Pudding or Dessert?

[TheShellBeach]

.........or even "Sweet" or "Afters"? What do you call it?
And what do you have, if anything?

Pudding.

I think desert originally meant the fruit course.

@TheLeadbetterLife

maybe U really started as just an anti-Napoleonic trend, similar to that phase in the 90s and early 2000s, when posh kids adopted Estuary accents in an attempt to blend in?

Hmm… Interesting. Must look into it.

The people I know who make a point of it are very posh, and very vocal about which words are correct, which is far more Hyacinth Bucket than saying "dessert" or "serviette".

Agreed. But genuinely posh people would silently judge without being “vocal” about these things — because that would sound too “aspirational” and therefore a sign of not being so posh after all.

The cake smash.

Pudding.

It is the correct term. Don’t cringe secretly if you’ve been calling it dessert…

Stephen Fry calls it pudding FWIW.

Afters and Lavatory in our suburban London home. Looks like we were confused class wise.

Typical that it would fall to the cook to provide this, of course, in Miss Marple World.

Who else would do the cooking, if not the cook?

Although I must say that the main reason my grandmother was a terrible cook was that she'd always had a cook, as a child at home, and after she married. Whereas I think Miss Marple would have known how to make a boiled pudding just as well as her cook, because Miss Marple was, well, Miss Marple and glorious.

As a child we called it sweets. As in, what’s for sweets? Now I say dessert. Pudding is…. Pudding. Chocolate pudding, sticky date pudding, summer pudding. Normally a bread or flour based dish.

Pudding

Dessert is somewhat pretentious.

What does "non u" mean?

Whoever told you that sounds like a right twat.

If you need to ask, then you almost certainly are.

In the 1960s, one of my sisters came home and told my mum that the neighbours were having lunch for their dinner

Don’t worry, @DerekFaker . My U in-laws would be the first to tell you that anyone who cares isn’t worth bothering about. They also don’t care that I say ‘dessert’, on the grounds that a pudding is a type of dessert, but then I am foreign

The original question was interesting in a curious way, but it beggars belief that so many adults can use pejorative terms for vocabulary different from theirs and even the people who use it. The very definition of boring boors, IMO

I read that as "afters in the lavatory" which sounds grim.

Dessert or afters. Pudding is the word for a specific type of dessert. And woe betide anyone who calls it a 'sticky'.

My first MIL was also confused by this.

Butttt do you eat it with a napkin or a serviette???

Ooh. A napkin, of course.

A napkin,@potniatheron . But who knows, perhaps that is something else I picked up in America

Napkin if linen serviette if paper, that may just be us though.

Pudding

Whilst I can just about accept the P word, I could kill over D, S, or A. But in saying that I rarely eat it as I find that my dinner is enough for me.

Pudding - most of the time
Dessert - occasionally
Sweet - never now but think it was used when I was a child by my family
afters - never

Loo - most of the time
Toilet - occasionally
Lavatory - never

Napkin - most of the time
Serviette - very occasionally