... to not want a television in the sitting room?

[angelico53]

We live in a small modern house with a sitting room and a kitchen diner on the ground floor. We haven't had a television for donkeys' years, when we used to have a TV room in a bigger house.

Does your partner play? Do both of you have a music session playing the various instruments each night?

Is your downstairs room used as a music room, where you practice for the upcoming musical works you are involved with?

if not then it’s unreasonable to have hobby instruments taking up daily living space.

How big/sunny is the bay?

Could instruments safely go there?

Presumably the dog uses the bed so that needs to stay?

Yabu

DD and I live in a modern 3 bed terrace so probably similar to your home...she plays the guitar.

It is possible to make quite a nice feature of them on the wall...

Must it be a large television? You could get a small one that won't dominate the room.

What do you use your living room fo at the moment? On a typical day. Howv is it used?

YANBU. I wouldn't want a giant TV in a small room, unless I watched a lot of films. It always becomes the focus of the room. Plus adverts are the worst and you can generally avoid them on a laptop, and since you have to actively look for things to watch online, there's less hours wasted watching crap just because it's on.

Unforch! Excellent, that is going in my vocabulary from today. Along with Hidge (for hideous). While I’m here, how would you spell the shortened casual - caj? casch?

Get a projector instead. We have one, so massive screen but only there when we're watching it. Was a lot cheaper than a big TV too

Nobody needs 9 side tables. Not in a room that size.

A TV is not going block any views unless you are daft enough to actually hang it in the window.

YAbothBU.

Put the dog toy crate in the cupboard, and lose at least 1 doorstop unless the room actually has 2 doors that need stopping.

I'd much rather watch a television programme on an actual television than on a laptop screen so you're unreasonable to think it's ok to watch tv once it's on a smaller device that hasn't been specifically designed for watching but it's somehow vulgar to watch the same thing on a television.

As for the instruments, like a tv I'd mount them on a wall if they must be in the living area. But I'd think using your office as a music room as well makes more sense unless everyone in the household is happy with the idea of you striking up a tune at the drop of a hat.

It sounds like you don't actually like your partner that much if you call their viewing "bilge". So pretentious!

You either need an extra room or to compromise. Get some wireless headphones and use them on either the TV or the guitar amp (heresy I know, it'll ruin the timbre)

I expect I am a snob, to value some things above others and try to avoid rubbish and shite of all stripes.

So you're essentially saying 'Sorry not sorry. I am right to despise other people's preferences because I am correct, and they objectively are shite'? Rather than 'I don't share the same taste as other people'. It certainly does sound like pure snobbery. You surely can't possibly be suggesting that every single thing you could watch on a television (but somehow not on a laptop ) is shite?

You surely can't possibly be suggesting that every single thing you could watch on a television (but somehow not on a laptop Confused) is shite?

This. Exactly.

What a brain dead position to take

Am I reading right that you have an office? But the guitars can’t go there because of a huge desk? Smaller desk, guitars in the office, it’s now a music room. Sitting room reverts to being a sitting room, where it’s not outlandish to have a telly. Partner compromises on having a normal amount of tables.

As a side note, where you see guitars on a stand as things of beauty, to someone else they’re just dust magnets/triply-uppy floor clutter. Same way the TV is a portal of bilge to you.

How do you Netflix and chill without a TV? Laptop doesn’t really work for well when you know

Who makes these stupid rules?

Plus adverts are the worst and you can generally avoid them on a laptop, and since you have to actively look for things to watch online, there's less hours wasted watching crap just because it's on.

That's utter nonsense. If you watch ITV player on catch up you can't avoid the endless adverts regardless of what medium you use to watch it on.

We watch specific TV programmes, or more usually record them to watch later, especially anything on the comercial channels because we can then zap through the adverts.

Time to let them fly the nest! Oak burns really well

I'm sure some of your 7 guests will be happy to let their cups share a table. Possibly even all of your guests!

Thanks to everyone who responded to this.

I think that I was being unreasonable! My family have been very patient with my colonisation of the living room, but it's not fair. So we've ordered a whacking great telly and I'm going to love it. Well, certainly at 10.30 on Saturdy night! (For MN clarity, I will try to love everything, not just Match of the Day).

We have a tiny box room, not much more than 6' x 6', and we are changing that from an office to a sort of sitting room where I can have my music stuff. We started to talk about it and realised we could get a day bed in there, which will be brill for lots of reasons.

An interesting experience, this (AIBU, I mean). Refreshing, like a cold dive. Cheers, all.

Get a small TV hidden in a cupboard and keep the doors shut when its not on.

If you have a teeny Victorian living room and she’s banned guitars then she simply can’t have a giant TV 🤷‍♀️