be legal. Buying a baby off its mother, commodifying human lives and pregnancy, treating women like vessels, ignoring the often awful impact of pregnancy and birth on mothers, the damage of taking a baby away from its mother - the list is endless.
It should be illegal in every country. It’s the height of misogyny and is no good for women or children.
TheOriginalEmu · 25/01/2023 19:42
No one is forcing anyone to be a surrogate though are they? If a woman chooses to do it, who are we to say she shouldn’t?
i find it interesting you think it’s ok to ‘take a child away from the only person they’ve known for 9 months’ if your reason for surrogate use is infertility of some kind. Why is that any different? It’s either ok to do that or it isn’t.
BillyBobsFringe · 25/01/2023 19:41
Of course it's gross. Especially when it's paid surrogacy.
It's the rich paying for the use of the bodies of the poor.
TheOriginalEmu · 25/01/2023 19:42
No one is forcing anyone to be a surrogate though are they? If a woman chooses to do it, who are we to say she shouldn’t?
i find it interesting you think it’s ok to ‘take a child away from the only person they’ve known for 9 months’ if your reason for surrogate use is infertility of some kind. Why is that any different? It’s either ok to do that or it isn’t.
Tandora · 25/01/2023 19:43
OP, you’re not being judgmental. This is judgemental.
VestaTilley · 25/01/2023 19:41
YANBU at all, and as surrogacy goes more mainstream we’re going to see more women waking up to what a horrific practice it is.
It’s human trafficking. It shouldn’t be legal. Buying a baby off its mother, commodifying human lives and pregnancy, treating women like vessels, ignoring the often awful impact of pregnancy and birth on mothers, the damage of taking a baby away from its mother - the list is endless.
It should be illegal in every country. It’s the height of misogyny and is no good for women or children.
TheOriginalEmu · 25/01/2023 19:42
No one is forcing anyone to be a surrogate though are they? If a woman chooses to do it, who are we to say she shouldn’t?
i find it interesting you think it’s ok to ‘take a child away from the only person they’ve known for 9 months’ if your reason for surrogate use is infertility of some kind. Why is that any different? It’s either ok to do that or it isn’t.
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