Pudding or Dessert?

[TheShellBeach]

.........or even "Sweet" or "Afters"? What do you call it?
And what do you have, if anything?

Dessert defo sounds posher IMO

Nah.

This is from The Mirror’s guide on bluffing yourself into high society:

Pudding v Dessert
The final course of a dinner (and arguably the best one) is the pudding. Note, it is called the pudding, NOT 'dessert'. If you call your lemon posset with spun sugar basket a dessert when dining with the hoity toity, then you might as well prepare for a future dining at a Toby Carvery - where you can help yourself to the dessert buffet for the rest of eternity.

I know the tradition. 'Pudding' just reminds me of homely stodge like bread and butter pudding/sticky tofffe pud etc.

Growing up it was afters, I'm a bit posher now so it's pudding!! But usually ask for the dessert menu in a restaurant

Dessert defo sounds posher IMO

The working class used the same language as the upper class because they used basic no frills language. The U class use the same as they have nothing to prove and don’t need to show off or aspire to appear rich or posh as they just are quietly very rich. (Or wealthy as the non-u might say 😆).

Words like dessert, toilet, lounge, serviette we’re invented by the aspiring middle class who were trying to sound posh. Or what they thought was posh.

Old money upper class didn’t need a list of approved words, they just were the words they grew up with. That’s a bit different to someone trying to sound u by adopting a list.

Do Toby Carverys still exist?

Yum yum.

Pudding.

DH says dessert. He is posh, i am not. I think dessert sounds hyacinth bouquet.

Pudding for me.

According to this thread, dessert is unposh.

Pudding. I worked in a catering place where the pudding was referred to as hot sweet and cold sweet. Pudding strictly speaking means something which has been made; dessert means fruit.

In Downton Abbey, the Dowager Countess says, "it's a pity to miss such a good pudding" when referring to a Charlotte Russe.

Pudding

Pudding if hot dessert if cold

@thistimelastweek

What's wrong with toilet?

Dessert. Pudding has unpleasant connotations of being a big fat unintelligent lump to me, because where I’m from ‘pudding’ is an insult for someone. Unfortunately, I can’t really unhear the insult when someone asks if I want ‘pudding’.

According to this thread, dessert is unposh

Apparently so! I am thrilled that my much more humble beginnings have clearly shaped me as the refined adult i am.

DH is v posh and his mum (another "dessert" type is even more so. Generations of public school & old money obviously can't buy them class.

I like the word pudding because to me it sounds cosy!

I should add, my dad, not posh but from an aspiring lower middle class mother, was very much taught to use words like serviette etc, and when i was growing up would always call it a "sweet". I never knew anyone else who did where we lived so assumed it was a northern thing as he was northern.

Gogohmmm toilet is a nancy mitford non-u word, pretty much anything borrowed from french sounding root is. The point being why not simply call it the loo?

Pudding
Napkin
Sitting room
Loo

Pudding

Non-U.

British toffs would all have eaten pudding in the nursery or at boarding school.
Serviette makes me shudder.

Toilet is something you do (make your toilet), lavatory is somewhere you go. Bog will do