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to not know if this offensive?

315 replies

Catnary · 17/01/2023 22:49

Colleague in canteen queue today, I comment that the food looks tasty. She makes a face, points to the label and says “Yeah but look, I’m not eating that!”

Label says “Halal beef casserole”.

I say “but it’s just a different way of slaughtering the cow”

”Yeah I know, that’s what I mean, it’s SO cruel. I can’t have that on my conscience.”

This was all very loud and other people overheard. Neither colleague nor I are Muslim but many other colleagues are. I felt very uncomfortable, didn’t engage, and ordered the beef.

Is this just no different to a vegetarian declaring loudly that they couldn’t possibly be so cruel as to eat meat, or is it a slur on Muslims? It felt inappropriate, especially at work.

OP posts:
KinkyMom · 18/01/2023 05:06

I don't think it offensive but I would find her personality annoying as she sounds very self righteous and opinionated so I might be weary of her....

Judgyjudgy · 18/01/2023 05:14

Suzi888 · 18/01/2023 04:20

Of course it’s cruel, should be banned. If I wanted to express it then yes I would. It’s called freedom of speech.

Curious. What are you basing this on? Why is this so cruel and should be banned? What are you comparing this to? Do you eat meat? Wear leather shoes?

Ineedtosleep79 · 18/01/2023 05:22

Catnary · 18/01/2023 01:31

Hmm, she started by pointing out the sign to me in a way that suggested she thought I had missed it and she was doing me a favour by warning me, followed by the loud performative “oh no I couldn’t POSSIBLY have that on my conscience”. Come to think of it, it was also rude to the catering staff.

Well she's just spitting straight facts tbf. Maybe she has more of a conscience than you 🤷

Fuck Halal meat.

DarkNecessities · 18/01/2023 05:53

DeFacto · 18/01/2023 02:33

Guaranteed she will be off to her local Indian restaurant for her chicken bhuna with rice at the weekend.

It’s not halal meat that irks her, it’s Muslims being catered for that pisses her off.

Let's be fair, her local 'Indian' wouldn't be halal or Muslim run. If it was 'Indian' it would be Hindu or Sikh.

What you perceive to be 'Indian' is most likely Bangladesh which is more aligned to Pakistan than India, most curry houses in the UK are Bangladeshi. Who are more Pakistani than Indian.

we frequently use 4 Indian restaurants and they’re all run by Muslims

LINABE · 18/01/2023 05:53

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Yes this. Halal meat is now served in so many places in the UK by the back door and we don't even realise it. We should know before we eat if the meat is halal or not and then make our choice.
A well known high street Pizza chain serves halal for example. (I asked them)
I find it abhorrent that this has crept in the way that it has.
I thought I still lived in a predominantly christian country where the Animal is not slaughtered according to the muslim religion.
I would like to have a choice.

DarkNecessities · 18/01/2023 05:58

LINABE · 18/01/2023 05:53

Yes this. Halal meat is now served in so many places in the UK by the back door and we don't even realise it. We should know before we eat if the meat is halal or not and then make our choice.
A well known high street Pizza chain serves halal for example. (I asked them)
I find it abhorrent that this has crept in the way that it has.
I thought I still lived in a predominantly christian country where the Animal is not slaughtered according to the muslim religion.
I would like to have a choice.

Yes, pizza express serves halal chicken but non of their dishes are halal which makes me wonder what they’re trying to achieve here.

Simonjt · 18/01/2023 06:01

DeFacto · 18/01/2023 01:53

@Catnary, that seems fair enough-ish.

I used to run a catering company. All meat was organic or free-range, so wouldn't have been halal. I couldn't do Kosher either because I couldn't provide the religiously correct separation of various food-stuffs.

Essentially, people who required certain religious requirements around food would never have come to me.

I think in mass-catering situations religion shouldn't be a concern. The vegetarian option is there for people who wish to believe that God cares about what they eat.

I’m not sure why you think organic/free range meat can’t be halal.

DarkNecessities · 18/01/2023 06:05

In answer to your post OP I don’t think she was being offensive towards Muslims.

Some people feel the same about other meats such as veal. Or don’t like the potentially dodgy content of burgers or sausages

Quinoawoman · 18/01/2023 06:09

Personally I don't think a humane way to slaughter an animal exists. I find it very odd when people who eat meat try to impose morality on the different levels of cruelty involved in slaughter or animal farming. You can't be an animal lover and eat them - it's just cognitive dissonance.

HandsOffMyCarrierBags · 18/01/2023 06:14

It’s perfectly reasonable for her to hold an opinion and make menu choices based on how the animals were killed. She thinks it’s cruel, possibly she’s muddling halal with Khoser

Babyclb · 18/01/2023 06:17

It’s not anti Muslim, I know vets who eat meat but will not eat halal due to the practice being particularly cruel.

QuinkWashable · 18/01/2023 06:21

I think even if it wasn't about cruelty (and obviously there are differences in cruelty of slaughter - although I don't know enough, and I'm sure there's plenty of places where regs aren't followed anyway) - I wouldn't want to eat meat that had been intentionally slow-killed vs. killed quickly, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that, nor do I think it's moralising to say it.

But also, if I were religious, I can see that I might not want to eat food blessed for another religion - I can see that that could be offensive.

Testingprof · 18/01/2023 06:34

Babyclb · 18/01/2023 06:17

It’s not anti Muslim, I know vets who eat meat but will not eat halal due to the practice being particularly cruel.

Do they also refuse to eat kosher meat?

youshouldnthaveasked · 18/01/2023 06:39

It’s not offensive. She can have an opinion on how meat is slaughtered. Is she generally very outspoken?

FamilyFunAdventure · 18/01/2023 06:40

My response would have been that all meat comes from a slaughter, no method is particularly pleasant and if it upsets her that much become vegetarian.

ToughLoveLDN · 18/01/2023 06:47

Catnary · 17/01/2023 23:07

I think I also read that most schools now serve halal meat as standard, most non-Muslims have no issue with that. And non-Muslims eat halal every time they go for a curry!

@Catnary you do realise not all Asians are Muslims and therefore no all curry’s use halal meat?

LlynTegid · 18/01/2023 06:50

You were given the information to make a choice, which is good in my opinion.

veggiegirl9 · 18/01/2023 06:51

This is from the RSPCA website (to make sure the right information is being passed on)

Around 95% of animals slaughtered in the UK for Halal are stunned first.
All animals slaughtered under the Shechita (for Kosher) are non-stunned.

Source: www.rspca.org.uk/getinvolved/campaign/slaughter

Stop eating meat if you really care about animal welfare and get off your high horse about which slaughtering method is the best, they are all bad.

Theunamedcat · 18/01/2023 07:00

Simonjt · 18/01/2023 06:01

I’m not sure why you think organic/free range meat can’t be halal.

She means not marked halal

QuinkWashable · 18/01/2023 07:01

Stop eating meat if you really care about animal welfare and get off your high horse about which slaughtering method is the best, they are all bad.

What a callous way to think about it. Of course some ways of killing animals are better than others. Quickly, without fear is better than slowly, hearing other animals crying.

Do you think that all death is bad so it makes no difference for a pet to die slowly in pain rather than be put to sleep?

Why would the motivation for the death make a difference to whether the animal should suffer excess pain?

MensisIanuarius · 18/01/2023 07:07

If a place wants to offer halal meat, they should do it as an extra, not just make it the default for everyone. I don't want to eat it, don't care if anyone else is, but it kind of annoys me that mine are the principles thrown out the window.

DarkNecessities · 18/01/2023 07:11

MensisIanuarius · 18/01/2023 07:07

If a place wants to offer halal meat, they should do it as an extra, not just make it the default for everyone. I don't want to eat it, don't care if anyone else is, but it kind of annoys me that mine are the principles thrown out the window.

What about the principles of the restaurant?

DarkNecessities · 18/01/2023 07:13

…… there will also always be a vegetarian option anyway!

Againstmachine · 18/01/2023 07:15

It doesn't bother me that much, but pretending questioning religious/cultural practices is offensive is a thin line where do you stop, do we not question what certain religions and cultures do to women like FGM in case it offends people after all it's part of the culture.

veggiegirl9 · 18/01/2023 07:17

@QuinkWashable Whooooosh~~~~

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