Wedding guest attire

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NC as I know my MIL is on here!

BIL is getting married in the summer. A little while away, I know, but I have a household full of teenage girls who are obsessing excitedly about what to wear.

Showed one of the dresses my 21yo DD said she liked for the wedding, and MIL said it was far too dressy, and next to the rest of us (who don't even know what we're wearing yet) she will stand out like a sore thumb.

I didn't really know what to say to that as I thought a wedding was about as dressy as you get!

I have been to a few weddings but my DDs haven't been to any since they were small so they don't have a comparison and I can't say I can remember what girls of that age wore at previous ones Ive been to!

I'll attach pictures of dresses similar to what she liked. She doesn't want anything particularly clingy as she is a bit weight conscious (probably due to comments from MIL)

If you saw a young girl wearing a dress similar to these at a wedding would you think she was too dressed up? And if so, what would you expect someone of that age to be dressed in?

I think they'd be fine for a wedding. You would just need to see how the leg split/cleavage looked on your DD and get it adjusted if too much. Especially OK if worn with a pashmina or little jacket/furry bolero thing of some sort for the ceremony. I have found there's a big variety in wedding attire. If you're worried, a tea/midi length dress tends to looks a bit more daytime and less evening wear. Something like this? www.selfridges.com/GB/en/cat/reiss-evvie-halterneck-woven-midi-dress_R03948369/?previewSize=8&cm_mmc=PLA--Google--WOMENS-_-REISS&POR=Y&gclid=Cj0KCQiAq5meBhCyARIsAJrtdr6_f4U5EFa9MJ1geQ9QRzjBXI_6nPOTtoS7lN-OY076LtXTct5P9mgaAlgrEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds#colour=Blue

Lovely…for the beach!!

come on people. Do better.

I'm not sure that article has particularly sound advice for weddings in the UK. I've never been to one where little black dresses were worn in the daytime. Perhaps I might have worn that to an evening reception only do.

I think a lot of US weddings are evening set with black tie evening dress and that's where your dds are getting this idea.

More people in the UK are having that type of wedding: usually a fancy hotel with late afternoon ceremony. With this type of dress code.

So it depends on the type of wedding being planned.

If it's traditional 1pm in a church and then a marquee then no.
If it's in a register office and then local pub then no.
If it's at the Savoy at 6pm then yes.

I’ve been to the reception. In Scotland it’s not uncommon to have daytime and evening guests.

The dresses in the OP are quite prom dress ish but I think young women could get away with them if worn with a jacket and as long as they were a different colour from the bridesmaid dresses.

I think you’re asking the wrong forum about teen/young fashion OP! Unless you want advice on which fascinator with which pashmina!

The poster is asking about an evening wedding, which is not the same as evening guests at a normal wedding.

No bare shoulders till after dinner!

Both dresses are gorgeous!
I don't know what kind of weddings some people go to but the ones I've attended are always over the top, in-fact these dresses aren't statement enough for guests😂

Just add a pashmina and it’s for apparently 😂

And OP, this is not for AIBU! You will not get any good replies here. Please post this in the fashion board.

AliasGrace "I’m in my 40s and find Phase Eight a bit frumpy!"

which brands do you fund not frumpy please?

Yes. You've essentially asked for advice from your collective MIL 😁

Agree that those dresses are “evening wear”. Sadly, I feel, we’ve lost the “art” of dressing for daytime formal occasions. Tell your daughter to think more like she’s attending Royal Ascot and use their dress code as a guideline, that will set her up perfectly for an appropriate wedding outfit, that she can get secondary use out of if she fancies a day at the races too!

Dresses and skirts should be of modest length defined as falling just above the knee or longer. Dresses and tops should have straps of one inch or greater. Strapless, off the shoulder, halter neck and spaghetti straps are not permitted. Dresses and tops with sheer straps and sleeves are also not permitted.

www.ascot.com/what-to-wear/royal-ascot/royal-enclosure/ladies

Exactly 😂😂

No she’s not?

or a wee furry jacket 🕺

Sorry I’m now just hear for more Hobbs suggestions!

Yes she was.
This is literally what you replied to.

“I think it’s American. There’s a lot of talk of evening weddings.
has anyone on here been to an evening wedding in the Uk?
I’ve never even heard of anyone having one or going to one let alone attending one myself.”

An evening wedding is a type of wedding, in the evening as the name would suggest and more formal. It’s not the same as evening guests invited along for the buffet of a normal wedding.

Thought you meant the OP. Start your own thread.

Have a look here!

goddiva.co.uk/blogs/fashion/most-high-in-demand-wedding-guest-dresses

I actually think the shape / style is fine for a wedding for someone young - but maybe a pattern to avoid bridesmaid comparisons.

Goddiva have an amazing selection.

I think it is the combination of length and fabric that makes them too formal. So if she likes the first one, then something like this is similar but the shorter length takes it out of the bridesmaid category

Chi Chi London are aimed at a younger target market than Hobbs, etc and do plenty of appropriate dresses that would appeal to a 21yo (says the 41yo 🤣)

www.chichiclothing.com/collections/wedding-guests

Silkfred have some lovely dresses for weddings