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To ask if you're depressed, would a lottery win cute your depression?

145 replies

Appalonia · 15/01/2023 20:04

Was thinking about this today and was thinking, yes it would go a long way towards solving it. For example, I could get effective, regular treatment for my chronic back pain, I could get sunshine, an excellent psychotherapist, a life coach, live where I wanted to, create a purpose for my life, stop worrying about the future, help others, not feel inadequate anymore. And just feel in control of my life.

Is it just as simple as that? Had a v dark weekend, where every little thing sends me into a spiral of sadness and hopelessness, and thought how much better I would feel if I just had some more choices in life and could escape how I feel,which money does give you?

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Appalonia · 15/01/2023 20:05

*cure, not cute, obvs!

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Namechange72638 · 15/01/2023 20:09

No.

simplefree · 15/01/2023 20:10

Money is nice but not a long term solution. Ask Harry.

AllOfThemWitches · 15/01/2023 20:11

Depends how depressed I am I think. I would be a lot happier without money worries though.

BigMadAdrian · 15/01/2023 20:12

Beyond a certain point money makes little difference.

namechange27352 · 15/01/2023 20:12

no, there is a streamer that my partner watches and hes making over 2m a year and hes unable to function at all

SomethingLessIdentifiable · 15/01/2023 20:12

Money won’t cure depression but it can go a huge way to alleviating the issues and stresses and strains that contribute towards it.

It still depends on the individual though. My mum could win 10 million tonight and she’d still be unhappy. Her overall state of mind is one of general dissatisfaction with her lot, yet her life is one that many people would give their right arm for.

Moomoola · 15/01/2023 20:12

I’d rather be depressed in a 5 star hotel in Bali than a run down council flat with damp and no heating.

Burgoo · 15/01/2023 20:13

It'd prob make things much more tolerable.
I'd go away most of the year, visit new places, see and experience new things.
Life wouldn't be a monotonous misery that never ends except in a miserable death.
Most depression tends to be circumstantial (not biological) which is why most anti depressants are no better than placebo for symptom control.

SomethingOriginal2 · 15/01/2023 20:14

It would make a huge difference. Buy a bungalow with a garden. Outside space and wildlife in my own personal space would make a world of difference.

I'd be able to employ a therapist.

the anxiety of always being worried about money.

I could be warm in my in house.

brillianthopefulness · 15/01/2023 20:15

Most of my worries and restrictions on things I want to do come down to money. I work incredibly hard in a job for very little pay. More money would help.

I'd like to be able to afford a tutor for my kids, to not stress about if I buy something, to book a holiday without worrying if we'll have money to spend when we get there.

But I don't think money = happiness. But it definitely can make your life easier.

PowerhouseOfTheCell · 15/01/2023 20:15

I mean I'd still be depressed, just depressed with some lovely new boobs in a massive mansion

Bagzzz · 15/01/2023 20:16

It would make a difference in some ways. I would feel secure financially. Part of my depression is linked to stuff that can’t be fixed so that’s not going away. Would be able to afford therapy and to work slightly less hours to fit in time wise.

However I’d definitely still have the issues.

VladmirsPoutine · 15/01/2023 20:16

Yes, I'm not depressed but I can categorically say having money has saved me enormous amounts of stress. I don't believe when people say 'money isn't everything'. Much like a PP said, I'd much rather be crying on a yacht in Cannes than a run down bedsit in the deadend of nowhere. Looking at say someone like Harry, it matters not a jot - there are still people with strained family relations but they don't get to hop on a private jet and go live in a mansion stateside, instead they might have to live in a cramped space with their tormentors because they've only got £1.35 till pay day and even when pay day arrives it will be circa £800.

CornishGem1975 · 15/01/2023 20:16

At the moment, yes, because most of my stress and sleepless nights is about money or lack of.

Needmorelego · 15/01/2023 20:17

Money can bring security. If I won enough to purchase a property outright the worry about rent and if the lease will be renewed each year will go away.
Actually it's not so much about the cost of rent (we can pay that just fine) - it's that lack of security.
Having a secure place to call home can take away a big part of worry so you could focus on other parts of life that you might have problems with.
So it certainly wouldn't cure - but it would help.

SnackyOnassis · 15/01/2023 20:17

I doubt the money alone would cure it, but it would remove a lot of the blockers that cause the depression - being able to be more flexible with work, pay off family mortgages so they could move closer or visit more often, allow us to indulge our hobbies more often, etc.
My depression is largely controlled with lovely antidepressants, but my doctor gave me some great advice at the time which was that the antidepressants will work if you want to stay on them forever, but in his experience, using the breathing room they give you to build a life that makes you happy is overall the better approach. I guess your lottery win gives you that breathing room too!

ManchesterGirl2 · 15/01/2023 20:17

Personally no, I am already fortunate to be financially okay.

My depression is more related to complicated grief about a horrible messy break-up, a lottery win would not cure that.

Looking at the replies, it clearly depends whether money is short.

CampervanKween · 15/01/2023 20:17

Yes because mine is SAD so I'd just move myself and everyone I love to the sun. Perhaps a lovely estate in the south of France with lots of gites for friends to come and stay whenever they wanted to.

TrappedOverseas · 15/01/2023 20:21

For me, yes definitely! I am trapped overseas in a miserable marriage with no family or friends around. Money would mean that I could leave him and return home. I would be able to fly back here regularly with the kids to visit, but essentially I would be living in the U.K. and would be so much happier.

Batterball · 15/01/2023 20:23

I think ultimately it would make me worse.
I know what my family are like so I’d have relatives crawling out of the woodwork for handouts.
And there’s not a lotto win that will fix what’s wrong with this world, with the injustices, racism, bullying, abuse, poverty, starvation etc.
And ultimately it’s how people treat each other, the bubbles we exist in that makes me feel hopeless and not want to be part of this world.

Testng123 · 15/01/2023 20:23

The risk would be using the almost unlimited money to buy coping 'aids'...I'm thinking of people who were depressed and turned to alcohol and drugs and it was a long downward spiral. The extra money just hurried it up.

If you use it to get proper help, maybe. It would also bring a lot of added stress though.

ToooOldForThis · 15/01/2023 20:23

I don't think it would cure clinical depression. But it would allow that person to access the best possible help.

For someone like me, who can have situational depression (is that the right term?) and anxiety, I think it would! Work worries gone, I could provide properly for my kids, support their education, look after my mum...

I think I might start buying tickets!

Lovecat · 15/01/2023 20:25

Definitely. Our house is falling apart and we can’t afford the repairs, it keeps me awake at night. With enough money we could get it fixed and not have to worry about it.

DD has a chronic stomach problem that the NHS seem to have given up on, we could go private and have it properly investigated.

Could also afford to employ a cleaner and a personal trainer, and DH could give up a job he hates that makes him miserable. All of this would remove many stressors from my life!

DimplesToadfoot · 15/01/2023 20:25

Yes! Because I'd be treating myself to a one way ticket to Dignitas. No I'm not suicidal, I'm just done living in pain day after day.