Friend re-selling gift ?

[HunkieDorie]

Tell me if I am! Or maybe oversensitive?

I bought my friend's daughter a present for her birthday about 3 months ago and she is now selling it on Facebook to make money? I would rather have it back if she didn't like it so I could have it for my daughter. I am not angry just slightly a bit upset that she has thought so little of my gift?

I would say something - to let her know I had seen it. It's rude and grubby.

shes already made it awkward

I do the same (most our old baby stuff we've given to pregnant SIL) but I do recognise that whilst we're not rich, we are in a fortunate position where we don't need to consider reselling.

Yes they do. For many people, £3 will mean not having to have beans on toast for tea for the third night running, being able to get some milk and teabags, sticking a couple of extra quid on the gas, a desperately needed school shirt from the charity shop and so on. I know it's just a few £ but it is so important for so many people. What a rotten state of affairs...

@RobertaFirmino I do agree with that 100%

Could someone else have given it to her and she's selling the duplicate?

I think we can all accept that people can do what they want with gifts and we can expect that people might re-gift or sell or bin, but seeing it on facebook stings! Put it past you but dial back on gifts if it'll upset you again.

If her child has got bored of it/outgrown it then it's reasonable to trade it in for something else, rather than throw it away. - it wouldn't bother me. Would you be be offended if it was 6 months, a year, 2 years later she was selling it? Is it the time frame or just the fact she's selling it at all that's bothered you?

@monitor1 no she only got one she said

Fuck that, I would cancel the order and not send her a penny. The baby hat will always be a reminder of her CF 'friend'. What kind of person tries to extort money out of a new mum? She can sell the set on ebay if it will make her more money.

*etsy

She may have been given two. Maybe she’s kept yours?

Whilst I agree that it's now her property and she can do what she wants with it, I think it's a bit crass/ inconsiderate to list on Facebook. Sale listings often get pushed into friends' feeds, so there's a high chance they'll see it. Better to sell through an anonymous platform like Ebay or Vinted. She gets a bit of cash and declutters, you're none the wiser. Everyone's happy.

Awkward but I wouldn’t take it personally.
Kids birthdays often generate a lot of unwanted space-fillers. You might value the person but hate the clutter. Just give tiny sized gift or small amount cash or a book voucher next time.

Maybe it’s a duplicate or she’s desperate. That said if I’m re-selling gifts I always use Depop or Vinted or eBay. Doing it on FB where the gifter can see it is a bit daft of her! 🙈

Doubt it’s been done in a spiteful ungrateful way , just probably got so much stuff and forgotten whos got what!
could be they already have similar or perhaps family got the same thing? Is that possible? I wouldn’t think too much into it.
but I do understand your upset,

just let it go and don’t bother with giving gifts in the future