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to not know if this offensive?

315 replies

Catnary · 17/01/2023 22:49

Colleague in canteen queue today, I comment that the food looks tasty. She makes a face, points to the label and says “Yeah but look, I’m not eating that!”

Label says “Halal beef casserole”.

I say “but it’s just a different way of slaughtering the cow”

”Yeah I know, that’s what I mean, it’s SO cruel. I can’t have that on my conscience.”

This was all very loud and other people overheard. Neither colleague nor I are Muslim but many other colleagues are. I felt very uncomfortable, didn’t engage, and ordered the beef.

Is this just no different to a vegetarian declaring loudly that they couldn’t possibly be so cruel as to eat meat, or is it a slur on Muslims? It felt inappropriate, especially at work.

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Grapewrath · 18/01/2023 07:18

Not offensive- it’s like a vegetarian saying they don’t agree with animal slaughter practices in general. Tbh no method is without cruelty so if your colleague finds it cruel she should probably stop eating meat altogether, but that’s another debate

veggiegirl9 · 18/01/2023 07:21

Yep I am offended by this particular killing method but I am okay with this one as long as I can eat my meat haha

Ponoka7 · 18/01/2023 07:21

Catnary · 17/01/2023 23:07

I think I also read that most schools now serve halal meat as standard, most non-Muslims have no issue with that. And non-Muslims eat halal every time they go for a curry!

There were wide spread complaints when the government considered all LEA's to move towards Halal only. Because of the protesting, plans were changed. The same happened when contracts for hospital catering were considered.
We all have the right to be against parts of a religion, that doesn't make us phobic. Wanting the right to choose re pregnancy doesn't make a person anti catholic. There's parts of Islam that I'll never agree with, that doesn't make me islamaphobic, or anti Muslim.

Catnary · 18/01/2023 07:22

ToughLoveLDN · 18/01/2023 06:47

@Catnary you do realise not all Asians are Muslims and therefore no all curry’s use halal meat?

Most curry houses are Bangladeshi.

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Quinoawoman · 18/01/2023 07:22

QuinkWashable · 18/01/2023 07:01

Stop eating meat if you really care about animal welfare and get off your high horse about which slaughtering method is the best, they are all bad.

What a callous way to think about it. Of course some ways of killing animals are better than others. Quickly, without fear is better than slowly, hearing other animals crying.

Do you think that all death is bad so it makes no difference for a pet to die slowly in pain rather than be put to sleep?

Why would the motivation for the death make a difference to whether the animal should suffer excess pain?

A pet being put to sleep is obviously different to slaughtering an animal for food.

If an owner chooses to out their pet to sleep, the animal is probably dying anyway so the choice is between a slow, painful death and a quick, peaceful one - but death is happening anyway. It is usually decided in the best interests of the animal.

Don't try to pretend that it's in the best interests of a young, fit animal to be slaughtered for food. Many meat eaters try to kid themselves that somehow animals want to be eaten or that it is their destiny. Complete cognitive dissonance.

TodayInahurry · 18/01/2023 07:24

Whoever said this is correct halal is cruel and should not be allowed in the UK. An MP campaigned to ban it and was murdered, intimidation at it’s worst.

silverclock222 · 18/01/2023 07:26

Catnary · 18/01/2023 07:22

Most curry houses are Bangladeshi.

In the interests of offensive quotes, that quote is possibly more offensive than your colleagues? So why can you have an opinion and not her?

Catnary · 18/01/2023 07:28

silverclock222 · 18/01/2023 07:26

In the interests of offensive quotes, that quote is possibly more offensive than your colleagues? So why can you have an opinion and not her?

What? How is that offensive?

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Quinoawoman · 18/01/2023 07:29

silverclock222 · 18/01/2023 07:26

In the interests of offensive quotes, that quote is possibly more offensive than your colleagues? So why can you have an opinion and not her?

Because there's a difference between an objective fact and a value statement?

to not know if this offensive?
Wombat8 · 18/01/2023 07:30

Kanaloa · 17/01/2023 23:12

I think it’s a bit rich to be queuing up to eat meat then loudly denigrate other people for eating meat that was killed ‘cruelly.’ If you’re happy for animals to be killed for you to eat I don’t think you can really take the high ground if I’m honest.

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WeWillLookBack · 18/01/2023 07:31

Halal meat is cruel. The British Veterinary Ass. do not support it. There is no perfect solution to food production - whether meat or vegetarian options but we should always be looking for the best solutions. It is not offensive to say that.

'EU and UK legislation requires that all livestock is stunned before slaughter to render them insensible to pain at the time of killing. However, the law also allows an exemption for animals slaughtered in accordance with religious rites. Every year millions of animals are slaughtered without pre-stunning, compromising their welfare'.

www.bva.co.uk/take-action/welfare-at-slaughter-campaign/

Ponoka7 · 18/01/2023 07:36

Wombat8 · 18/01/2023 07:30

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So what conditions we keep animals in wasn't worth campaigning for? We should go back to the long distance transportation of live animals? There should be no farm animal welfare legalisation? Free range etc doesn't matter?

Againstmachine · 18/01/2023 07:37

Of course all halal meat should be labelled as such so people have a choice.

An easy way to avoid of you are that against it but still wish to eat meat is to eat pork products.

sHREDDIES19 · 18/01/2023 07:38

We should be able to challenge something we don’t agree with even if there may be other aspects of our lives where we don’t always do the right thing. For example, I do think a meat eater is fine to challenge halal practices and I’m a vegetarian. You have to start somewhere on a journey and all these calls of hypocrisy are weird.

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 18/01/2023 07:41

Milkand2sugarsplease · 17/01/2023 23:04

A lot of meat is halal now, including restaurants and supermarkets. The majority is stunned before the halal practices and the prayer is played on repeat over a tannoy.

This is what happens at a slaughter house near me. The process is exactly the same as for non halal meat except for the prayer.

Sally090807 · 18/01/2023 07:45

It will soon come to a point where we will all walk around silent because just saying one sentence wrong is likely to offend someone, somewhow. My friend was being interviewed by 2 ladies yesterday and one mentioned there was a granny annexe, one of the ladies interviewing looked at the other and said “ I don’t think you can use that term now”. So I’m wondering how anyone would find that offensive.
What sad times we live in. 🥺

Bubblebubblebah · 18/01/2023 07:47

I fond it offensive how people are sooooo determined to do that "white saviour syndrom" thing tbh. So does my DH.
Nothing more insulting then when someone is explaining to you that you should be offended (happened to both of us. He is muslim, I am Eastern european). It's patronising.
You are so determined to see this as "slur on muslims" I don't know why you asked for other opinions. Unless of course you either wanted pat on a back or covertly start a bit of a muslim diss thread.
Dh says they have not insulted muslim, that they have a right to their opinion on the meat like he has a right to turn his nose up at pork including some very traditional foods in places (like mine lol).

FancyFanny · 18/01/2023 07:48

Not offensive.

Bubblebubblebah · 18/01/2023 07:49

LINABE · 18/01/2023 05:53

Yes this. Halal meat is now served in so many places in the UK by the back door and we don't even realise it. We should know before we eat if the meat is halal or not and then make our choice.
A well known high street Pizza chain serves halal for example. (I asked them)
I find it abhorrent that this has crept in the way that it has.
I thought I still lived in a predominantly christian country where the Animal is not slaughtered according to the muslim religion.
I would like to have a choice.

There should be sognx on door or a menu. Same like with everything imho

Bubblebubblebah · 18/01/2023 07:49

Signs

Bard6817 · 18/01/2023 07:58

Milkand2sugarsplease · 17/01/2023 23:04

A lot of meat is halal now, including restaurants and supermarkets. The majority is stunned before the halal practices and the prayer is played on repeat over a tannoy.

Yup. This. Seen it first hand.

Not all halal ‘rules met’ meat is labelled as such. OP probably eats it every day unknowingly.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 18/01/2023 08:07

Catnary · 17/01/2023 23:07

I think I also read that most schools now serve halal meat as standard, most non-Muslims have no issue with that. And non-Muslims eat halal every time they go for a curry!

Most non Muslims are not aware and you only eat it every time you go for a curry if it’s a meat curry.

FlatWhiteExtraHot · 18/01/2023 08:10

Mamaneedsadrink · 18/01/2023 00:00

As a meateater myself, I feel anyone criticising a way of killing meat that eats meat themselves is a bit of a hypocrite. I also feel vegans are hypocrites who wear leather etc.

No vegan would wear leather.

totallyhadenoughofthisbs · 18/01/2023 08:13

Not offensive it's just fact.

People have different levels of what's acceptable. I'm not anti Muslim at all but I don't agree with the Halal way it's horrific.

Thighlengthboots · 18/01/2023 08:17

Plenty of people have negative opinions on circumcision and thats a religious practice too. Why is that ok and not the slaughter of animals? I think as long as you respect people's right to practice their religion and dont go around criticising their religion, its perfectly ok to have opinions on certain practices. Some religious people have negative opinions of other religions and that is their right too.

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