Bar three rows , he is perfect. Do I still get rid?

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Basically, as stated we've had three rows in three years.

1. He left me at a hotel on my

Own in temper because we were locked out and had to sleep in car. Silent treatment for a few days afterwards. Nobody's fault but manager.

1. He insisted we leave another hotel and weekend away after a row when I got cross that he let me sleep past dinner time . Therefore no food . I dozed off. He wasn't hungry so didn't bother . We had to

go home . He ignored me for a week.

3. He refused to provide the care he had previously offered, surrounding a serious operation when I pulled him up on being a dick to my child.Again, ignored me for days in end. Likes the silent treatment .

Otherwise he is fantastic.

Still good reasons to dump yes? I can never trust him not To let me down I'm thinking?

They’re signs of such major fuckwittage as to be unsurmountable.

I don’t buy he’s not a dick the rest of the time, these are just the worst.

He was horrible to your child on more than one occasion and you stayed with him?

He was a dick to your kid and that was last on your list?

Wtf.

I feel sorry for your child tbh.

The silent treatment is abuse. Do you really want to put up with that for the rest of your life.

My mother used to do it to us but I had not choice so had to put up with it. I certainly would not put up with it when I didn't have to.

You may have only had 3 rows, but they are very bad rows and his actions were awful in all 3 cases.

Still good reasons to dump yes? I can never trust him not To let me down I'm thinking?

Stop asking questions and start making decisions, that benefit your child if not yourself. You know the answer

Also, I cannot believe that he is fantastic in any way.

Well I'd consider one row a year to be pretty good going tbh so... no I wouldn't advise breaking up over this. However you sound like you're looking for an excuse so maybe you're not that into him?

There is nothing remotely perfect or even likable about this person. But then I guess that won't matter if he was a dick to your child, and you stayed anyway.

Fuck me OP, your bar for men and your self esteem are so low they’re underneath Hell.

He insisted we leave another hotel and weekend away after a row when I got cross that he let me sleep past dinner time . Therefore no food . I dozed off. He wasn't hungry so didn't bother . We had to go home . He ignored me for a week.

If I were you, I would have told him he could go home if he wanted to, I was going to stay for the full week.

The sulking and silent treatment would be a total deal-breaker for me. The first time it happened, I'd tell a partner to grow the fuck up and start talking and acting like a normal adult, or else get out. If there was a second time, that would definitely be the end.

The silent treatment is a form of abuse imo. My dh was raised in a household where they gave each they silent treatment. He did it to me a couple of times at the beginning of our relationship and I told him I'm not uncertain terms that if he did it one more time I'd break up with him because I wasn't prepared to tolerate it. He's never done it again. Have you spoken to him about it?

You seem to feel the only issue is these rows, but the fact that he behaved like a dick to your child is also a major red flag - especially when he sulked on being pulled up on it rather than acknowledging that he behaved badly.

Weren't you told you should leave him after the first hotel incident? That was a while ago but you're still with him and he's now bringing your child into your arguments.

You know this relationship isn't good.

Silent treatment is emotional abuse which he is clearly using to try and control and punish you. It's only been 3 years - stay with him longer and you'll see this kind of behaviour will get more frequent and you'll probably start to experience other controlling, manipulative behaviours from him too.

What does he do that’s ‘fantastic?’

Dump him, OP, for the many, many reasons these wise PPs have already said.
And what you can look forward to in another partner is possibly having someone who steps up when times are hard, who you can admire for being accountable, responsible and supportive when the shit hits the fan.

I promise you, it's so, so much better than what you have now, but as long as you're with this stroppy child, you're standing in your own way of finding an adult relationship.

So the side now about the fact he's a dick to your child's isn't worth a numbered bullet point because it doesn't matter as much as curing a weekend short?

Yes, dunno someone who's a dick to your kids

This is all on you. You're still with a man who is mean to your kid. You need to have a really hard look at yourself. And maybe consider putting your kid first, just once, maybe?

Yes! Basically you are his project manager, not his partner. If it doesn't go right it's clearly your fault.

Yes, get rid.

Sad it's taken you this long to even ask the question.

He lets you down, is passive aggressive to a huge degree and treats you with spite when things don't work out the way he wants. He's abusive and will only get worse with time as other posters have pointed out. I know because my husband started off like this and then escalated. I left him recently and I feel much better on my own. Good luck if you do the right thing and leave. I know how hard it is, but he is not a nice man and you and your child deserve better.

Otherwise he is fantastic.

Lol okay.

The woman who gave birth to me allowed her DP to be a dick to me. She is no longer in my life. Remember your son won't forget what you allow.

Just one of those examples is enough for me to say dump him