I used to have a close relationship with my cousin growing up. both my cousin and me are only children so we saw each other as the closest thing to a sibling the other had. My aunt and family live in LA but my mum still made an effort to fly there twice a year.
He could not come to my wedding last year which I was fully understanding of as he had a wedding in Portugal earlier in September to attend (he was best man so I fully understand). His mother still came though there was some drama involved.
I recently got a wedding invite to his wedding. for context it was via email which is why I am torn. First of all my mum never got a invite. We are a close family and I know no matter how rocky the relationship my mum would not have forgiven me had I not invited my aunt. Luckily my DH already said that unless my mum's get a invite we will decline, which I fully agree with. My second reason is that the invite only says my name and guest. This feels so disrespectful as when we sent out our wedding invites we made an effort to enquire his now fiancée's name before they were even engaged. I want to give the benefit of the doubt that it was an automatic email from the wedding website but it spelled my name correctly so not sure why it would not say DH's name.
I would have a polite enough reason to decline as his wedding is actually the same as mine and DH's anniversary so for all they know we could already have plans.
Would I be over reacting if I declined once the separate paper rsvp arrive if DH's name is not on them? They are planning the wedding in Italy so there would be some travelling involved though a lot closer then Mexico which was the original plan.