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to not know if this offensive?

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Catnary · 17/01/2023 22:49

Colleague in canteen queue today, I comment that the food looks tasty. She makes a face, points to the label and says “Yeah but look, I’m not eating that!”

Label says “Halal beef casserole”.

I say “but it’s just a different way of slaughtering the cow”

”Yeah I know, that’s what I mean, it’s SO cruel. I can’t have that on my conscience.”

This was all very loud and other people overheard. Neither colleague nor I are Muslim but many other colleagues are. I felt very uncomfortable, didn’t engage, and ordered the beef.

Is this just no different to a vegetarian declaring loudly that they couldn’t possibly be so cruel as to eat meat, or is it a slur on Muslims? It felt inappropriate, especially at work.

OP posts:
SallyWD · 18/01/2023 12:23

Also just read that there are strict rules for how animals are raised for halal meat. They are to live a "pure and natural" life, roaming freely and eating a vegetarian diet (as they would naturally). They can't be given antibiotics and growth hormones. They must be treated humanely.
So all those who are saying how cruel it is may well be tucking in to the factory farmed meat - animals who were cooped up in small enclosures, pumped full of growth hormones and antibiotics because they were so sick throughout their lives.
As long as the halal animals are stunned before being killed (and most are in the UK) then I think halal meat sounds a lot LESS cruel than our regular meat!

Emotionalsupportviper · 18/01/2023 12:26

SchoolTripDrama · 18/01/2023 11:49

You do realise that if livestock wasn't killed for meat that the planet would be utterly & completely overrun with cattle, pigs & sheep?! It would be like an apocalypse

Rather than being over-run with people, you mean?

Anyway, it wouldn't. Humankind controls the breeding of livestock. If no-one ate them, they wouldn't be bred.

Prior to white people colonising North America, the buffalo filled the plains for miles - huge hers with thousands of animals. This didn't upset the ecological balance. It was part of it.

It is humankind's interference in the delicate balance of nature and the prey/predator equilibrium which causes problems.

Eyerollcentral · 18/01/2023 12:27

LINABE · 18/01/2023 12:19

Yawn. There's a clear difference between doing something because you have to be seen to be doing something rather than doing something because there is a problem.

There was a problem though. People were being called all sorts of things very commonly in the workplace, being made the butt of jokes and treated as less capable. Just because it wasn’t said to you doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. I do agree with you in one way though, people should say what they mean instead of parroting what they think the right answer is, that’s how you work out who to avoid due to their abhorrent views. Must be time for you to get back to putting your head in the sand.

SherbetDips · 18/01/2023 12:29

It’s not offensive, its her opinion and one she is allowed to have. I won’t eat halal meat because of how it’s slaughtered. British farming standards stun the animal before its death.

halal slits the animals throat and lets it beed out in agony. …

OneTC · 18/01/2023 12:29

LINABE · 18/01/2023 12:05

This^ Also with regards to Kosher meat, I don't see that being shoved down my throat without having a choice whether to eat it or not and strict rules govern its production. (Beth din seal, OU-DE no milk derivatives or OU-Glatt the product is Kosher meat ) and it is shown on the product so you can make a CHOICE whether to buy it or not.

Up thread we have ridiculous titles such as 'An inclusion representative' (or something) in the workplace. Seriously?? It would be funny if it wasn't so ridiculous and ominous as I see it as a form of control on how we express ourselves. The work place is full of such titles and It is an example of just how far the country has sunk with regards to free speech/voicing an opinion. Every company has to have these diversity people in order to keep their ESG score to attract investment. Do you think the company really care if they are inclusive or not? It's an absolute load of bollocks.

What amazes me is that people just don't see it, or they do but are too scared to stand up for what they know is right and need to keep their job etc. so have to go along with it. (It's like the Emperors new clothes!)

We used to be able to express our views and debate openly. Not anymore. You'll get done for 'not being inclusive' or whatever 'ism' crime you have committed.

The country has changed beyond all measure in the last 20 or so years. We are certainly not 'free' anymore. It's turning, slowly but surely, into a communist, robotic state.

Crikey

Headabovetheparakeet · 18/01/2023 12:32

CarolDunne · 17/01/2023 22:57

Halal slaughter is horrific

Have you been to any non- Halal slaughterhouses? I have, they are all horrific.

Emotionalsupportviper · 18/01/2023 12:34

I think all animals we proiduce for food suffer greatly during their lives and deaths so those non-halal meat eaters should probably get off their high horses.

I agree @SallyWD - and I also think that the huge slaughterhouses that we now have lend themselves to cruelty (perhaps not deliberate, but hidden cameras show that there is a lot of gratuitous brutality in slaughterhouses). Perhaps propel who have to harden themselves to this horrible job can only carry it out by convincing themselves that animals have no feelings - physical or emotional. It is an extermination camp mentality.

As Isaac Bashevis Singer said - "For the animals, it is eternal Treblinka".

Mark19735 · 18/01/2023 12:34

When the racists get called out for their racism, to them it feels like oppression.

The colleague was almost certainly racist. The only element of doubt would be if they were genuinely misinformed and mistakenly believed that halal = cruel and not halal = humane. That's clearly not true, but there is a very slight chance that the colleague was merely misinformed and did not therefore have any ill intentions in respect of racism or cultural insensitivity.

But them's your choices. Racist or Stupid. Take your pick.

(Oh, and also - the colleague is clearly not in a minority, either. This thread is evidence enough that both racism and stupidity are fairly commonplace and widespread)

RoseslnTheHospital · 18/01/2023 12:35

SherbetDips · 18/01/2023 12:29

It’s not offensive, its her opinion and one she is allowed to have. I won’t eat halal meat because of how it’s slaughtered. British farming standards stun the animal before its death.

halal slits the animals throat and lets it beed out in agony. …

No. It's been said repeatedly on this thread that 95% of all halal meat is from animals that are stunned before slaughter. Exactly as all the other animals are slaughtered. Halal meat from mainstream suppliers will be in this category.

SherbetDips · 18/01/2023 12:36

@RoseslnTheHospital Fair enough. Still will avoid jusr in case.

RoseslnTheHospital · 18/01/2023 12:37

This colleague is allowed her opinion and other people are allowed to find that it's based on racist stupidity and find that unnecessary in the workplace. Or perhaps just ignorance leading to ignorant racism as opposed to deliberately hateful racism.

Emotionalsupportviper · 18/01/2023 12:38

RoseslnTheHospital · 18/01/2023 12:35

No. It's been said repeatedly on this thread that 95% of all halal meat is from animals that are stunned before slaughter. Exactly as all the other animals are slaughtered. Halal meat from mainstream suppliers will be in this category.

I admit I didn't realise this, but now that I do thanks to a previous poster, I don't regard Halal meat as being more cruelly produced than non-Halal.

Lost123454 · 18/01/2023 12:38

Are people not allowed an opinion?

Headabovetheparakeet · 18/01/2023 12:39

Mark19735 · 18/01/2023 10:44

Isn't it funny how this thread divides into those who want to discuss animal welfare (who think the racism angle is infringing on their right to prioritise the issue that they care about more), and those who interpreted the OP post as being about racism (who may or may not also have a view on animal welfare, but who fundamentally prioritise the racism angle).

The choice people exercise to frame this one way or the other is very revealing - it really reveals their particular privilege.

I agree with this.

The anti-halal view is often just Islamaphobia dressed up as having

high food standards.

Unless this person is a vegan or only eats high welfare animal products then they're a hypocrite.

Emotionalsupportviper · 18/01/2023 12:39

Of course they are @Lost123454 , as long as it's the right one, it seems . . .

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 18/01/2023 12:41

I don't think it's offensive.....no different from a veggie saying "no I'm not eating that it's got meat in it"

DogsDryWineAndCheese · 18/01/2023 12:45

I’m offended that you’d be offended by her having her non-offensive (and completely correct!) opinion.
Life isn’t about being competitively offended - perhaps she was offended that the meat was halal?

5128gap · 18/01/2023 12:48

The problem with consuming animal products of any type is the huge amount of cognitive dissonance required by 'animal lovers' to participate in the cruelty and exploitation it requires.
Many people cope with this by comparing down.
The non halal eater likes to consider themselves less cruel than the halal eater, the vegetarian less cruel than the meat eater....when in truth unless a person is vegan in diet and lifestyle, they have simply chosen the place on the cruelty continuem they can live with (or be in denial about) so no one is in a position to be judging anyone else.

LadyKenya · 18/01/2023 12:49

Mark19735 · 18/01/2023 12:34

When the racists get called out for their racism, to them it feels like oppression.

The colleague was almost certainly racist. The only element of doubt would be if they were genuinely misinformed and mistakenly believed that halal = cruel and not halal = humane. That's clearly not true, but there is a very slight chance that the colleague was merely misinformed and did not therefore have any ill intentions in respect of racism or cultural insensitivity.

But them's your choices. Racist or Stupid. Take your pick.

(Oh, and also - the colleague is clearly not in a minority, either. This thread is evidence enough that both racism and stupidity are fairly commonplace and widespread)

This. I agree.

Simonjt · 18/01/2023 12:59

SherbetDips · 18/01/2023 12:29

It’s not offensive, its her opinion and one she is allowed to have. I won’t eat halal meat because of how it’s slaughtered. British farming standards stun the animal before its death.

halal slits the animals throat and lets it beed out in agony. …

Are you aware that 95% of animals halal slaughtered in the UK are slaughtered to the british standards?

RoseslnTheHospital · 18/01/2023 13:06

DogsDryWineAndCheese · 18/01/2023 12:45

I’m offended that you’d be offended by her having her non-offensive (and completely correct!) opinion.
Life isn’t about being competitively offended - perhaps she was offended that the meat was halal?

It's an incorrect opinion though. As has been repeatedly stated!

Mark19735 · 18/01/2023 13:11

The other big divide, apart from the "is this thread about animal welfare or is it about racism" one, is almost more of a grammatical one.

There are people asking and opining on whether particular actions or words are, in themselves, offensive. There can be no offence given unless there is someone else who takes offence. Offensiveness is a subjective measure of upset or hurt as experienced by an observer, recipient or third party - it bears absolutely no relationship to the intent or motives or morality of the person making the comment or taking the action.

Intent is only relevant if those actions require an exploration of legal culpability for giving offence, and having done so unknowingly or unintentionally will be treated more leniently than, say, persistent and vindictive harassment. But this exploration does not negate or mitigate or qualify the offense that is taken. It is entirely up to the offended party to describe, explain, quantify and complain about how those actions made them feel. A second strand of the legal perspective is to ask whether it was reasonable for the offended party to be as upset as they were, and that too provides a potential defence against any criminal charges. But the words and actions remain offensive, regardless whether they are also criminal. Not all instances of racism are unlawful. But they remain instances of racism nonetheless.

So for all you racists out there - no one care what your intentions are. It's not always about you. You are, and continue to be, recognised as racists. Own it. If it bothers you that people think this about you, change the way you talk and act. If it doesn't ... well that sort of proves our point, doesn't it?

DogsDryWineAndCheese · 18/01/2023 13:13

RoseslnTheHospital · 18/01/2023 13:06

It's an incorrect opinion though. As has been repeatedly stated!

Even if we were to pretend that 95% were stunned beforehand, that leaves 5% unstunned…
I stand by Halal being cruel. Further to that, I don’t require my meat to have a religious based end. Be it an Islamic one, a Christian one, a Hindu one etc etc. and neither do the majority of the country. The importance is to be as humane as possible.
I stand completely by it being cruel (even if only 5% were killed unstunned).

Nebula277 · 18/01/2023 13:18

The latest Food Standards Agency figures show an estimate of 24.5 million animals are slaughtered without pre-stunning in 2022:

22 million meat chickens (2.3% of total slaughtered)

2.5 million sheep (23% of total slaughtered)

20 thousand cattle (1% of total slaughtered)

saraclara · 18/01/2023 13:19

Also just read that there are strict rules for how animals are raised for halal meat. They are to live a "pure and natural" life, roaming freely and eating a vegetarian diet (as they would naturally). They can't be given antibiotics and growth hormones. They must be treated humanely.

That's really interesting @Sally090807 , and would certainly make me rethink my attitude towards buying halal meat. Do you have a link?