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To ask if you're depressed, would a lottery win cute your depression?

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Appalonia · 15/01/2023 20:04

Was thinking about this today and was thinking, yes it would go a long way towards solving it. For example, I could get effective, regular treatment for my chronic back pain, I could get sunshine, an excellent psychotherapist, a life coach, live where I wanted to, create a purpose for my life, stop worrying about the future, help others, not feel inadequate anymore. And just feel in control of my life.

Is it just as simple as that? Had a v dark weekend, where every little thing sends me into a spiral of sadness and hopelessness, and thought how much better I would feel if I just had some more choices in life and could escape how I feel,which money does give you?

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kindlyensure · 15/01/2023 22:54

So you seem to want more money in order to access 'choices' rather than basics like food and bills?

OK, but just because you have money doesn't mean finding help is any easier. You still have to research and contact the right people to help you, who are available and geographically reachable, who are reliable and helpful. That can be frustrating and quite exhausting!

The more extra people in your life you are paying a service for, the more you are organising other people and managing relationships.

Plus you can't just up and live somewhere else without a lot of organisation and form filling.

Plus if you won the lottery you'd probs feel that you ought to do something worthy and useful with your money (after you've paid for your own services). But what? You might spiral into some kind of angst-ridden existential guilt when you realise that you aren't doing enough for others with all your new wealth and actually it was easier when you couldn't do stuff rather than do everything and risk making the wrong choices...

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 15/01/2023 22:55

It would. My depression is health related and money wouldn't cure it, but would enable me to live in a lot less pain and I also wouldn't need to work anymore

IncyWincyGrownUp · 15/01/2023 22:57

It would give me fewer things to worry about, but money can’t fix faulty wiring.

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 15/01/2023 23:16

Plus if you won the lottery you'd probs feel that you ought to do something worthy and useful with your money

No, I wouldn't, being honest. I've worked all my adult life, paying taxes on my very modest wages; never claimed a penny back - I have done my bit. I'd leave what was left over on my death to charity, and I might increase the amounts I routinely donate to charities, but in my lifetime the money would be used primarily to enhance the meagre lives of me and my loved ones.

ChopSuey2 · 15/01/2023 23:23

It would help in the sense I could reduce stress by not having to work/being able to work part time. I could afford to pay someone to organise things I find overwhelming (repairs etc). I'd still be depressed but I'd have more bandwidth to cope with the depression.

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JamSandle · 15/01/2023 23:49

No. It would help practically and be life changing but it wouldn't absolve me of depression.

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middleager · 16/01/2023 00:27

Yes, because I could leave my job and pay off my mortgage and move house.

Onnabugeisha · 16/01/2023 00:39

No it would not. Money can’t cure disability and poor health….or my shortened life span.

pleasejustgotosleep · 16/01/2023 00:48

Yes I think it would for me. I'd buy a house and move me and my two kids off this estate. They would have a garden. We could go on holidays (I've never been able to save to take them anywhere) and I wouldn't have to constantly say no to buying them little things.
I'd be able to get them decent clothes without holes in them.
Not having anxiety about debt collectors knocking would be a great help.
I'd help my mum as I worry about her and her financial situation too.

It may not cure the loneliness and shit relationships with some people but it would definitely ease my depression I think

Sleeptightnightlight · 16/01/2023 00:53

I have been depressed back when I was very poor and depressed now I am comfortably off. The actual overwhelming feelings of depression are the same, but the difference to how those impact your life is huge. If you have money you can throw it at all the other problems and just focus on getting yourself well.

E.g When I was poor depression would stop me from cooking and i'd not eat or possibly afford some tiny bit of junk food, and the poor eating would then contribute to the depression. Now if I get too depressed to cook I just pay for a healthy meal, no automatic spiralling.

It's the same for everything. If insomnia kept me up, tough I'd still have to work, now I can take the day off and catch up on sleep.etc

Basically money equals a better chance of coping so my depression is shorter and easier to deal with instead of endlessly trapping me.

More money would mean things like being able to get a personal trainer to get physically fit. I worry a lot about giving my kids a good life too and that would be gone if I could afford to do anything.

Folkishgal · 16/01/2023 00:57

Absoloutley, we could live anywhere in the world, could hire a night nanny to deal with my daughter's constant wake ups. I could afford private healthcare, we could hire a cleaner, cook, personal trainer.

I think, as some pp have said, money absolutely helps. And yeah, I would rather have PND in a ski lodge in the swiss mountains sat next to a log fire with a hot chocolate, than where I live now.

babsanderson · 16/01/2023 01:10

A lottery win would help as I could buy in help. But it would not take away the grief I am going through.

Onnabugeisha · 16/01/2023 01:10

I think winning the lottery would actually make my depression worse tbh. Only thing keeping me here is fact my disability pension is necessary to the family income. If my DH and DCs didn’t need it, then I’d be free to be done.

stillvicarinatutu · 16/01/2023 01:12

Oh it would cure mine because my downer is about not having financial security. It absolutely would cure all my ills !

(So god , grandad , or anyone else up their - if your listening, please send me a decent win that buys me a house next time if it's not too much trouble!😊)

MistyGreenAndBlue · 16/01/2023 01:14

I'm going to come at this from the opposite perspective.

I've suffered from chronic painful disabilities, and money worries for various reasons throughout most of my adult life. Stressful at times - yes but I've never been depressed.

I have my bad days of course, I get fed up, angry, upset, stressed out and worried etc but generally I'm actually fairly happy despite it all. It doesn't get me down for long.

So I don't think, as others have said, that money has anything to do with it.

Would a lottery win help me out? Yes of course. It would be great and would lift a lot of burdens from me. Probably make me happier too. But if I were actually depressed, I doubt it would take that away. I think there must be more to it.

RiverSkater · 16/01/2023 01:16

Yes, I'd buy my partner a nearby property and have him move out.

DaVariance · 16/01/2023 01:16

Of course it would

You wouldn't have to worry about the mortgage and bills etc

Triflenot · 16/01/2023 01:22

No, a lottery win absolutely would not cure someone’s depression.
However, it would very much help someone get in control of their life, if they were on the right head space to plan it..

uncomfortablydumb53 · 16/01/2023 01:34

No
In the depths of my depression nothing makes any difference and I wouldn't even care I'd won the money

QueenSmartypants · 16/01/2023 02:20

Money doesn't buy happiness...but it helps.

For all the reasons you mentioned op.

And yes for clinical depression.

Again for the additional support and therapies, the removal of obstacles which contribute to the depression.

TianaTurban · 16/01/2023 02:22

namechange27352 · 15/01/2023 20:12

no, there is a streamer that my partner watches and hes making over 2m a year and hes unable to function at all

Is that the guy who builds crazy stuff? He's had to turn his channel over to his staff because he is so ill poor guy.

DdraigGoch · 16/01/2023 02:37

Depends what the cause is. If loneliness is the cause then money won't solve that - sure some people will seek out wealthy individuals to leech off hang around but they're not true friends and aren't people you can really trust, you'll still feel lonely.

namechange27352 · 16/01/2023 03:04

TianaTurban · 16/01/2023 02:22

Is that the guy who builds crazy stuff? He's had to turn his channel over to his staff because he is so ill poor guy.

no hes a WoW streamer but really not well, last year made over 20m last year lives in a run down house, unable to spend it and hardly ever goes out of the the house

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